Eyes Open Or Closed?

isis,

I was wondering if I could borrow your car today?

Mine's in the shop and I need to go do some things.

thanks babe Originally Posted by JohnMacnab

now that was funny John

Women tend to be mental creatures. Men tend to be visual.
Now where one goes in their thoughts when they're intimate with someone. I don't know.
But for me, I want my lover to see my beautiful bright blue eyes staring at him when I'm fucking or sucking him. I want to make him weak in the knees and my eyes tell a man what I want, w/o saying a word.
Eyes wide open for me!!

Generally there are two types.

Providers who keep their eyes closed the whole time or nearly the whole time. Makes you wonder what they are thinking about while you are engaged with them. Laundry list, shopping list, composing their next advertisement. What I am thinking when this is happening is that I can get this type of action from my wife.

And then there are the ones who keep their eyes open and actually show some expression and are connected to the session. There is usually some verbalization as well. These sessions usually have some back and forth feedback. It really makes a big differencs in the enjoyment level. Originally Posted by JohnMacnab

Doesn't really matter to me. As long as I "think" she is enjoying herself and I'm the best in the world then I'll be a happy camper lol.

Some seem to alternate between "feeling" the sensations in their kinesthetic mode to "visualizing" the action in their visual mode. In my experience most providers alternate as I do myself.

I'm an eye contact person myself. Who has the tv on during a session? That is just plain rude! Originally Posted by Paven

Actually, this happens more times than I care to remember and I agree it is very rude. I wish I had the nerve to ask them to turn it off. When these gals get busted and go see their lawyers, do they want the lawyer to have a soap playing on TV while they're conducting business?

I guess I do a little of both, there's an appropriate time for both ways. I just go with the feeling, passion tends to make me close my eyes Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

I tend to drift off into La La land especially during BBBJ. I love to watch and then all of a sudden I am just lying back enjoying the feeling. I can't concentrate during 69 so I do much better with DATY where I can concentrate, but I do love to look up and see the girl watching me. That little 18 year old was almost impossible to engage in eye contact, but she sure enjoyed watching DATY

My eyes are open, but then I'm usually busy administering some sort of punishment to need to have them open. I agree that a TV on is rude and why would you have one there in the first place? Gotta have cable for it, and then there's "one more client" for them.
If sessions become so "routine", on either the provider side or the hobbyist side, then what is the point? I like my position, always something different to expect!

GFE is fine, but the reality is we are not your true girlfriends. You want DFK and eye contact. OK a little is ok but you want us to screw you and have orgasms, be gushing wet, and do it all with a constant loving look in our eyes. give me a break. I can understand you want the lady to be nice and act loving. But now she has to look at you like she is in love?!?! I think the majority of you men truely expect too much from providers. A true romantic connection can't be paid for you know. So quit expecting these paid dates to be authentic loving ones. I'm an escort. Not an actress. I can escort and make a man feel excited and wanted. But now I have to have a look in my eyes? It's bad enough I have clients emailing me like I'm their best friend. I'm not going ot respond to those emails anymore. The dates over, it's over. Don't contact me again until your ready to meet. I'm sick of these men thinking I'm their gf.

Doesn't really matter to me. As long as I "think" she is enjoying herself and I'm the best in the world then I'll be a happy camper lol. Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

And that is the best answer, well to me anyway!

I don't believe men in this adult lifestyle expect women to look at them or pretend that we're in love with them. That's foolish. As we're all adults (I hope!) partaking of this lifestyle with the knowledge of what it's all about.
HOWEVER, there are women who TRULY enjoy men and thus those women truly enjoy the companionship & the intimacy with the men they meet. (I sure as hell do! And I wouldn't change a thing about the intimacy I thoroughly enjoy.)
And therefore they bring to the date a more natural feeling of intimacy that *at times* allows themselves and the man the natural feeling of being with someone with whom you could lose yourself in, through the intimacy and the gazing into ones eye and kissing.
There's NOTHING wrong with that. As long as that woman loves & truly enjoys the company of a man. Then how she leaves those men feeling it truly a wonderful thing.

THEN, you have gals who are in this adult lifestyle who don't give a fuck about a mans needs nor whether or not he enjoys the female company he's with and thus limits the intimacy, the kissing and the overall companionship. Those are gals who view men as nothing more than an wallet and they're of the mindset of getting them in/getting them out and revolving the door for the NEXT guy.

GFE is fine, but the reality is we are not your true girlfriends. You want DFK and eye contact. OK a little is ok but you want us to screw you and have orgasms, be gushing wet, and do it all with a constant loving look in our eyes. give me a break. I can understand you want the lady to be nice and act loving. But now she has to look at you like she is in love?!?! I think the majority of you men truely expect too much from providers. A true romantic connection can't be paid for you know. So quit expecting these paid dates to be authentic loving ones. I'm an escort. Not an actress. I can escort and make a man feel excited and wanted. But now I have to have a look in my eyes? It's bad enough I have clients emailing me like I'm their best friend. I'm not going ot respond to those emails anymore. The dates over, it's over. Don't contact me again until your ready to meet. I'm sick of these men thinking I'm their gf. Originally Posted by incognito isis

I agree with Wicked Milf all the way

This thread reminds me of that scene from "Forgetting Sarah Marshall" where Jason Seigel is f'n that girl who keeps making eye contact and saying " hello"......

GFE is fine, but the reality is we are not your true girlfriends. You want DFK and eye contact. OK a little is ok but you want us to screw you and have orgasms, be gushing wet, and do it all with a constant loving look in our eyes. give me a break. I can understand you want the lady to be nice and act loving. But now she has to look at you like she is in love?!?! I think the majority of you men truely expect too much from providers. A true romantic connection can't be paid for you know. So quit expecting these paid dates to be authentic loving ones. I'm an escort. Not an actress. I can escort and make a man feel excited and wanted. But now I have to have a look in my eyes? It's bad enough I have clients emailing me like I'm their best friend. I'm not going ot respond to those emails anymore. The dates over, it's over. Don't contact me again until your ready to meet. I'm sick of these men thinking I'm their gf. Originally Posted by incognito isis

OK, so for you eye contact is out, because that crosses the line of provider / client propriety.

Would it be all right if the client put his head next to yours and nibbled on your earlobe and whispered sweet nothings to you while he was enjoying the feeling of having his cock inside of your vagina?

pro·pri·e·ty/prəˈprīətē/Noun
1. The state or quality of conforming to conventionally accepted standards of behavior or morals.
2. The details or rules of behavior considered correct:

Don't put words in my mouth. I do whatever i feel comfortable doing. For me I like to keep my eyes shut because it takes me to someplace I enjoy. I escort 100% for the money. You wouldn't know it if you met me. And thats why I have these blokes emailing me all the time like were friends. Anyway, thats besides the point. I do my job pretty damn good. So I keep my eyes shut as if I am in ecstacy, but really I'm on a mental vacation. Sorry. I never said eye contact was crossing the line. What I am saying is, I do what I feel comfortable doing. I just think you guys are expecting waaaaaaaay too much from a provider. I see it more and more. You want BBBJ, CIM, DFK, passion, GFE, OTC time, ETC, free dinner dates. Get a real girlfriend and STOP asking us to place our health at risk. And if THAT wasn't enough, you want us to make constant eye contact with you. WE are human. To you we are a piece of meat, I understand that. But try to be a little more open minded and treat us as humans, and maybe, just maybe less women will treat you like ATM machines. And yes, I do have clients emailing me all the time about their broken refridgerator or repairing their decks, like I'm their best friend or something. Give me a break. Go talk to your wives about this stuff.

The thread asks what we prefer. I prefer if someone makes eye contact, but I don't necessarily expect it. If they don't make it obvious and appear to be enjoying it, and not just looking away, it's fine. I don't expect every GFE to look up at me with a loving gaze. I would be very disappointed if I did. I don't mean to speak for everyone, but it is a bonus if they do make eye contact.