Question for the Guys

I don't really like it either. It's uncomfortable and distracting as Hell. Originally Posted by Trinity Kane

I think there's a very good reason why the term "anal retentive" is not a compliment.

I think there's a very good reason why the term "anal retentive" is not a compliment. Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

So I guess the whole "You have been saving your anal virginity for me" argument is not really gonna work.

Lol, no. But nice try. I like that.

Ok, So this is something I've been wondering about for quite sometime now.

Why do you feel the need to place your thumb over my asshole while you are fucking me from the back? Do you get some kind of erotic sensation from it? Or do you do it wishing that you could put your cock in there? I'm just curious what the purpose is? Originally Posted by Trinity Kane

This may be the start of "Providers' Reviews of Clients" complete with physical description, hygiene conditions, language used, talents exhibited, dimensions of important features, grooming and skin condition, tolerance to rough sex or screaming, overall attitude and politeness, promptness, text and phone etiquette, likes and dislikes, etc. TK...you first!

I agree with others. I haven't personally done it with a provider, I feel if I didn't pay for it then I'm not going to touch it. But I do feel the urge to stick my finger in there when I'm from behind. Like others, a delusional part of me wishes you will say, oooh thats what I really want and then invite me to stick something bigger in there.
For me it would continue something like this:
After which you lose your mind in uncontrollable ecstasy. This leads somehow to your need for my cum in your mouth and all over your face.... LOL

I can dream can't I? ;-)

I'm sure all this stems from watching porn, however I found over the years that I want what I can't have. I crave BBBJCIM because I rarely if ever get it. I also crave a woman on top riding me because it never happens. Unless with a provider obviously...
If it was common place I would probably crave something totally different.

If one is in this hobby, Isn't the last paragraph what it's all above? Finding a provider that allows, provides the things we can not get otherwise?

I agree with others. I haven't personally done it with a provider, I feel if I didn't pay for it then I'm not going to touch it. But I do feel the urge to stick my finger in there when I'm from behind. Like others, a delusional part of me wishes you will say, oooh thats what I really want and then invite me to stick something bigger in there.
For me it would continue something like this:
After which you lose your mind in uncontrollable ecstasy. This leads somehow to your need for my cum in your mouth and all over your face.... LOL

I can dream can't I? ;-)

I'm sure all this stems from watching porn, however I found over the years that I want what I can't have. I crave BBBJCIM because I rarely if ever get it. I also crave a woman on top riding me because it never happens. Unless with a provider obviously...
If it was common place I would probably crave something totally different. Originally Posted by mwise

If one is in this hobby, Isn't the last paragraph what it's all above? Finding a provider that allows, provides the things we can not get otherwise? Originally Posted by Sonoman

Fo Sho!

For me anal, cob, cof etc are possession things and must be requested and given freely.

All the years I've played with a civie, UTR or in the internet hobby. It's to damn simple to ask whats on or off limits, what do you like or not like? When she answered don't fart during 69, the butthole is off limits and don't pee in the bed I've found we got along well. Along that same line I have found as things that are off limits have a strange way of being allowed further down the road if there are future visits. Sex should be fun for both sides, not filled with a bunch of I don't allow that or can't touch this.

IMO if you had included a poll with this I suspect touch and insert would be #1. Fantasy fills a big part of this hobby. Some want to be Porn Stars. Some of want to simply enjoy the allusion that we bringing pleasure to each other. Sex should be stress free.

Sonoman.......now with apology to Trinity I'm about to hijack your thread

For others whom feel the same as Ginger and Trinity here is a thread from one of our TN hobbyist that agrees.

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=823841

Off topic a bit, but just had to say that I love your signature line, Sonoman!

Off topic a bit, but just had to say that I love your signature line, Sonoman! Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

Thanks Girl. Maybe the time will come I can show you my Sig Nightmare. Under the current times I thought it was appropriate.

Sonoman. Sorry Trinty again for the interruption

Ok, So this is something I've been wondering about for quite sometime now.

Why do you feel the need to place your thumb over my asshole while you are fucking me from the back? Do you get some kind of erotic sensation from it? Or do you do it wishing that you could put your cock in there? I'm just curious what the purpose is? Originally Posted by Trinity Kane

Maybe they are just suffering from a bit of performance anxiety,,, with that brown eye watching them and such.....

This is a very good question and IMHO it is asked in such a way as to NOT be considered criticizing, thank you TK. There seems to be some very good, honest answers and I would like to throw in my .02 worth also. I don't think there is really a blanket "one size fits all" answer.

One reason, IMHO, is the "forbidden fruit" syndrome. We can't have it but we sure want to admire it and get as close to enjoying it as possible. We could ask if it's on the menu, of course, but if we are told it is absolutely not on the menu then any possibility of any contact is dead. Out of respect for the lady most clients will not cross a boundary that has been established and set in stone. "She doesn't have greek on her menu so I'm sure that's not an option but I can touch it and enjoy the fantasy" so to speak.

Then there's the "do I have your attention" frame of mind. Again IMHO or should I say IMC (in my case) I want to think the lady at least knows I'm there LOL. There are a lot of nerves in and around the anal area. I may not have your attention with my little pony galloping flat out for all he's worth but one touch with my thumb and I instantly have your undivided attention. It's kinda like going to the dentist and he says "don't worry you won't feel a thing", well I may or I may not, but if I grab him by the balls and say "we're not going to hurt each other are we" I know damn well I won't feel a thing, LMAO. Not that a lady is day dreaming about something like shopping but if her anal area is touched I know she not.

Asking what is on a lady's menu ahead of time does seem to be the logical thing to do but please keep in mind asking this question does make some ladies uncomfortable.

In the past one lady I visited with put greek on her P411 menu and when we got to the "interesting" part of the visit I touched her with my thumb while enjoying her from behind and she told me "that is reserved for SPECIAL friends". I thought "well ok then.......but I wish you would take that off your menu". She has long since retired and moved away.....but man she sure looked good from that angle.

There was another P411 lady I had a date with a few years ago. She listed greek on her menu also, as well as her donation. We set a date and while I was enjoying her in the common "all fours" position I touched her with my thumb and she told me "yes that's on the menu but it's extra", damn I wish I knew that before hand I would have brought the extra with me. Maybe she could have mentioned the "extra" on her P411 profile so I would have known, just MHO.

TK, I am sure if you let it be known you anal area is off limits to any type of contact what so ever the respectable clients will honor your request.......but till then the fantasies will prevail. Just my .02 worth.

Flip the script - question for the girls:

Why do so many providers post pics exposing their rosebuds, then put in their info "no Greek?"

To me, that's a terrible tease and turn off...

Flip the script - question for the girls:

Why do so many providers post pics exposing their rosebuds, then put in their info "no Greek?"

To me, that's a terrible tease and turn off... Originally Posted by Creamfilled8inches

Because they can?

I post pictures with dildos, doesn't mean I'm going to shove them up your ass.