Mine maybe a different response. As for me, #1—I don't post here. Not because I am afraid or whatever, I just don't. I don't bother people, and don't kiss and tell. I used to post on ASPD, but got tired of the jerks and the "game" that seems to follow. I don't have anything to prove anymore. #2—I don't have a lot to spend on the hobby, so when I do scrap up the $$, I'm very picky about who I see. I've taken one for the team a few times, and been stood up a few time, but usually, I only see one or two ladies that I know are dependable. #3—on the rare occasion that I do venture beyond my ATF, it usually takes me several days to decide (see #2 re
icky). So without advertising, guys like me won't know you are there. #4—If I decide to take the plunge, you only get one shot. If for any reason I leave with a less that comfortable or fun time, I will never call again. I know that may seem hardcore, or cold, but hey, like I said, I work way too hard to come by extra cash, and especially in this economy, to be jerked around. #5—I have one ATF that I usually (99% of the time) call first. If she is not available, I have a very short list of back-up numbers. Again, that is where advertising (and especially word of mouth—ECCIE) comes in handy.
For example, I tried to connect with my ATF twice this week and both times it didn't work out for various reasons (BTW-once I find a provider that I am comfortable with, I am much more flexible and willing to call back). One on my short list would not answer after repeated calls over two days, (scratch that name), one was out of town (I'll try again at another time as I have seen her before). Usually, about 7 out of 10 times, when my ATF is not available, I end up doing without, as was the case this weekend. But then, I'd rather do without than get my hopes up and be disappointed or stood up. So I'll try again Monday for my ATF if I have the time. If not, back to the short list, as Monday will probably be the only day I have available this week.
So there is my take, for what it is worth. I'll go back to my cave now. :-)