As a guy I honestly want who I'm seeing to have as much fun as I do and I try to do all I can to make that happen. Am I the DATY master? No. Does my schlong stretch for a half mile? No. Am I a combination of the most interesting man in the world with Barry White's voice, Brad Pitts' looks, and a body straight out of Playgirl? Um... No. Do I wish all that were true? Hell yes and so do the ladies I've seen thus far.
What I have found, and realize this is still coming from a guys who is new to this, is that respect and genuineness go a long way. Usually if I treat her like a lady, make sure I'm presentable, and go with the flow good things happen... or at least seem to happen. Does she have to O? No. But if I know she had as much fun as I did and the smile is bigger when I'm leaving then when I got there it's been good for both of us.
Then again... the bigger smile might be from the fact I'm leaving... ugh... and just when I was feeling better about myself.