Age old question

I COULD because I have an "easy heart" too much GFE and I start feeling like I have a friend.

Sometimes I have to be reminded that it's ALL an act. Feels good to think that someone actually thinks your interesting. Then I'm brought back to reality when they say "Thank you for you Business"

Its not ALWAYS an act Sex Instructor! BTW- LOVE your quote! oh so true

I think guys fall in love more frequently than what is healthy. It would be interesting anonymous poll. There is "love in the moment", I've been there, "puppy love" maybe, ok I've been there, and "I want to buy the cow" not been there.

I think if it is mutual, it is fine, and I think it is best if the keep an open relationship. There are many on the board that are having a relationship behind the normal business, it is just secretive.

One might fall for a provider in the sense of making them an ATF, but to "fall" for them,that ain't gonna happen!

So could you fall for a provider? I f so why? Originally Posted by pickupkid

I love my wife...'nuff said...

There is all this talk about the client falling for the provider- not a good thing! We all know this.. We all understand the risks involved in this behavior- it's not rocket science. It is a dangerous triangle for a client to fall for a provider.... But what if the provider actually falls for the client? Do you accept the invitation and rescue her from the hobby- make her your house wife? Would they even be able to fully leave the hobby? I think the falling in love part for any side is possible- it has happened- and it will happen again.

ok ... I'll broaden ....first there is the idea of all the men she has been with..second will you allow her to continue working. JEALOUSY, Do you pay for it? what about her feelings...does she care about you?
What are the providers feeling about falling in love with a client? Originally Posted by pickupkid

To answer the first questions (thread starter), yes, it's possible. Why? Because, like life, love can exist in even extreme environments.

In terms of the questions above, I would probably be jealous no matter what her profession -- she would most likely be a young hottie with skills. I would pay for it if she charged me. Her feelings: How should I know? I thought this was a hypothetical-question thread.

The original question was tainted.

Well I was hoping to get a providers views. thanks guys for your views too

Well I was hoping to get a providers views. thanks guys for your views too Originally Posted by pickupkid

I've seen several instances where a Provider fell for a Provider. It didn't end well. Most times one or both exited the hobby. The only times it somewhat worked was when one Provider kept it strictly FUCKING w/no emos attached. Again, 'twas tough on the other fem. Failed!

But I bet the sex (fem-fem) was HOT!!! BCD!

I think the lack of response from providers is very telling to their thoughts on the subject.

I think the lack of response from providers is very telling to their thoughts on the subject. Originally Posted by B.Wayne

Its a dammed if you do dammed if ya dont situation for them. They dont want stalkers and they definitely dont want to ruin the GFE act.


My view, providers deserve to be loved too. If they find someone and can make it work...good for all. The problem is the pool of men they have to choose from. Lets be honest, the married guys that hobby arent exactly fking model citizens in the relationship department. So back to the question...can it happen~yes. Will it work~ probably not. But hey, there are always exceptions to the rule.

Its a dammed if you do dammed if ya dont situation for them. They dont want stalkers and they definitely dont want to ruin the GFE act.


My view, providers deserve to be loved too. If they find someone and can make it work...good for all. The problem is the pool of men they have to choose from. Lets be honest, the married guys that hobby arent exactly fking model citizens in the relationship department. So back to the question...can it happen~yes. Will it work~ probably not. But hey, there are always exceptions to the rule. Originally Posted by beezdat

+1

Yet it seems to be more common if lady happens to be UTR or SB, than a tried and true provider. Reason being is it's more exclusive for her, since she's only seeing a few or just you. Tends to open up more to you about herself, family, her problems, and etc.

Anything is possible in life. Odds are a total different animal. Bottom line only the two people involved will know for sure if it's possible to them. As any relationship goes, it takes two to tangle, two to make it work and two to make it last. If one is not committed or willing to make it work, it will fail. This hobby definately has it's outside elements that make it more difficult for a relationship to work but how strong the two want to work to make it succeed will be the defining answer.
One who closes their heart completely will never know!

Provider perspective here: Yes, it can happen and I have done so. I met and married a 'client' when I lived in Houston. We had a child together (a beautiful gift that I wouldn't trade for anything in the world) and lived a very normal life. We are now divorced but it had nothing to do w/ my being a provider (yes, I retired while we were married and only started back in the 'hobby' for very different reasons)

Points to consider:
a) I was a 'normal' person before becoming a 'provider' - job, mom, family, college degree and so on.
b) I am capable of being drawn, attracted to and falling in love with a man - amazing, huh?
c) We divorced because of HIS issues -controlling/bullying/violence
d) Unlike many other victims of abusive spouses (no, didnt know before hand) I had enough self-esteem to not believe I was 'worthless, stupid and deserving of the abuse'.
e) I have had two other relationships w/ other clients. One for almost five years. Both were almost 'instant' attraction that had me intrigued enough to see where it would go...curiosity will be my downfall
f) I meet men (hobbyists - two come to mind) that have that 'something' and I know I have that thought in my head, "Hmmm...if things were different, I would consider going there..."
g) Why don't I consider it?
1)They are both married
2)They are both in the hobby
3) I don't want to be in a relationship
4) If they were single and felt the same - I would be willing to get to know the person, outside of the hobby but not rush anything.
h)Did I mention how much I love my freedom, lack of drama, ability to come and and go as I please, and working on my 'VERY normal, real life dreams and goals that have nothing to do w/ 'the hobby'?

So...yes, it happens. If a woman is a provider - it is easy to put her in a category of being very one-dimensional = sex worker. Age old gender discrimination: a man and woman both sleep w/ same amount of people and he is 'just a normal guy' and she 'is a slut/whore/easy'. *rolling eyes*

I could say so much more about this - but mercifully (for you all, lol) 'real life' calls me to get out and enjoy this beautiful day.

Be good to yourselves and kind to others...

Aphrodite