Would you ever marry your ATF?

Of course I would marry my ATF, if I wasn't married already, and if it wasn't such a one sided crush... and if...and if... and if... whew, lotta if's there. I would do it, but it would be such a baaaaad thing. For one thing I would drive her crazy...I already do, an hour at a time, one email at a time, one text message at a time. A person never really changes, we just learn to control our behavior...or not.

Can you honestly say that having a partner that had sex for money would be ok with you?? REALLY?? Originally Posted by JakeTexas

Yes. Now, there are a lot of ifs that come along with that yes (the biggest being if she caused no harm), but in general, yes.

In the past, I've done things in my line of work that caused others a great deal of frustration and pain, and, I got paid to do it. Hopefully, that part of my past wouldn't cause someone who thought I was worthy in every other respect to deem me unworthy.

In other words, I wouldn't discount the person based solely on what they did for money.

Whispers, I'd like to take this time to offer you 100 dollars to kick you square in the nuts. If you say yes, you will make me the happiest girl in the whole wide world. PLEASE. My life has been quite sad but giving you a good hard kick in the balls would balance things out a bit. Pleaaassssssseee whimpers.

If it is a stripper that Provides. Yes. In the Long Term I know I could not "live happily ever after" with her. Originally Posted by Whispers

That's an interesting viewpoint given your participation in what you view as eternal damage to young women. PPleasssssssee let me kick you in the nuts, fuckin' please. Fucking name your price, OMG. My birthday is coming up soon. Come on, have a heart whispers...the joy kicking you in your shriveled old balls would bring me is much greater than the pain it would bring you. Be a humanitarian, make the world a better place. Let me kick you in the nuts you piece of shit, come on baby.

Very few women find Prostitution to be a life of "Financial Freedom"... Most become chained to a lifestyle that does lasting emotional and physical damage to them as it sucks them in and makes it very difficult to ever escape. Originally Posted by Whispers

damn hannah! the way your talkin, i'd think you 2 were ALREADY married.
oh ,how i miss those sweet nothings from my ex wife... "take out the trash, you dickless piece of shit!"

That sounds like a lot more passion than most marraiges!

Very few women find Prostitution to be a life of "Financial Freedom"... Most become chained to a lifestyle that does lasting emotional and physical damage to them as it sucks them in and makes it very difficult to ever escape. Originally Posted by Whispers

Interesting observation.

If that is the case...brings up a bit of a conundrum at times doesn't it?

When chemistry hits hard, and the lady stops being a commodity in your mind and becomes a person that you genuinely care for.

Ever had to deal with that moral dilemma?

No need to answer, I think we all have or will at some time.

I did marry her. And over 14 years, my net cost for her time dropped way off while the "per piece" cost skyrocketed.

OK, just kidding about marrying ATF.

She was really @ 8th ATF.

Would the fact that your gf was a provider prevent you from a lasting relationship? Is it different than to marry a popular cheerleader that fucked everyone in highschool? Originally Posted by TexasTX

Honestly I don't see a problem with it at all!! I've read that allot of guys don't want to think that another man had deflowered the woman they love. But if you stop and think about it.... Your "non-provider" wife may have been a little "hoho" back in the day and slept with several guys and unsafely as well??? Hell I was a Ho myself back in the day..... What a minute.... I'm still a ho! But also, a professional provider is probably safer because she knows how to take better percautions and most likely has safer sex than the non-provider. I remember one girl in High School that almost did the whole senior class!! Shoot, she probably has been with more guys by graduation than most providers have in a year. I wonder how that lucky guy that married her feels being number 1,776.

But my point is. If you are in love. It doesn't matter. Trust, communication and most importantly no lying is the key in any marriage!

Now I'm back to being a ho!

The real question is would you feel secure enough in yourself to marry a provider knowing her past and also would you make her stop being a provider? If so, what if she wanted to start doing it again for the sake of $$$? Could you handle that?

Hmmm Originally Posted by ameelover

If I had met a provider in the hobby, developed a relationship and we fell in love. In my opinion, if I wasn't able to pick up the slack for what she would be losing out financially then I would have NO right to ask her to quit. However, would I be happy about it? No! But, it could work as long as they were honest, respectful to eachother and communicated freely. Without that there is no love.

If she quit, then needed to return to the hobby? If I met her while in the hobby (as in your first question response) and she quit. If she returned to it I would only accept it if it was her ONLY means of money. If it was for other reasons then obviously she didn't love you, respect you ect...

yes! i have been head over heels for my atf since i met her. but, i also realize my atf only exists for an hour at a time. shes not real, shes a persona invented and designed to know and fullfil my every desire. shes a real life glamour shot.
i am crazy about my atf "jenna hobby" (just a name i pulled outta my ass). jenna looks amazing, has an awesome body, and bcd thats outta this world. her nails are always done, her hair is always perfect and her make up is always on point. she loves my jokes thinks im witty and to her im sexy as hell! she cant wait to take me inside her. jenna has never taken a shit in her whole life!!! but her whole life has been a series of 1 hr events with me.
now, the "real" jenna hobby ala Jennifer Vundercrotch (again, another name outta my ass) has her bad days, complains about work, doesnt always wanna fuck and may not particularly enjoy my company. she wakes up with morning breath. she has fucked up hair 1st thing in the morning, is a bitch till her 1st cup, and probably shit so bad she could knock a buzzard off an outhouse at 50yrds.
if shes a good provider, the chances of jenna hobby ever allowing me to meet jennifer vundercrotch will never happen. its a kinda clark kent/superman thing.
so yes is it possible to fall in love with her and wanna marry her. OF COURSE! just remember that your falling in love with a character and not a person you will ever meet. everytime i see her i fall in love all over again. all the way till she closes the door behind me as i leave. live in the moment, just know when the moment is over Originally Posted by knotty man

Agree with t-sac.... excellent response

Interesting observation.

If that is the case...brings up a bit of a conundrum at times doesn't it?

When chemistry hits hard, and the lady stops being a commodity in your mind and becomes a person that you genuinely care for.

Ever had to deal with that moral dilemma?

No need to answer, I think we all have or will at some time. Originally Posted by Joel Goodson

Probably the highest hurdle to be faced is overcoming the manner in which you met her. Meeting a girl and finding out she is a provider later is very different than meeting a provider and finding out she is "The Girl".

It can take a long time (if at all) to stop waiting for the "Provider" to show her "true" self or the "Hobbyist" to show his "true" side. They call it "trust" out in the real world.

In the movies he would save her from a brutal pimp or crooked vice squad officer and they would cruise off into the sunset with $750000 in small unmarked bills.
In real life they wouldn't meet because she NCNSed him or he was drunk and gave her the wrong hotel name.

That's an interesting viewpoint given your participation in what you view as eternal damage to young women. PPleasssssssee let me kick you in the nuts, fuckin' please. Fucking name your price, OMG. My birthday is coming up soon. Come on, have a heart whispers...the joy kicking you in your shriveled old balls would bring me is much greater than the pain it would bring you. Be a humanitarian, make the world a better place. Let me kick you in the nuts you piece of shit, come on baby. Originally Posted by Hannah Heresy

why do you let him or anyone get under your skin?? .. I have no beef in your arguement with Whispers I am not here taking sides, but if you let someone get under your skin and then start acting like this, he/she wins!!!...

It's actually not at all uncommon. I know one of my former ATF's married a client and they've been very happy together. I know of two other "couples" that blew up. I'd say its statistically about the same as any marriage....50/50 at best.

Depends. One of my ATFs was outstanding in bed and fun to talk to, but I couldn't imagine being married to her. Sex is a small part of the overall equation for a successful marriage. Another ATF possibly, but I have always looked at my hour or so with an escort as a business transaction and not a "date". There are also several women who post on ECCIE that I could see myself being attracted to in different ways -- even without having had sex with them.

As a swinger, the major no-no is to NOT get emotionally involved with your temporary partner. I do like them very much as friends but that is as far as it goes. Same with a provider.

why do you let him or anyone get under your skin?? .. I have no beef in your arguement with Whispers I am not here taking sides, but if you let someone get under your skin and then start acting like this, he/she wins!!!... Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY