How do you get the courage for these sorts of things? I have so many twisted fantasies that are repressed deep inside, waiting for the right time to come out. Half the reason I've toyed with the idea of seeing a provider is that I worry the time will never come unless I force it.
But as a client I have a double-worry: acceptance. Part of the desire to express that side is to be accepted for it. As a provider, you don't necessarily need to worry about that because the men are coming to you. But as a hobbyist, the fear lingers in your mind that once you're going to be judged once the session is over. Perhaps even laughed at.
Originally Posted by thp_919
The BDSM community accepts all kinks.
If your Domme knows what she is doing and is not just out to take your money, she can take you to places in your head where you need to go.
The BDSM communtiy is NOT all bruises and blood.
No one is walking around thinking if you have a bruised butt that you have "arrived."
I have been a Domme for 3 DECADES.
If you need to be taken to places in your head where having your dick sucked and f'ed isn't enough...
Go to a Dominatrix you trust...someone in the Lifestyle.