Money VS Happy

Nicole, you should just get a deadbeat loser boyfriend and still work. I know just the guy to fill that position. Originally Posted by cpi3000

Come on, can WTF not catch a break?

I am a FIRM believer that a woman needs her own purse. I have my own career and money. Not a lot compared to many, but enough to maintain my lifestyle and plan for the future. If a woman concentrates on what she can financially do for herself, she needn’t worry about what a man can do for her. That said I would not choose a man that wasn’t on the same page financially, sexually, maturity, mentally or morally that I am. So therefore, yes, he would have to have his own money. My partner must be as stable as I am in all the aforementioned qualities.

Now, would I want a wealthy man? Yes and no. Of course everything is much easier with money. But if there is too great a gulf between my finances and my partner’s finances, I would worry that there would be a “well I’m paying” power struggle between the two. Not saying that it would, but just saying it might. The character of both parties would have to be closely evaluated and compatibility really becomes important.

For those of us who are 30+ in age, would you give up your current career or financial stability to start over with the one you truly love?

Suppose you meet "the one" later in life, but you have to relocate, start over or pay large sums in Alimony or child support. Are you willing to make financial sacrifices if it means living a happy life with a new love? Even if it's just temporary, say 2 years, could you do it? Or would you long for those great vacations, carefree spending, or fine dining experiences? Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

Money, has never taken a priority in my life over love. Then again you can drop me in the middle of the woods in with just the clothes on my back and I can survive. Some people require money to live.

I wouldn't throw away a relationship over another one either. That's just looking at the grass on the other side believing it is better not that it is.

As to temporary. If you mean like the person has cancer or something and will die or they plan on leaving after 2 years because school ends.

The cancer part is something not able to be controlled and if I loved the person no it wouldn't let it stand in my way. However, if it is just a 2 year fling then it isn't really love and why pretend it is more than it is a fling.

Would I be as insensitive peace of filth that doesn't live up to the responsibility of a parent and throw a child's emotional well being to the side on a maybe? Hell no!

Even if it's just temporary, say 2 years, could you do it? Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

A team from the University of Pisa in Italy found the bodily chemistry which makes people sexually attractive to new partners lasts, at most, two years.

A team from the University of Pisa in Italy found the bodily chemistry which makes people sexually attractive to new partners lasts, at most, two years. Originally Posted by rakuguy

I read a study like that some years ago. 2 years was because the new mother was able to take care of her young on her own and the dad went to sew more seed. Same idea as to why people crave eating fats, sugars etc. Back when human's wore animal skins and carried stone tools it kept them alive.

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P.S. I've known a handful of women who have quit "this" in the name of love and it's never panned out... Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Interestingly, I read this the other way - like would a lady's (say, Nicole's) rich, married boyfriend leave his wife and go to, say, Europe with her for, say, a couple of years for, say, cooking school.

My take on it: Not going to happen! Like Tom T. Hall's song said - "It's faster horses, older whiskey, younger women, more money"! (But not necessarily in that order, so it depends on his priorities.)

It's just as easy to fall in love with a rich guy or gal, as a poor one. I'd pick the rich one.

For those of us who are 30+ in age, would you give up your current career or financial stability to start over with the one you truly love?

Suppose you meet "the one" later in life, but you have to relocate, start over or pay large sums in Alimony or child support. Are you willing to make financial sacrifices if it means living a happy life with a new love? Even if it's just temporary, say 2 years, could you do it? Or would you long for those great vacations, carefree spending, or fine dining experiences? Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

I know somebody who did. No kids but she had to pay a deadbeat husband a rather pretty penny just to take a hike. So far, she seems to think it was worth it.

I believe the main question you would have to ask yourself is how do you know they are the One? I've been in short term relationships where it was lust not love and realized it by waking up one day asking myself "What the hell am I doing with this girl?"

Currently I'm at the age(32 years) where I don't really care anymore about finding the One - that's one reason why I hobby. 10 years ago I would do anything for chicks I thought could be the One but became numb in the process by getting burned - it sucks being the nice guy and realize that's not the way to go but I've learned my lessons well.

So to the question - Wouldn't even consider changing anything for someone who may not be around for the long haul

I certainly wouldn't give up financial security to change jobs. I'm too close to the end of the road and can essentially retire now and live off interest, albeit not quite in the style to which I'd like to become accustomed, for life. But I can maintain my current lifestyle.

As for a relationship, yep, I'd drop what I have to get into a great one. Not sure about dropping all my dough however for a relationship. Took too long and too much work to get it all together and I don't have enough time left to get it back.

When you're in your early 50's and staring retirement in the face, your perspective changes.

I do not believe in "The One". I think there are hundreds of men I could marry and get along well with.

I've married out of trying to do the 'right thing'..... disaster.

I've married because saying 'yes' was easier than dealing with the badgering..... disaster.

I've turned down marriage to a ridiculously rich man who was an emotional nut job.

I've married for love and given up "this life" thinking I had to choose one or the other. Turns out, I didn't. ;-)

What's the point of having cake if you can't eat it?!

I agree completely!!! I don't believe in "the one". Let me see, would I start over to be with one that I truly loved? I hate to be such a downer but I would have to say no. People are capable of being in love with many people. I will say that if I had the opportunity to start over without making such an impact on those around me I would certainly choose love over money; to a certain point. I can live in a modest home, drive an average car and be very happy. I was raised to be able to support myself, nicely. I will teach my girls the difference in loving a man w/out money (lacking drive) and loving a man with lots of money. We all need to make choices before the "love" starts blurring the picture!

The "one" is possible. Just highly improbable.

The "one" is possible. Just highly improbable. Originally Posted by Marcus Aurelius

Wasn't the "One" a golf ball by Nike? Either that or it was a supposedly gifted politician that was going to solve all our problems.

I'd say the "One" is just as improbable in love.

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