Happy wife = Happy Hobby??

Kendall4u hits it so on the head. As for anyone being offended guilty dog barks first!! Js and since I've been doing this I've heard more bullshit in the last couple months that I have in a lifetime.. Lol Originally Posted by Velvetangeltouch

Originally Posted by FunInDFW

lol

So, if your wife's a raging psycho-bitch at home, you probably wouldn't step out and cheat on her with random hookers? Sounds about right, you should look into S&M.

Let's keep it real, most guys here are just bad husband's on ego trips. I used to be the same way, treat the spouse like a second rate citizen basically because I make all the money, pay all the bills, and put her through school. Of course she won't sleep with you because she's turned off by that proud attitude. Most of these hookers see it too. Instead of humbling ourselves, we figure we would "fix" the problem by going out and sleeping with hookers. Well, at least that feeds our egos. All the while, we could focus on being better husband's and do something nice for our wives with the play money. But, who wants to do that, that's too much work. No judgement here, just keeping it real.

This is not directed at anyone in particular, just to those arrogant assholes who don't want to admit that they're arrogant assholes.

From the perspective of a 60+ y.o. whose has been married for 40+ years I can honestly say I have wandered due to lack of frequency AND the things she used to do (oral, different positions, passionate kissing, etc ) are no longer available. Seems when menopause hit, those things went too. I am into those things, she is not so I find it where I can. No reason to lie!

Great thread. I'm in a little bit different position. I have sex quite often at home. Sometimes 2-3 times per week. My wife is beautiful and we have a great relationship. My problem is that she hasn't actually "touched" me since we got married. No oral for me and she will barely hug me - think grandma hugs/granny pats. I've broached the subject many times over the years with no luck. this has gone one for 20 years. I'd love any feedback/ideas

I remember having a client that would come in and he would hug me. And I don't mean just a quick hello sort of hug... But, more of a .....

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I remember after it happened the first time thinking... How heart breaking. What he needed most out of this was just a real human connection. Just the feeling of another persons touch in the most innocent way...someone who would hug him back without pulling away or giving the awkward pat on the back if it went on too long. Made me sad.

I started to realize soon after that
THE SENSE OF TOUCH IS HIGHLY UNDERRATED.


SORRY FOR THE HYJACK

My 2 cents on topic in a few.



~Kelly TNT

I think the majority of the SO's, do in fact, fuck their husbands. Maybe not daily, but it happens......
....... I don't believe you guys are as deprived at home as you say. Originally Posted by Kendall4U

Oh, I wasn't exaggerating. It's been over 2-1/2 years, closing in on 3, since we've had sex.

Check out the date I joined ECCIE. It's not a coincidence that the last time I got to fuck my wife and when I joined here are in the same time frame.

Also, I can relate to that client you described, Kelly. Financially, things are WAY tough right now so I have to hunt for "bargains". But when I was able to spend like normal, I had a certain girl that I would see any time she would come to town. I knew it was fake. I'm not a TOTAL idiot. But at least there SEEMED to be feelings there for an hour and I need that sometimes. I MUCH rather have one good provider who I can see regularly, than have a bunch of different hookers.

I'm not ready to break up my family and I want the illusion of her giving a shit. But, of course, I know she only really cares about the cash. And that's fine. I understand the situation.

Man I feel for you but WTF are you sticking around for?? Does not matter if she is hot, lack of love/sex makes it a worthless relationship, way to many women both civie and hobby to treat you better.

My SO is great and enjoys sex but sometimes variety is good, i really do not seek out many new ladies but prefer the ones I have met and had fun with, comfort and safe feeling is important.

Oh, I wasn't exaggerating. It's been over 2-1/2 years, closing in on 3, since we've had sex.

Check out the date I joined ECCIE. It's not a coincidence that the last time I got to fuck my wife and when I joined here are in the same time frame.

Also, I can relate to that client you described, Kelly. Financially, things are WAY tough right now so I have to hunt for "bargains". But when I was able to spend like normal, I had a certain girl that I would see any time she would come to town. I knew it was fake. I'm not a TOTAL idiot. But at least there SEEMED to be feelings there for an hour and I need that sometimes. I MUCH rather have one good provider who I can see regularly, than have a bunch of different hookers. Originally Posted by albundy

Oh, I wasn't exaggerating. It's been over 2-1/2 years, closing in on 3, since we've had sex.

Check out the date I joined ECCIE. It's not a coincidence that the last time I got to fuck my wife and when I joined here are in the same time frame.

Also, I can relate to that client you described, Kelly. Financially, things are WAY tough right now so I have to hunt for "bargains". But when I was able to spend like normal, I had a certain girl that I would see any time she would come to town. I knew it was fake. I'm not a TOTAL idiot. But at least there SEEMED to be feelings there for an hour and I need that sometimes. I MUCH rather have one good provider who I can see regularly, than have a bunch of different hookers.

I'm not ready to break up my family and I want the illusion of her giving a shit. But, of course, I know she only really cares about the cash. And that's fine. I understand the situation. Originally Posted by albundy

I didn't say ALL you gents are lying nor did I say ALL women love sex. I implied that I think there is more fuckin' going on at home than some of you gents let on. I know my ex NEVER had to beg for sex and I didn't hold it over his head to coax "good" behaviors from him. I truly feel badly for you guys that have that going on at home. That's just sad.

On an upbeat note, I just got back from vacation and am in dire need of some great sex. Any takers Originally Posted by Kendall4U

Speaking the truth and on your upbeat note you are high on my list Laura Lynn was a awesome meeting her recently made me want to see you or both

Man I feel for you but WTF are you sticking around for?? Does not matter if she is hot, lack of love/sex makes it a worthless relationship, way to many women both civie and hobby to treat you better.

My SO is great and enjoys sex but sometimes variety is good, i really do not seek out many new ladies but prefer the ones I have met and had fun with, comfort and safe feeling is important. Originally Posted by sweet_k47

We actually get along great. Like a chick you are just friends with. IT"S HELL! But, I want to stick it out at least until the kids are grown up, if I can. We NEVER argue or curse or anything in front of anyone and, judging from the shit people posted for our anniversary, people seem to think we have a great loving marriage.

I was considering a "side" chick just because of possible feelings happening, but I know that would be a stupid idea.

The kids and everyone else are blissfully ignorant because we get along so well. Just going to rely on hookers until freedom day comes in about 12 years or so.

I am the opposite. i pay more for pussy when my wife makes me angry. which is most of the time.

I'm with ya Al. My join date coincides when I started up on the hobby. Of course beforehand, I'd frequent the SC rather often, but wasn't ever looking for extras.

When you're married to somebody who has NO ambition, sleeps ALL DAY at home, no job, does not cook, clean, help with household chores, you starting to get the picture???? Thankfully no kids, just waiting for the her grandma to croak so I can pull the trigger for the "D" word. It's rather tough, work all day, come home, cook dinner, do laundry, etc. while she tells me she has had a rough day due to the fact that SHE GOT 3 PHONE CALLS DURING THE DAY AND DISTURBED HER SLEEPING!!!! I'm done with the bullshit!!!

One interesting aspect which happened the same day I decided to start up the hobby: The wife and I were going out of town and she asked me if a friend of hers could join us. I'd never met her before, I asked what she looked like, the friend is a stripper and my wife asked her how she felt about nudity, the stripper friend is a freak, basically my wife set up an overnight threesome and I was stoked to be able to fuck her friend.

Of course the friend cancelled and the wife pulled me further down and me entering the hobby.

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I'm with ya Al. My join date coincides when I started up on the hobby. Of course beforehand, I'd frequent the SC rather often, but wasn't ever looking for extras.

When you're married to somebody who has NO ambition, sleeps ALL DAY at home, no job, does not cook, clean, help with household chores, you starting to get the picture???? Thankfully no kids, just waiting for the her grandma to croak so I can pull the trigger for the "D" word. It's rather tough, work all day, come home, cook dinner, do laundry, etc. while she tells me she has had a rough day due to the fact that SHE GOT 3 PHONE CALLS DURING THE DAY AND DISTURBED HER SLEEPING!!!! I'm done with the bullshit!!!

One interesting aspect which happened the same day I decided to start up the hobby: The wife and I were going out of town and she asked me if a friend of hers could join us. I'd never met her before, I asked what she looked like, the friend is a stripper and my wife asked her how she felt about nudity, the stripper friend is a freak, basically my wife set up an overnight threesome and I was stoked to be able to fuck her friend.

Of course the friend cancelled and the wife pulled me further down and me entering the hobby. Originally Posted by mrredcat43

Yeah, drop that chick, man. No kids to worry about, get out of there.

But I feel you on the lazy wife thing, man. My house can sometimes be featured on hoarders and she doesn't even have a job to worry about. Also, my debit card statement is like an advertisement for McDonald's and Raising Canes. She's allergic to cooking AND cleaning supplies apparently.

Since when did my wife move to south Louisiana???? Lol, oh yeah, EVERYTHING is my fault. I quit trying to dispute the bullshit, it's a waste of my time and breath. Every night, she sleeps on the couch "it's more comfortable" and I sleep in the bedroom. Other then when WE came to Dallas last weekend, I can't remember the last time we slept in the same bed together. I mentioned marriage counseling several times BEFORE the hobby, but she said we didn't need it and SHE was happy. I thought I was selfish, Geez. Every time I bring up having sex, she's always too tired from sleeping all day, or she's not feeling well, when you get rejected so much, you just say "FUCK IT".