Ever Have A Bad Experience With A Client?

Keyhole Arc Blow's Avatar
it took me watching some instructionial Nina Hartley vids and a lot of practice on girls I dated and feedback in my late 20's to figure out how to do it. sounds like these guys are just too lazy to learn or they don't get much action outside of the hobbyist world

i won't finger a provider though at all unless she specifically asks though, i know that can be uncomfortable Originally Posted by joesmo888
I've never gotten through the whole Nina Hartley videos, I always get sidetracked and stop paying attention to the instructional part then when that's done nothing is sexy to me and I close the video.

I agree though, guys think about sex all the time but never "study up". Sure you can watch videos and read books/guides but you'll never be any good if you don't go out and put your new found knowledge to use. They can pick up some techniques at least then use her body language as a guide to go the rest of the way.

That's why I dislike quiet women that don't do much when receiving, if she's loud then gets quiet I can guess the change up was a bad choice and try something different.

I've noticed once you let women know it's ok for her to hump your face like a rabbit in heat, they can usually subtly show you how they like it as far as pressure and speed among other things.
RedLeg505's Avatar
Why is it so hard? Just say 'every woman is different, let me show you how *I* like it". A lot of us guys want to please as much as be pleased and are happy to take instruction. Originally Posted by Fratelli

^^^+10,000

My ego isn't so fragile that I don't appreciate some instruction on how YOU personally prefer it. As Fratelli said, I know every woman is a bit different so I'm always willing to learn what the one I'm with especially likes.
  • loboy
  • 07-02-2013, 03:39 AM
Yes I agree...I'm still just learning (of course one can never stop learning) so if I'm not doing something right I'd like to know...
Danielle Reid's Avatar
I'm not the type to tell a guy how to do something. Either he knows or I'll just suffer through it to protect his manhood that hasn't evolved passed the 4th grade. BUT...that's just my twisted way of thinking.

Needless to say, that was my only horrible pussy licking. Every other guy was able to get me off within a few minutes. Kudos to them
  • loboy
  • 07-02-2013, 03:57 AM
Within a few minutes...Damn I need more practice then but if we meet no need to protect my manhood...I'm pretty inexperienced so any advice would be of help
Danielle Reid's Avatar
Within a few minutes...Damn I need more practice then but if we meet no need to protect my manhood...I'm pretty inexperienced so any advice would be of help Originally Posted by loboy
See my recent post on the DATY thread
  • loboy
  • 07-02-2013, 04:06 AM
Don't know if I should post here or there but...Lol no fingers? Ok
Danielle Reid's Avatar
My lady parts are shallow and fingers scratch and poke in horrible ways. Only a few guys know how to do it so I just say NO FINGERS to everyone so I'm not taking chances
  • loboy
  • 07-02-2013, 04:14 AM
I would say I'll be gentle and see if you're ok with it...but I'll just respect what your rules are
Danielle Reid's Avatar
Eh I usually let the guy go ahead and then proceed to snack his hand out of the way if he fucks up. My clit is very sensitive but guys like to rub it like their scrubbing a scuff mark off their shoe. OUCH much!
  • loboy
  • 07-02-2013, 04:23 AM
Lol ...ehh well too late since I already know the rules :/
Danielle Reid's Avatar
Haha alright babe
Monica13's Avatar
I want to know what it is with guys sucking a girls clit like a dick and sucking it hard. I mean I don't know if you other ladies like that but it makes me want to slap the crap out of someone.
ElisabethWhispers's Avatar
I want to know what it is with guys sucking a girls clit like a dick and sucking it hard. I mean I don't know if you other ladies like that but it makes me want to slap the crap out of someone. Originally Posted by Monica13
It's sometimes difficult for me to get comfortable with having a man down on me. I know that there have been several times where I'm enjoying things, it's getting hotter and then SHAZAMMMM! A man starts to SUCK hard and bite.

I have hit the ceiling when that has happened.

What the hell? EVERYONE is different. I have a friend who likes oral hard and rough. I do not.

It's good to figure out what type of woman you're with before going down that path. Figuratively speaking, of course!

For the most part, I have really good experiences. Thankfully!
Fancyinheels's Avatar
This isn't a violent against hookers thread, I'm asking have you ever had just a horrible date with a client? Bad in bed, annoying, just down right OMFG?

Tonight I just got home from meeting a guy in his hotel room. What started off as a massage (that lasted 2 minutes) turned into him wanting DATY. Alright cool, I get paid to get ate out, AWESOME! I was DEAD WRONG! It was the WORSE pussy licking session I ever had to go through. His tongue felt was hard and stiff to the point that it actually hurt, and I swear he needs more practice on finger a girl. Of course he's 65 so maybe he's a little outdated, but damn it was total failure. I was actually watching the clock waiting for time for me to run out of there. Other guys are alright, only a handful makes me beg for more. But this guy made me want to pay HIM to leave me alone.

Am I the only one that had such a horrible experience? Originally Posted by MaryBeth

MB, everybody has bad experiences, both providers and gentlemen. Fortunately, this was pretty minor as far as "bad" goes. Sometimes these stories can be related with humor or pathos, made very entertaining or thought-provoking. However, I'm not so sure ladies should be telling tales of tail with such specifics and derision in the open forums. You gave enough detail to embarrass and pinpoint this fellow, especially if he writes a review. You could have phrased this in a more nebulous and tactful manner, as some of the other ladies have.

You may have decided not to see this particular client again, but how many gentlemen have now been turned off from seeing you? Same concept for all the alerts providers post publicly. Much of that would be best kept in the ladies only Infoshare area. Bear in mind that EVERY word we write on ECCIE is an advertisement representing our personalities.

I am not chastising you, just warning you to be more cautious. I speak from experience. I lost a very good client, someone I also considered a friend, from an offhand remark I once made. I meant nothing derogatory or personal, but suffered from a poor choice of words in a forum that was widely read.


I'm not the type to tell a guy how to do something. Either he knows or I'll just suffer through it to protect his manhood that hasn't evolved passed the 4th grade. BUT...that's just my twisted way of thinking.

Needless to say, that was my only horrible pussy licking. Every other guy was able to get me off within a few minutes. Kudos to them Originally Posted by MaryBeth


Perish the thought that I agree with Fast Gunn (GASP!), but incidents like this ARE good teaching opportunities. Instead of "suffering through" or being passive-agressive by letting "... the guy go ahead and then proceed to snack his hand out of the way if he fucks up," perhaps you might be assertive and tell him up front that you like oral done a certain way because of your extreme sensitivity, and gently explain that every woman is different and therefore the same technique won't work all the time. (Obviously his past partners have not shared that truth with him before, nor given him any pointers.) Guide his hand and tongue. Make it into a game. Also, dare I say it? Often the point is not to get YOU off, so having that be a criteria is as much a failure of logic in this profession as his "failure" to properly give you DATY as you would have licked, er, liked.

Terribly sorry, but this won't be your first "horrible pussy licking" or your last, trust me.