Most of the advice offered within this thread is way off base. The more a guy buys pussy, the more they become out of sync with what a real woman wants. I would suggest if you want to find ways to approach women where there is no fee involved, don’t listen to any guy who has a hobby handle.
Acting like a drunk, pussy fiending, asshole will only cause you to alienate yourself more. Don't play the BS games many have suggested. This is not high school and REAL women dont find that shit to be cute at all.
Be sincere, be kind, be funny, be confident and don’t even think about sex right away.
Originally Posted by Brooke Wild
And your dozens of years picking up chicks as a guy qualifies you to make this assessment?
Plain and simple, women are full of shit. They say this type of stuff all the time. "I want a nice guy, who doesn't play games, who's gonna treat me right". But actions speak louder than words. I've played it both ways, nice guy and asshole. Asshole works, nice guy doesn't. It doesn't matter what you're after, be it a fuck buddy or a girlfriend. Women ignore nice guys, by and large. And as an earlier poster mentioned, its a numbers game. You're going to get rejected by most of the women you approach for any number of reasons, only one of which is that she finds you unattractive. She could be busy, in a relationship, stressed out, upset, on the rag, feeling bitchy that day, waiting to meet someone, preoccupied, a lesbian, etc. You're playing odds here, keep asking them out.
And fuck anyone who claims the hobby "disqualifies" someone from giving relationship advice.
I'm the first to admit, I'm not much to look at. But the hobby improved my confidence, helped me to initiate and sustain conversations with strangers, and taught me how to eat pussy -- all things that have helped my game. In fact the only negative side-effect comes when they ask me, "where'd you learn to do that?"
As for separating real world from the hobby, that's never been a problem for me. If it is for you, then you probably shouldn't hobby.