Mr. Chan, I like that idea of a sticky for new providers and new hobbyist. Since I haven't been playing with ladies other then my regulars as of late I wonder about providing contact info to ladies asking for references. Should you give them the providers' telephone number if not listed in her profile or just or email address? Originally Posted by theotherguy1Contact method should of course be limited to that method made available by the provider. If not listed on her showcase it should not be given.
I agree with HR. I have participated in this community, and ladies are free to contact any of those is have provided. I do understand those who would like additional information. If they cannot screen me with information that is currently attainable with the reviewed ladies, I am not going to see them. Originally Posted by ragooh_aus
How about?I'm glad you did this thread Mr Chan. I have a metric f*ton of LR requests. 98% run along the lines above.
ECCIE handle, real first name and hobby phone number?
Too much? Too little? Originally Posted by Mr.Chan
I'm glad you did this thread Mr Chan. I have a metric f*ton of LR requests. 98% run along the lines above.At last a provider weighs in. To the extent you are comfortable what might you advise new provider or hobbyist on what would or should be acceptable as minimal information?
Broke my delete button on them. Just OMFG....no wonder travelers bitch about AR! I had no idea screening had gotten so bad there. Originally Posted by babee
Anyone who posts enough real world information in a thread to link back to them should be pretty verified an idiot.+1
But that would be screening of a sort I suppose. Originally Posted by Mr.Chan
Contact method should of course be limited to that method made available by the provider. If not listed on her showcase it should not be given. Originally Posted by Mr.Chan+2
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I usually use a triple-verification method when contacting an Eccie girl for the first time ------ Eccie PM + Email + P411 Request ----- if the same info and wording is used between the three... that is a fairly good indicator that it's the real MrGiz calling. * I just about always save phone contact for last.... but ALWAYS want to speak via phone before stepping through an unknown door for the first time. The first phone call is a fourth form of verification of the first three.
When going outside of the P411 / Eccie systems.... and girls are still asking for references from other girls.... Chan is right on, in saying that it is definitely not cool to provide any contact info on a previously seen girl, that she doesn't already post in public, herself. * Even then... I rarely give out phone numbers... even if they are hobby phone numbers. * Email should be good enough.... if a girl isn't up to speed with email... it's probably a pretty good indicator, that she's not using very advanced screening! Originally Posted by MrGiz
+1My system is the same as MrGiz, whenever possible, but once I sent the email from eccie, sent another through p411 (name, not eccie handle) and called to confirm that the name was one in the same with the handle, but the provider thought I was two different guys and made both appointments, then had to call back and cancel one. In the end, we got a laugh out of it, but I almost walked away when I realized the level of incompetence required to make this mistake. All of the forms of communication occurred within an hour of each other, and each email contained the other contact information. And to top it off, she never even contacted a reference given, but attempted to contact a retired provider from p411...<heavy sigh>
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I usually use a triple-verification method when contacting an Eccie girl for the first time ------ Eccie PM + Email + P411 Request ----- if the same info and wording is used between the three... that is a fairly good indicator that it's the real MrGiz calling. * I just about always save phone contact for last.... but ALWAYS want to speak via phone before stepping through an unknown door for the first time. The first phone call is a fourth form of verification of the first three.
When going outside of the P411 / Eccie systems.... and girls are still asking for references from other girls.... Chan is right on, in saying that it is definitely not cool to provide any contact info on a previously seen girl, that she doesn't already post in public, herself. * Even then... I rarely give out phone numbers... even if they are hobby phone numbers. * Email should be good enough.... if a girl isn't up to speed with email... it's probably a pretty good indicator, that she's not using very advanced screening! Originally Posted by MrGiz
The assumption that LE don't understanding screening gives them too little credit. The purpose of screening isn't just avoiding LE but also that random ax murderer or serial killer. The greatest risk to the community is providers who do not screen at all because they don't know how. In order to bypass the three verifiable items to pose as me they would have to get access to my account know my phone number and my real first name which only the providers should know. That is getting over several hurdles which is not that easy to do. Originally Posted by Mr.ChanI couldn't agree more that LE understands screening as a whole, but my point is that if we simply lay the info in front of them, it will make it a simple task for the lazy ones to grasp the concept. My humble apologies to all but I have to tend to personal issues right now. I will attempt to get back online later tonight
I couldn't agree more that LE understands screening as a whole, but my point is that if we simply lay the info in front of them, it will make it a simple task for the lazy ones to grasp the concept. My humble apologies to all but I have to tend to personal issues right now. I will attempt to get back online later tonight Originally Posted by megustalatinaYour comment is timely and you make a good case. Certainly you make a good case. However, the lowest hanging fruit is the provider who does nt screen at all.
My system is the same as MrGiz, whenever possible, but once I sent the email from eccie, sent another through p411 (name, not eccie handle) and called to confirm that the name was one in the same with the handle, but the provider thought I was two different guys and made both appointments, then had to call back and cancel one. In the end, we got a laugh out of it, but I almost walked away when I realized the level of incompetence required to make this mistake. All of the forms of communication occurred within an hour of each other, and each email contained the other contact information. And to top it off, she never even contacted a reference given, but attempted to contact a retired provider from p411...<heavy sigh> Originally Posted by gitenenyThe reasoning is sound. If it is acceptable to the provider it would certainly save a lot of time screening.
... I wonder about providing contact info to ladies asking for references. Should you give them the providers' telephone number if not listed in her profile or just or email address? Originally Posted by theotherguy1NEVER give out a provider's number without her permission if she doesn't advertise it. It's been done to me on several occasions and I get really upset about it. And consequentially---how can the provider seeking the reference be sure it's really me she's talking to if my number isn't advertised? It can't be confirmed.
I would personally hate to see this much info posted in open forum for LE to be able to simply look at and say … Ohhh … this is how we need to screen to gather evidence... Originally Posted by megustalatinaExactly my thoughts. I routinely help new ladies by telling them via private communications what I look for, but I won't post my A-Z screening guide in open forum.
How about?The basics---I require a clients first name (it can be real or made-up, as long as its used consistently amongst the other providers), ECCIE/P411 handle, phone number (hobby) and email address.
ECCIE handle, real first name and hobby phone number?
Too much? Too little? Originally Posted by Mr.Chan