Nerves Getting the Best of Me..... Suggestions?

Can't stress enough about the no eating part heading into a session. Digestion requires blood. I know when it's time leading up to a session, I go into them with a fairly empty stomach. That way blood only has one purpose, give me wood in the presence of a woman.

At best, I'll buy a tea or fruit drink on the drive to a session, but eating happens afterwards. At that point, you're already going to be what you are (wood or no wood). A last minute drink should have no effect. What you've eaten that day or even the day before COULD be a huge [negative] factor.

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If you jerk off a lot...Don't jerk off or watch porn for at least a week. Eat celery, lots of it. You should have no issue getting ur man up with a woman after a week, unless you have medical issues, problem with condoms or you are just gay.

I get that from time to time. I just write it off as getting older.

Nerves are a bitch sometimes! Some of us are wired different. In the RW the pursuit of a woman may take days, weeks, months or however long is needed. In hobby life that has been consolidated into an hour or so session with minimal pursuit. Your brain can tell you " something is different" and the nervousness can take over. Nothing is wrong but the situation is different. We are creatures of habit but we eventually adjust to the new situations.

Finding an attractive sexy woman you feel comfortable with in the right environment is going to help. Maybe a longer session with a massage first or telling her what you enjoy would help. The right woman will get you through. What that is only you can say. A woman with great IOP who can raise the intensity level is what I would search for. Mechanical types are probably not for you. If this doesn't help then 2 shots of Crown Royal vanilla, XXX content removed - NYr, neck rub and a really bad girl works for me. I have no issues with ED drugs but you need to be careful if oyu have certain health issues.

Female Condom will help as it's not going on the male ...

The one time my provider was giving me a special night, with sexy lingerie, lap dance , lot's of bbbj . I was hard during lap dance, the bbbj, until the condom went on from there it went soft. I penetrated but stayed soft... So I told her I couldn't that was a first for me...Not sure what happened I wonder if the condom had a desensitized lube in it. After that it's worked with no problem... I told her glad it wasn't our first time together, or she would have thought I was not good at sex.. But for the a week it was half soft when I masterbated ...

Female Condom will help as it's not going on the male ... Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF

Tried these things and it's like a loose garbage bag. Did the lube inside of it and all that jazz and didn't care for them a bit. Others say they're great, if someone gets an advantage from them that's great but I'd rather just have a BJ if the only other alternative is this.

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If you jerk off a lot...Don't jerk off or watch porn for at least a week. Eat celery, lots of it. You should have no issue getting ur man up with a woman after a week, unless you have medical issues, problem with condoms or you are just gay. Originally Posted by cR7

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The one time my provider was giving me a special night, with sexy lingerie, lap dance , lot's of bbbj . I was hard during lap dance, the bbbj, until the condom went on from there it went soft. I penetrated but stayed soft... So I told her I couldn't that was a first for me...Not sure what happened I wonder if the condom had a desensitized lube in it. After that it's worked with no problem... I told her glad it wasn't our first time together, or she would have thought I was not good at sex.. But for the a week it was half soft when I masterbated ... Originally Posted by Caravano

Try female condoms but if you have a little member I heard it's like fucking a plastic bag...

Taking a significant vacation from activity helps most guys. Edging, self-inflicted or assisted, may also help. Denying the orgasm seems to make for a stronger erection and an intense orgasm. There are providers who specialize in edging, indies & spa gals.

I've been doing this for 11 years and I've been where you've been. A few suggestions to help. Keep in mind, she might be just as nervous as you, maybe even more so:

Don't eat or drink anything a couple hours before you see her.

Don't rush. A real anxiety booster. Getting to the incall 15-20 minutes early and catching up on emails (or porn) is better than getting there a couple minutes late, frantically texting, etc.

Buy some of those little hotel room bourbon splits and drink one (just one) when she says head up. Take a couple breath mints.

Take a nice, unhurried hot shower after you greet her. Brush your teeth and tongue. She'll appreciate the cleanliness and it will relax you.

Finally, there is one, guaranteed way to get your cock as stiff as a fire hydrant: Trimix penis injections. Your urologist can help.

I'm not sure longer will give the brain time to readjust if things aren't working right the first time. Lower expectations to a fabulous sensual experience with an FBSM and some teasing and on the repeat visit to repeat that and more. That's more the mental goal to take into the session. Cause otherwise even a 90 minute session won't help (IMHO) if
You feel you are failing 30 minutes into it.

Not small at least 6 inch,it was just that one time it happened.

I'd suggest not thinking about getting an erection. Only focus on the sensations the provider is giving you.

I noticed you only have one review. Perhaps the provider just didn't do it for you. It isn't just about looks or talent or personality, there is also body chemistry. There have been a few providers that looked good and tried hard, but the chemistry was just off. Try a different girl and/or a different type.