What is the best city to hobby in for a Black person?

I'm beginning to understand why you are having trouble seeing providers. It has nothing to do with skin color.

I'm beginning to understand why you are having trouble seeing providers. It has nothing to do with skin color. Originally Posted by jwood

I'm beginning to understand why you are having trouble seeing providers. It has nothing to do with skin color. Originally Posted by jwood

Yes I see your point, even though there's a big "No Blacks" disclaimer...Yep...NOTHING to do with skin color...Go back, do yourself a favor and read my posts. I'm only brass with people who deserve it.

Tywill, I share your frustration- as a few in Houston will confirm. Lol. Why us and not the numerous other fucking races out there? But oh well...

Not sure you'll be able to change my hometown up there but I wish you well in your quest. You've got my support. Get 'em big guy!

Sometimes I think about how fucked up NBA policies are. Then I peruse multiple hobby related websites, check my email, etc, make a personal choice according to my own specific mood, tastes, and preferences about an escort I want to see, then go get laid. Works for me. I'm black, and I think Houston is the best Hobby city in the world.

OP, let the NBA shit work FOR you.

What is the best city to hobby in for a Black/Afro-Mixed man? Originally Posted by tywill

Any city where there are providers looking for clients...........Come on Dude! Originally Posted by SOULMANIKE

I couldn't have said it any better SMI!

...Things are great for Blacks in America.
But NEVER great for ANYONE who has no sense of accountability...

I'm well aware of the poor education our kids receive in certain neighborhoods, the efforts to over-sentence Black people, it's up to BLACK PEOPLE to seek out education and stay out of trouble. Otherwise, there's no one to blame for their troubles but themselves.

My mother didn't wait for school to teach me to read. She sat me down at 3 with 'I Can Read' books and taught me herself. She had me deciphering Shakespeare at 7 and I was reading Dickens, Frost and Poe at 9 on my own. I didn't fear getting into trouble because of the police; I feared my mother's wrath above any punishment they could give me. I was raised in Public Housing, so it was up to ME to make sure my child and I had a choice where we lived... Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson

Tiffani, your insight, wit and humor continues to inspire me. You have so much hobby goodwill with posts like this and others. You truly are a breath of fresh air!

To the OP, I'm in Colorado where we have less than 5% Black population in the state and less than 12% in Denver metro area. My point is there are very few ladies who have NBA policies here and elsewhere (compared to the general population). It's been beating to death ad nauseum about why certain ladies have NBA policies. Does it suck or is it wrong? Only if you want to focus and see these types of ladies.

This profession for ladies is the most intimate business with them sharing their bodies, knowledge and skill for X amount of time. It's a ladies right/preference to choose who they want to share their canvas with regardless of age, religion, color or anything else.

I'm just not sure what the crusade is in trying to change some ladies mind to see you if she stated she does not. To me, that's like having a beautiful brick home built and then some aluminum siding rep comes along telling me why I should change. Maybe, down the line, but right now I'm happy with what I have!

Good luck and have fun, THAT'S what this is all about!

I mean ZarKeraNomi......Is that you??

Sweet baby Tebow of virgin birth ...

I couldn't have said it any better SMI!

Tiffani, your insight, wit and humor continues to inspire me. You have so much hobby goodwill with posts like this and others. You truly are a breath of fresh air!

To the OP, I'm in Colorado where we have less than 5% Black population in the state and less than 12% in Denver metro area. My point is there are very few ladies who have NBA policies here and elsewhere (compared to the general population). It's been beating to death ad nauseum about why certain ladies have NBA policies. Does it suck or is it wrong? Only if you want to focus and see these types of ladies.

This profession for ladies is the most intimate business with them sharing their bodies, knowledge and skill for X amount of time. It's a ladies right/preference to choose who they want to share their canvas with regardless of age, religion, color or anything else.

I'm just not sure what the crusade is in trying to change some ladies mind to see you if she stated she does not. To me, that's like having a beautiful brick home built and then some aluminum siding rep comes along telling me why I should change. Maybe, down the line, but right now I'm happy with what I have!

Good luck and have fun, THAT'S what this is all about! Originally Posted by BigBaldBlk

I hope your statement wasn't in reference to anything I said. I've already said I never try to see NBA women (On Purpose), I never try to convince them to see me...I find people are making far too many straw man arguments and/or completely ignore what I've said. I've grown tired of arguing and going around in circles, take care ECCIE/Dallas. It has been ... "interesting".

I understand where the OP is coming from, and some of the responses were very insightful. What i've learned over my years in the hobby, is that you will just simply have to make a choice as to what you want to do. As for me, i've stopped worrying about the hobby, there was a time when I was very active in my hometown of Memphis, TN. I did everything that I thought was the correct thing to do, p411,datecheck, multiply ok's, etc,etc, but I finally had enough of the rudeness from some providers once they found out that I was a black male, so much so, that i've cut back so much that I may as well be retired. The way that I look at things hobby related is that if a provider does indeed have the "NBA" policy, I don't try to change her mind, to be honest, i've reached a point where I could simply care less. And believe me, this is coming from a hobbyist that was at one time spending upwards of $1200.00 a month on the hobby. As time goes on, you will find a peace with this thing, I know that I have, basically I hobby when I want to, see whom I want, and don't worry about the rest.

As time goes on, you will find a peace with this thing, I know that I have, basically I hobby when I want to, see whom I want, and don't worry about the rest. Originally Posted by big boi terry

Great post, and words to live by (or at least hobby by).

St. Louis - Oakland - Memphis - Atlanta - Baltimore - Cleveland - Chicago - If you're looking for value I would try Flint - Trenton - Compton - Newark - Detroit - Little Rock

The best city for you...if a hundred of us recommended the same city, you'd still find something wrong with it.

I just wasted 20 seconds of my life, lol.

The question you should be asking is "what city fits your provider preference" ....I know plenty of AA hobbyist that will not see a AA provider. I also know caucasian hobbyist that only see AA providers. So I would focus more on your preference verus race...Just my opinion

How do you know I won't ... or haven't changed anyone's mind . And with that kind of defeatist attitude no wonder why things aren't better for Blacks in America. Originally Posted by tywill

What I collected from Mya is that even with ONE change of mind, a woman can and will still have her decision on seeing or not seeing AA men. Yes, even after the late great MLK and work of Cesar Chavez, there is still discrimination, and not only that, but business preference. You cannot change individual mindsets.