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I'll remind you Sir, not to shit on my carpet either.
Originally Posted by FoxyNC

Damn! D_Mo's showcase isn't even cold yet and FoxyNC is angling for her spot at the sarcasm bar!

Every Client/ Provider relationship is different. We are all people and social creatures. I enjoy becoming friends with some of the Ladies. I think it makes us more comfortable, even if it is mostly about the sex. I have been texting and PMing with a Lady I saw yesterday for the last two hours. We are already friends and mostly talked about non Hobby things. I am Oralist for more reasons than my sexual preferences. I love to talk, too.

NOT TRUE.


It's called "Establishing Boundaries"- want to know how I know?
I, too, have had that same problem before...
Yes, we can anticipate that this IS GOING TO HAPPEN due to the nature of this business, however, there are ways to prevent this from happening.
I also understand the whole "wanting to be nice & be professionally courteous"
HOWEVER, there comes a time, when these boundaries aren't respected, you have to take action. The only reason some guys do this is because you have FAILED to "train them" (TELL THEM) what the boundaries ARE.
(You can't expect a dog to not pee on the floor if he is not trained, right?)

I googled a bit & found this article. (It's a Psychology type article... the inner thought process to go about doing this; setting boundaries.)

http://psychcentral.com/lib/10-way-t...er-boundaries/

But if you DO NOTHING, don't expect the men to just "automatically KNOW" what they are doing wrong. No One is a mind reader, although, some of these guys have been around the block- there are your noobs and the guys who are just totally socially inept...
Hinting doe NOT work.


And if setting boundaries doesn't work...

Try this app; MrNumber (link below)
It can block texts, phone numbers, restricted calls, has a "spam report" service online, that will pop up if reported telemarketers are trying to call, & more.
(And it's FREE for android.)
If you have an Iphone, there is a similar app, although I couldn't tell you the name off the top of my head.

Good luck!


(MrNumber App link on Playstore)
https://play.google.com/store/apps/d....blocker&hl=en Originally Posted by FoxyNC

Thanks for getting it! Trust me I'm very clear on boundaries and have very been clear when it upsets me. I just really wanted to hear others opinions. I also don't advertise my number. So when they have it, it's a privilege which I expect to be treated as such. I really wanted to see how normal this is for others.

Thanks for the app link!

Perhaps it was a poor choice of words, and a bad analogy. People should be informed of boundaries and use that information to adjust to the social situation. To say that they should be trained and then compared to an animal peeing on the carpet is demeaning and insulting to the people who pay your bills. Just like the dog barking on the corner, no matter n how nice I try to be to it, he will always bark from a distance. So I just avoid and ignore him. Not wasting my time to train him, I've better things to do.

I agree with RoxyDDD and FoxyNC; be friendly but assertive to establish your boundaries. Tell him you enjoy your time together and the friendly offline banter, but the excessive daily texts has become distracting when you're with other clients or "off the clock" with the family. I'd recommend doing it over a phone call instead of text so your tone isn't miscommunicated. You could wait until you see him next time, but that might be a pre-session mood killer that even viagra won't salvage…especially if he has a crush for you.

Personally, I need to have a mental connection (at some level) outside the playdate if I am to revisit my playmate (civi or provider alike). But that chemistry has to be there for both parties. Where the lady can open up and be herself a bit more, instead of always playing the naughty hottie role. Obviously not everyone has the maturity to handle that without blurring certain lines.

At the end of the day, everyone likes something a bit different, but it has to be within the comfort zone (i.e. boundaries) of the client and provider alike. While some guys will only see a girl if she provides DT, BBBJ and is completely NSA, I want a woman that welcomes a passionate DFK and an occasional friendly, but genuine, text to see how the other is doing…after all she shares a secret about me that no one else knows about (except for you ECCIE sex freaks). As we like to say in many of our online reviews…YMMV! Originally Posted by dream-big

I completely agree with the how are you texts! I like the connections! Those are always welcomed. But when it becomes daily, and they get upset that I'm not replying it's a turn off. I do this work because I enjoy it, and I expected lines to be clear. I've just gotten to my wit's end.

It's nice to see how you think of your clients as pets who need to be "trained". I reckon ya'll have a different type of clientele up there in SC. I understand your point on boundaries, I don't however appreciate your attitude about being trained like your labradoodle, to come and fetch at your convenience. This is how you pay your bills, correct? Many times my job is inconvenient as well, but I deal with it until I move on to a better job. That mentality may work on the fucktards in SC, good luck bringing that to Texas.

Bonnie,
Excuse my rant. But perhaps you underestimate your IOP and created an iillusion of something more than just a business arrangement. Maybe this guy views you as a friend as well as an escort. Granted I don't have friends I text all day everyday, maybe he's approaching stalker status. Either way, you should gently tell him that you don't have time to answer all his texts, that he needs to minimize his casual conversations.

Originally Posted by H.Hardhat

Your rant is fine. You may be right as well. I'm very polite with my clients and appreciate them. Hence why I wanted to hear from others. I do have some iconsider close as well. Just it messes me up when they get upset that I don't reply. I have a private life and while we have this secret world, I still have rw things. Plus sometimes I'm just asleep :/

If they're on icky, this post may have done the trick.
Speaking of which, and assuming you still want them as clients, some extra stroking may be required.

Is telling me "night night" every night too much? Originally Posted by GlobeSpotter

Way to much. Almost as much as not haggling

If they're on icky, this post may have done the trick.
Speaking of which, and assuming you still want them as clients, some extra stroking may be required. Originally Posted by cabletex7

Extra stroking is always required

stroking is best when done orally...

Way to much. Almost as much as not haggling Originally Posted by SweetDulce

Night night......

Every Client/ Provider relationship is different. We are all people and social creatures. I enjoy becoming friends with some of the Ladies. I think it makes us more comfortable, even if it is mostly about the sex. I have been texting and PMing with a Lady I saw yesterday for the last two hours. We are already friends and mostly talked about non Hobby things. I am Oralist for more reasons than my sexual preferences. I love to talk, too. Originally Posted by Oralist

+1

IMO Bonnie, your concern and reaction is justified. He is crossing an unspoken line that shouldn't have to be brought up. Tell him you will text with him, but only at the typical phone sex rates like 10/minute.

I got into this gig for the 25 year old ass and Illusion of Passion, not the Illusion of Friendship.

Stop kidding yourselves, the ladies are being polite and protecting their income. The only communication needed or wanted with clients is time, date and location.

If you guys are looking for friendship from a lady you have to pay 300 just to be in the same room as you, you are barking up the wrong tree. Go hang out at a restaurant or bar and talk to some civvie women. Better yet, go golf/hunt/fish with some friends.

You want to get laid, call a hooker. If you need a friend because you miss intimacy and friendship, get a lab.

I got into this gig for the 25 year old ass and Illusion of Passion, not the Illusion of Friendship.

You want to get laid, call a hooker. If you need a friend because you miss intimacy and friendship, get a lab. Originally Posted by citizen44

woof

Respond by asking if you can "borrow" some money. Originally Posted by cabletex7

He will stop texting and calling 😂😂😂