The best date: Making love or having a porn star experience?

I agree with you EBG! Start with the sweet, on to the nasty, and then maybe end with the cuddlin'

There are two things I'm going to take away from this enlightening discussion. (1) The comment of chateau_becot reminding us that this is all an illusion. When the provider hugs you good bye, it's over. First thing she does after you walk out the door is check her messages. If I ever get caught hobbying (perish the thought), I would try to convince my SO that the providers were not a threat to the marriage. In fact, I once had a 5-year nonsexual relationship with a woman that presented a far bigger temptation to kamikaze the marriage. The soul connection was there. (2) jbravo_123 implied that average age of the hobbyists tends to the mature end of the spectrum. I would guess he's right. Us older guys want to pretend more of a soul connection than we really have. Something's missing. It's SirLanceHerNot, I think, who has the byline "A wife is a person who's constantly telling you you're not worth a fuck." He's close to the truth of why we do what we do. The GFE is an attempt to fix that. Originally Posted by mark77070

Well said! It's not that I can't have an affair but I would certainly deal with guilt. With providers, I'm just fulfilling a fantasy and a need.

+1 Chateau. Well said.

I want both....I love kissing and touching. But also love exploring with each other. even better are blindfolds and restraints and slow exploration of your partner.....then trying all the positions....if you are both sweating in a cold room when you finish...you know it was good

Starting out slow and pleasing the women throughout the time that the two of you are together. Letting her get used to the isze that one may have without hurting her from the very start. Hearing her moaning and biteing your neck and shoulders as the love making intensifies.....Being spent and collasping on the bed together getting up to shower together then starting all over again....

Knowing that she will be thinking about this when you leave and feeling it and waiting for her to invite you back again.....

This is how I like to progress in the bedroom......

TexasCowboy

Guys, what do you consider the better session?

Love making with passion, romance, and intimacy (you don't ever want to leave)...

-or-

Porn Star Sessions where you mastered different positions and techniques that were "movie quality".


Comments please! Originally Posted by brownsugarbaby

As long as there's Passion (or the Illusion of ), Responsiveness, and some nice Vocals from her (not that fake shit )...I'm good with both.

Although I'd tend to lean more towards the PSE side in the Hobby

Depends on the mood. But I will slap an ass. Originally Posted by MasterBaiter1996

+1 or a lot of both!

Love making with passion, romance, and intimacy (you don't ever want to leave)... Originally Posted by Little Caesar

...or hard-core PSE (you want to come back for more and more and more ASAP!)

I like it hot!

Passion as long as it stays were it should and no one misinterprets it

Safire Sweet

*am not a porn star type Originally Posted by safire_sweet

This is exactly my experience with Safire!... Yum, oh my.... I want some more!

Hard PSE

Well said! It's not that I can't have an affair but I would certainly deal with guilt. With providers, I'm just fulfilling a fantasy and a need. Originally Posted by Deeznuts

I totally agree with these guys.
I entered the hobby BECAUSE I had the opportunity of affairs. The hobby relieves the pressure that is built up by those opportunities without so much of the risk on my relationship.
In my sick head, I also don't see sexual relations as cheating. Sex is a small part of a real relationship. My idea of cheating is stealing time from your SO and giving it to someone else.
My hobby time does not deter one iota from the quality time that I can spend with my SO.
If anything, it enhances that time, because my eyes and mind wander less.

BSB you are totally both so I think you realize that both make for the hottest session. There is nothing hotter than intense passionate intimacy with a porn star provider who then gets into very kinky anything goes PSE as she gets worked up and loses control. If you watch good porn, the hottest sessions start slow with intense GFE and build with total PSE. BSB you are a wild passionate freak!!!!!!

Making love BrownSugarBaby ... requires all of you to be able to ... Im also with with Safire Sweet
IMHO

Love making with passion, romance, and intimacy (you don't ever want to leave)...

-o Originally Posted by brownsugarbaby

Passion and intimacy more than PSE for me.. focusing only on PSE makes the whole experience too mechanical for me..

Why would anyone want GFE? The girlfriend experience equates to blue balls, crushed dreams, and begging for sex ... yeah that is a lot of fun.