What really turns you on? this question is for men and women

GneissGuy's Avatar
I have a concealed master on/off switch centered just below my right shoulder blade.

Also

Warm, silky smooth skin.

Stockings. Garter hose. Stockings with a garter belt. Even better if the lady is wearing them.

Slowly undressing the lady.

Mutual showers.

Tons of perfume.

Slow, sensual kissing and cuddling.

Bringing a lady to multiple O's, either with tongue, fingers, or toys.

Eye contact.
ANONONE's Avatar
I have a concealed master on/off switch centered just below my right shoulder blade.

Stockings with a garter belt. . . Originally Posted by GneissGuy
I second that motion. Especially the classic type with clips and straps and all the bells and whistles!

ANONONE's Avatar
I have a concealed master on/off switch centered just below my right shoulder blade.

Stockings with a garter belt. . . Originally Posted by GneissGuy
I usually prefer white lace, but the leather look can be good too!


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  • 01-07-2010, 06:17 PM
...Confidence. There is nothing like a woman that is confident in her looks, herself and her sexuality. Without that, everything else is out the window and meaningless.

However there are some very meaningful extras if she has that...

Meaningful extras:

Amy Lee from Evanescense! pant pant! Talk about a playground!
A sexy lady that knows how to dress trashy
A sexy woman that knows how to talk really dirty in bed
Fetish makeup
Tons of perfume..I want to smell her tomorrow!
Stockings, garters and spike heels
Long, slow DFK...damn!
Slow...then fast...then slow...then fast...then, a long drink of ice water!
More slow
More fast
slow fast slow fast slow fast
catching ones breath!

And something perhaps not so common..

Waking up with the woman of your dreams in your arms...even if she's snoring!

...and last but not least, when its over-the-top AMAZING, a good friend to spill your guts to!
GneissGuy's Avatar
Gneiss pictures guys.

But the panties need to be on the outside. The garter belt and stockings need to stay on the whole time.
Papacorn's Avatar
Long, deep, wet kisses......I won't enjoy the rest without them....
Slow DATY, and watching her enjoy an O.....or several.....

I gotta go take care of something......
ANONONE's Avatar
Gneiss pictures guys.

But the panties need to be on the outside. The garter belt and stockings need to stay on the whole time. Originally Posted by GneissGuy
You would like that second pic then, Gn. The panties unclip from the the stockings and belt so that you can disappear into that whirling blend of flesh and fabric.

ANONONE's Avatar
Damn, Fawn. . .your list just turned me on!

Actually that makes sense. I get the most aroused when giving a woman a long massage and playing with her body very slowly.

I use Grape Seed Oil when I give my massage. It is lighter than most oils, very good for the skin, and it increases nerve sensation and circulation. This leads to intense orgasms--for both of us. It is safe externally and internally so it can also be used for lubrication (if you do play inside with this, get a polyurethane condom for CFS). There is nothing more pleasing than watching a woman react as my slick hands glide--everywhere. I love watching you moan and arch your back or bite your lip when you get aroused.

Let me explore you. I delight in making you cum with swirling fingers twirling tongue, and fluttering lips.

It really excites me to bring a woman to an orgasm before I play. It actually gets my motor revved to give pleasure. It doesn't mean you can't touch me, but I do want you to focus on being relaxed and center in on your own orgasm first. I do like to sit with one leg under your slightly bent knees so I can reach everything with my lap near your hip. If you want to hold my cock and stroke it almost like a control wand to tell me if you like what I am doing and what pace to use that is very sexy.

Anyway I point that out for a reason. If you ever do a session with me, don't be in a hurry to make me pop. I tend to be a one and done guy--I get real sleepy after a climax--almost dopey. It has to do with the tantric build-up I have done before our session and I have an intense orgasm, when I do finally cum. I usually have pretty good control during CFS and BJ, but if you were to say start sucking my cock as I am giving you an orgasm, I will lose control--this can be problematic, especially if you are not CIM. It is one of the reasons I actually prefer to avoid 69. I like taking turns. It allows us to focus.

My recent experience has been if we start slow and build trust we both have a much better time and I have learned that ALL women can indeed experience a full-body, squirting orgasm like this:

WHAT DOES A GRAPE SEED OIL ORGASM LOOK LIKE?


Speaking of GSO2. . .it is my favorite thing we will do BCD. Once I make you cum like that, I like tasting my reward. By the way that should dispel the misnomer that it is urine. That sharp urge you will feel is not the need to pee, it is the loading up of your uretha sponge--if you will trust me and relax and go with it, I will empty it for you. It tastes like sugar water because it is mostly sucrose that your body secrets when you get excited.

As to what rocks my world when on the receiving end. . .hmm. . .it does vary depending on the chemistry I might have with a given provider but I wouldn't be honest if I said it was not almost all tied into a great BBBJ. Don't get me wrong, I like fucking as much as the next person, but I am a VERY oral person. IF long and intense DATY and BBBJ is not on the menu, I am headed to a different restaurant.

I love BBBJ. CIM/WS is awesome, but not required as only a few woman have caused me to cumm that way, anyway. I wish I could cum more easily that way, but we usually have to do CFS to finish.

So what makes a great BBBJ? I wish I could tell you. I am not even sure that making me cum with the BBBJ is the true mark of a great BBBJ. In my mind, the longer it lasts and the more you can make me rise and fall, the better it is. As to that handful of gals that did manage to make me cum that way, I still haven't figured out what they did that was different then other ladies beyond the fact that they all did this:

1) They had genuine enthusiasm while sucking my cock. If you don't enjoy it, that is fine, but don't fake it with a cheesey pornstar approach. The ladies that have made me pop during a BJ either loved it, or did a fine job of pretending to love it without it being campy and silly.

2) Eye contact is crucial.

3) At the start of the BJ I actually enjoy it to be very soft and demure--yeah I know I am weird, but when you go slow and tentative and keep looking at me with questioning eyes, WOW! Go slow and act curious--it drives me wild.

4) As the BJ progresses, get a bit sloppy. Go ahead and drool on it--never spit--sensual ropes of saliva hanging from your lips to my shaft is a very visual turn-on. I know some guys like spitting--I hate it. Please don't even spit in your hand for lubrication. I know--I am weird.

5) Don't just bob up and down. Use your lips to go sideways along the shaft and underside. Hover over just the middle and on the side of the shaft with an open mouth and mix it up with some licking and teasing--a little hint, it gives your mouth and jaw a rest and it still looks very hot and feels good. One of my favorite ladies does this thing where she glides her open mouth along the right side of the shaft until she reaches the top, encircles the hood in her mouth and sucks hard for a moment and smacks her lips on it as she pulls and releases (that audible lip smacking is also a big turn on) and then glides down the other side with her open mouth. She does this several times throughout the BJ.

6) Make a lot of noise when you give a blow job. Hum, moan, gurgle. . .whatever you feel inspired to do--some girls act like they can only quietly bob up and down. Ladies, please listen to me--this is the female version of that dude, that keeps flicking your clitoris with the exact same single finger motion directly on the nub of your clit over and over again until you want to smack him. Nobody, male or female, like monotonous stimulation! MIX IT UP! Try just cupping the shaft and hood and gently sucking on only the frenulum in between drafts. If you DT, great, but don't limit the blow job to engulfing me and making that "puhhh" sound. I appreciate your skill, but given that I know my cock is not that long, I don't feel the need to only experience DT. Some of the best head I have ever had never went lower than mid shaft.

7) At the very least, play with the balls with your hands, but if you can enjoy it, please nibble and lick them. If you are a very oral person, then suck them both into your mouth and roll them around. I once had a gal that managed to get the full length and my balls in her mouth. I wish I had a video of it--I was shocked when she did it, and had I not seen it with my own eyes I would not have believed it. By the way, I love it if you want to take photos or videos. We can watch them together and eat chocolate strawberries and have a few laughs--then delete them together for safety.

8) Please don't limit your blow jobs to me spread eagle on the bed with you folded in a kneeling position between my legs so that all I can see is your head bobbing. I understand your need for control until we get used to one another, but once again mix it up. If you can do it, try laying on the bed with your head tilted off the end and let me slide in and out of your mouth. Having me stand while you kneel is also very visual and quite arousing. Even better have me mostly on the bed with legs dangling off while you use an ottoman or bench to sit comfortably on so I can alternate between sitting up or laying back--if we have a larger king bed, try sliding along me from the side so I can see a different angle while you go down on me.

9) Once we trust each other, let me gently guide your head and touch your neck and face as you gobble me. Maybe it is weird, but I love to do that. I promise to be gentle.

10) If you do CIM or Swallow, wonderful--awesome I love it. If you do not allow it, that is your choice, but please try to keep it sexy, if you can manage to make me cumm outside of your mouth. Play with the ropes in your fingers, maybe spread it on your cheek or chest. Please do not act like poison just shot out of my penis and reach for a napkin, towel, or dash off to spit it in the sink or toilet. I would rather have you drool it on me and have you play with it on my skin than to make me feel like a jerk for having icky white fluid leak out of my body. It sorta breaks the mood when I see you run off and hear a yack and spit. One of the best BJs I had the lady preferred no CIM, but the way she handled it by clamping the tip as I came and spreading it like icing on her closed lips and cheek, I no longer cared. If you have limitations, that is fine, but try to think about how you can flip that and actually make the limitation kinda sexy.

Let's see. . .we are on a roll. . .sorry that this is long, but maybe it is helpful.

During sex, I love when a woman slows us down, looks deeply in my eyes and just grinds her pelvis into me, letting her body tell me how much she enjoys our time together. I like it when you arch your back and let me cup your rump or roll my hand along your hips and lower back as you stretch and enjoy our fucking. I love when you wrap your legs around me--either my back and hips if you have long legs, or ankles crossed around my neck if you have short legs.

Hey, backtrack a second. . .before we ever take our clothes off, I love it when you come up behind me and hug me and then snake your hands around my hips and play with my cock in your hands letting me know how much you are looking forward to playing. Tease me and undress me--that is very sexy. If you also bite on my ear and suck on my neck as you unfasten my belt and fly, you might just cause me to cream my jeans and then you are going to be rewarded with a hour of massage and DATY as mentioned above, I am rarely a second pop kinda guy.

That should be enough to get an idea. . .feel free to ask me anything. . .remember the brain is the biggest sex organ we have, so the mere fact you would talk about what I like and what you like BEFORE we meet or as we chat and kiss. . .that really turns me on when a woman WANTS TO TALK ABOUT SEX.

--Anon

Now I need a BCD session. . .Ladies?
Benji's, greenbacks, benjamins, dollar bills, "chedda", "stacks", hell whatever they are calling it these days, if its green, american currency...im sooooo turned on

I joke, I joke!!

Confident man..meaning, a man that knows what he wants and isn't afraid to ask for it

oh..and GREEK or should i say knowing i will get greek
I have to second ANONONE's entire post. That's almost exactly my list of turn-ons as well. Also meeting me at the door with a long kiss and a little friendly groping of Little Trombone is going to get me going.

Other favorites:
Dirty talk, the dirtier the better, including some friendly name calling. As long as it's spontaneous and not a rehearsed or mechanical shtick.

"Pull my hair! Spank my ass!"

Reach underneath and stroke my balls in cowgirl and doggie.

And finally,
Redheads.
I really love it when I can tell that she is getting into it. You can hear the wetness as we are moving. She can grab my hips to move me to that spot that really gets her. And then I swear you can hear the "splash". LOL
Also I love when it starts to get nasty and I hear the "Fuck me harder" and she spits on her hand and reaches back and sticks her finger in and out of her ass. WOW! That is hot!
When her eyes get glazed over when she is feeling the "O" coming on.
Then I know I'm doing something right and she isn't acting.
Nitwitboy's Avatar
Carrie Hillcrest's Feet. I can't afford to sped time with them though.
johnnybax's Avatar
Kissing turns me on, more than anything..

AND,

The facial expressions a woman makes when she cums
lilsmurf's Avatar
Crotchless panties and readi-whip works pretty good for me!