A Mans Perspective/Advice

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OK so not on the first date, how about the next day? Originally Posted by chellachella
I missed this quotable from you Chella.

If you mean next date......(typo) yes by about the third or fourth


If I had a date with a lady on one day........and the next day(typo?) She wanted to see me....that tells me she's thirsty and she wants me bad. Ya damn skippy Id make that second day of dates.....might call off work too lol.
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if you think you're ready for something more, put if off as long as possible and develop the relationship Originally Posted by ilovethemgirls68
I believe this for the most part to.

But after said long time frame in development mode.......a lady or mans love making doesn't quite measure up.........if you break up with them immediately after that first encounter.......does that make you a gentleman in her eyes for the most part since you did get to know her better before breaking her heart........or a huge dick who got to know her then left her when she exposed her glaring weakness. Or because you guys mesh so well non sexually.......is that enough to carry you into a healthy relationship going forward.

I think most of my strength dating is I can read people well.....and if I can't read them I'm respectful yet bold enough to ask and be gregarious. I work and connect better with people who are open. If she was shy or closed to sharing parts of her life........then that's different. Its based on her vibe and mood.

A nightmare for me is dating a woman who's a born again virgin, newly celibate cause of stupid past issues and no concrete religious cause, or a virgin with past daddy issues and trauma. I've been there and done that.
It's not about sex on the first date. it's love verses lust. This place is all about lust. Lies. deception, hit and run ,short term gratification, cheating equals lust. What are you looking for? Love or lust....
I meant the world when i said this place...
I do not prefer lust in my personal life, been there done it, its empty. I can get that daily if I wanted, but Im looking for something different.

I just caught the guy in a major lie, so I called off the date. I have no tolerance for deception in my private life. Im working my RL job anyway this week, and taking a break for a few days to just chill out and sip a cute umbrella drink at the beach.

Maybe Ill come across some hottie and do the lust thing for a night, pretend its love lol