Probably a provider across the hall. How could I possibly hint or ask?

Move on to someone else. Just admire her from afar. I wouldn't want anyone in real life and this life at the same time. You can only be in one…not both.
Randall Creed's Avatar
Everyone on this board has a neighbor, unless you just live in the boonies. None of us knows who really hobbies, unless you KNOW about each other. I'd almost guarantee that all of us know somebody that hobbies, even though we don't know that we know.

Here's what I would suggest. If you're single, go for it. If you're married, it's not worth the risk.

Every provider's not a pimped out, trouble making drama queen. I used to bring a young lady to my house all the time (I liked being able to stay put after being done instead of having to drive and buzzkill the feeling afterwards). I saw this young lady at my house probably 20 times. Nothing ever came of it.

Then again, I'm single, which means I have a heightened sense of invisibility to society. Maybe someone like me can get away with it.

If she's that hot, do what you gotta do.

Keep this in mind, though it's not set in concrete. If she's so resistant to giving up anything for free (i.e. no dates, no interest in getting to know you at all), then she might be a provider...or stripper, even.
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Bellaftworth had something like this happen to her about two years ago. She was more than a little freaked out about it
Do not cross the streams...something bad will happen!
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Frantically knock on her door one day and say "I'm terribly sorry to bug you but I'm running extremely late for an appointment. Do you happen to have a plain envelope and a condom or two that I can borrow??"

If she hands them over with no problem, chances are...
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Randall Creed's Avatar
Bellaftworth had something like this happen to her about two years ago. She was more than a little freaked out about it Originally Posted by theshadow00
Why? Is that some sense of entitlement, that we can't have neighbors who like a little bit of strange every now and then, OR is there the worry about being outed.

Everyone of us probably knows somebody that has hobbied or provided at some point. Betcha we do.

Shouldn't stress over it, unless you're openly and carelessly doing it...like providing out of your house/apt, with strangers always coming and going, or habitually showing signs of having tons of money without a visible source of income.
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Why? Is that some sense of entitlement, that we can't have neighbors who like a little bit of strange every now and then, OR is there the worry about being outed.

Everyone of us probably knows somebody that has hobbied or provided at some point. Betcha we do.

Shouldn't stress over it, unless you're openly and carelessly doing it...like providing out of your house/apt, with strangers always coming and going, or habitually showing signs of having tons of money without a visible source of income. Originally Posted by Rambro Creed
Actually, it is because asshats who don't know the boundaries of other people that screw it up for everyone. Of course we have all met someone who hobbies or wants a little "strange" every now and then. Just because you choose to do it your way doesn't mean that everyone does it the same. The underlying tone of this thread is DISCRETION.

Say it with me boys and girls DISCRETION.....lets all try to practice that a bit more and the hobby world will be so much more fun!

Spikebaby
...DISCRETION...
JohnnyYanks's Avatar
I had a similar situation to the OP. She was a spectacular young lady that I was 99% certain was a provider on ECCIE (blurred face pics).

I sought the counsel of three seasoned providers and a psychologist (well versed on boundary issues) that I know. All said, "Go for it." One even resorted to prodding me.
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In the movie NIGHT SHIFT with Michael Keaton and Henry Winkler, he started having breakfast every morning with his provider neighbor.
It was all good until she called him to bail her out of jail while he was trying to have Thanksgiving dinner with his fiancé 's family.
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It makes me sick to see how many men on here totally disregard the fucking privacy of women.
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Lmao.

It's all about the women. Funny, most outing stories I hear about happens to guys.

Wow, she's getting PISSED, all because the guy has a hot neighbor.

I know what the fuck discretion means. It DOESN'T mean not knowing, it means SHUTTING THE FUCK UP when you do know.

There's no point in getting yourselves angry over his decision to make. Either he's going to find out, or not find out. The world isn't going to explode either way.

Some free advice to ladies that are worried about how you look to the outside world, if you can't explain or justify your source of income, someone MAY get the impression that you're a hooker.

Sitting here right now, you don't think ANY of your neighbors have an ounce of sense to suspect this (OK, she doesn't have a day job, but has the ability to maintain a house/apt)? Discretion would be them not giving a shit enough to call you out on it.

I stand by my earlier post.

And yes, your tits are nice.
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  • 07-21-2015, 11:58 AM
I think OP should go for it. He didn't say a provider lives across the hall. He said that he thinks that she might be a provider. She probably isn't. Best case scenario he asks her out and she of course says no and it gets awkward every single time they see each other for the rest of the time that they both live there. Worst case scenario is he offers to pay her for sex and he gets the fucking taste slapped out of his mouth. Actually, I think I have the best and worst cases flipped.
Lmao.

It's all about the women. Funny, most outing stories I hear about happens to guys.

Wow, she's getting PISSED, all because the guy has a hot neighbor.

I know what the fuck discretion means. It DOESN'T mean not knowing, it means SHUTTING THE FUCK UP when you do know.

There's no point in getting yourselves angry over his decision to make. Either he's going to find out, or not find out. The world isn't going to explode either way.

Some free advice to ladies that are worried about how you look to the outside world, if you can't explain or justify your source of income, someone MAY get the impression that you're a hooker.

Sitting here right now, you don't think ANY of your neighbors have an ounce of sense to suspect this (OK, she doesn't have a day job, but has the ability to maintain a house/apt)? Discretion would be them not giving a shit enough to call you out on it.

I stand by my earlier post.

And yes, your tits are nice. Originally Posted by Rambro Creed
^^^
LOL love this reply
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It makes me sick to see how many men on here totally disregard the fucking privacy of women. Originally Posted by Kayleehotchick
Seems most of these guys just don't get it. its common sense jeeze