How does one to be a domina/mistress/dominant woman?

Very insightful ecspecially a turn on when hearing about learning to be dominant but how does one learn or rather become better at being a sub? Originally Posted by CsexyCrystal

Its not really different, but you do take an opposite track. Find someone you enjoy being around, that you are comfortable with and who has dominant skills and interests that are compatible with your submissive interests. Then you talk, you play, you talk more, wash and repeat. If you are learning you can bounce between multiple tops/doms and get a better view and understanding of the various domination types and flavors.

You can also attend more formal training courses. Here in Dallas they offer a submissive mentor's program. It'a annual, but if its something you are interested in, then check it out.

SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE A LITTLE BITCH / SLUT... BUT I KINDA ENJOY IT - I THINK ALEXIS SHOULD BE THE ONLY WOMAN TO DOMINATE ME, SINCE WE ARE IN A COMMITED RELATIONSHIP. THE ONLY OTHER TOPS COULD BE MEN AND/OR WITH ALEXIS AROUND. ALEXIS SAYS SHE WANTS TO GET EXTREME WITH ME, BUT DOESN'T THINK I'M READY YET. ANY ADVICE WOULD BE A GREAT HELP IN OUR EFFORTS TO TAKE IT TO ANOTHER LEVEL

I believe that each of us has a submissive side and a dominant side, and each of these sides can be very powerful. The art of submitting is just as powerful as being on top. When two people engage in Bdsm they agree to exchange power, and what most people don't know is that the bottom actually is the one in control as it is the bottom who sets the limits and boundaries. It is more than whips and chains, it can be seductive, sensual, and highly erotic. Midori, a dom out of SF has a few books out that are very wonderful, also...here are a couple more...

Sm 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance... by William Brame

This can be a journey that could bring you and your husband closer. My advice would be to - be open, explore, and enjoy.... after all even a small nibble on the ear, fingernails across the back, or even the slight tug of some hair are some of the most basic forms of S&M, and almost all of us have participated....