Fifty Shades of Grey

P.S. I'm still curious to know if a dominant man can respect, cherish and adore the woman he dominates and must punish at times. Or, does he dominate the women out of hatred and disrespect. Originally Posted by ForbiddenFriend1

This thread has caused some reflection on my part and I can think of a handful of providers who have requested mild dominance from me. In each instance I respected and liked the provider and my response was not to hurt or humiliate her, but rather to cater to her specific desire to be submissive and feel dominated. Quite frankly, I was a bit flummoxed and clumsy in my responses, but I think I will do better in the future.

This may be obvious but it needs to be said. Submissive behavior is voluntary and ends when a lady's limits have been met. That's why you have safe words that signal that playtime is over. It is a fantasy. That's why they S & M encounters are called "scenes". It is also gives the dominant male a license to do things from his darker (though controlled) side.

So, yeah, at least from me, dominant behavior is completely compatible with respect and affection.

flummox....great word I had to look it up in the dictionary LOL

How about "whiffed", like in, "She asked me to slap her breasts but I whiffed." Does that sound familiar?

hmmm - if you didn't slap her breast ....you might want to use the word wiffet
if you did slap her breast .... well ....all I can say is....you should of used the whip

A tad bit late to the discussion - but allow my to offer my $.02.
(most interesting topic)

Your comment: " I'm still curious to know if a dominant man can respect, cherish and adore the woman he dominates and must punish at times. Or, does he dominate the women out of hatred and disrespect." is a valid inquiry. And for the experience (scene) to be equally valid - there should be no hatred or disrespect - that's not part of the "deal."

Also stated most succinctly: " Submissive behavior is voluntary and ends when a lady's limits have been met." It's a journey - not a destination.

....and exactly when do the tickets go on sale?

Again, just my $.02

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