Cathrine - Vi - Valerie... I got outted :( now what do I do?

Dumb question but do you know who the the snitch was? And how did they find your parents in the first place?

The ability to detect a faint aroma of bullshit from within a thick cloud of sympathy is not classless. Js

[QUOTE=THN;1057729178]The ability to detect a faint aroma of bullshit from within a thick cloud of sympathy is not classless. Js[/QUOTE

Exactly my point

Interesting thread.

Is it possible that the person who posted the fake BP ad also managed to hack her eccie account and post this thread? Posting this on eccie and confirming it seems counterproductive.

You have face pics and full body shots in your showcase. I think some of those same pics have been on previous backpage ads. You mention your birth name in this post.
We all know you're big time into cosplay. We all know you have something to do with the military (again confirmed in this post). It doesn't seem like you've really tried too hard to hide your identity to me.
At this point if your parents, friends, relatives, and your c.o. knows it seems like whatever damage could be done HAS been done.

First off, I'm sorry you were outted. That guy is the lowest form of human. There can be no justification for what he did.

Second, I would still use your handle vs your real name. Get the ads with the face pics removed. Keeping that stuff out there, to be released all over the Internet again and again, will do you no good. If you ever want to get this life behind you, leaving as few markers as possible will improve your chances. Sure, someone really digging for dirt may find it, but why make it easy?

Best of luck. I hate that this happened to you. Originally Posted by TinMan

VI, this is the best advice. Tinman may not have a heart but has an excellent brain. He is wise

I'm sorry that hapenned to you. Reminds us all that we should stay away from those that break the code.

No one deserves to be outted.

VI, sorry to hear this happened. I agree with others that tinman's advice is about the best given so far on this thread.

... Thanks for all the advice so far ... And THN...

Anyway, no I didn't get hacked... The problem with how I got outed ...

The guy was a member of my moms church, he saw me... He had date but I didn't recognize him until I saw my mom Thursday night.

The typical people who responded negatively here are no surprise.

The reason I didn't just vanish and run away... Because I've been running away from me most of my life. The ad I posted earlier was in response to my dad calling me w "cheap hole for people to mutilate"

Because my parents know, I've got no other reason to hide my face... I'm not worried about people funding me or trying to hurt me...

I felt I needed to say sorry to those I did offend ... I client threatened to out me on eccu recently ... He did it from burn phone. It was false... This sadly isn't, it was eventually going to reach Eccie ... So I did it first.

Go to church and out him in front of the congregation.

I was told in order to seek forgiveness, I needed to come clean.

Everything about my current life is out in open, sadly I can't fix that. I will probably retire soon, but I'm going to try to see some of my awesome people first and have a go to fund

Go to church and out him in front of the congregation. Originally Posted by moonshiner

If I out him, doesn't that make me just as bad as him...

Sorry this happened to you, but its good that you are facing it and not running from it.

If I out him, doesn't that make me just as bad as him... Originally Posted by !VI!

revenge is never a good thing. Only makes things worse.

I don't get it...you posted a moment ago so you read the advice (good advice btw) then you got the opposite route with your BP post 2 minutes later.


Good luck to you... The CO angle though...if they gave you a "unoffical" pass (looking the other way) and you are still doing this, then you have to expect the bounce coming.