The hobby has been a guilt thing with me for years. There has never been much sex in my marriage. But I have always needed it. My wife has always had excuses why its not the right time, she is too tired, etc, etc. etc. I thinks its been 6 years since we had sex. She is a good person, we have been married 30 years, kids are grown. I guess we were never soul mates. Now, just very good room mates and friends. .Actually I am really not even sexually attracted to her any more, I guess sex was never a big need for her, but we have just shared a lot of life together. If I divorced her it would effect my kids lives too. I would really like to have a passionate soul mate wife, but I am over 60 and it is too complicated. I think I am doing the right thing by keeping the family together regardless of my desires. The Hobby once in a while gives me something to look forward to. I have enjoyed meeting most providers. Many ladies are single moms just doing what they need to do at the time. I respect them and wish them well. My wife does not know I hobby. Originally Posted by micanorthhoMan up and get life. You've wasted way too much of it already.