Cant finish. Whats wrong with me.

.... A sign of this is that that your hard-ons are too 'hard'. Being too stiff usually doesn't feel too good. Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

Gosh. I read this and I have to admit, I'm SO glad that I do not have a penis, although I'll often wonder how it feels to have one.

You have to worry about it getting TOO hard now? Or there is worry is it's too soft. Then, you need to worry that your penis will STAY hard for a determined amount of time. Or the cock gets hard but it's not hard enough to penetrate.

Or it's hard and then, get soft because of a movement. Perhaps a whisper of a movement in the wrong direction.

Jesus. I'd never be able to perform if I had that type of pressure.

... I have to admit, I'm SO glad that I do not have a penis, ... Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

The boys and I have decided we're also glad you don't have a penis.

Just remember there is nothing wrong with you. I too have had trouble finishing on occasion. This problem "cums and goes" from time to time. Try to concentrate on the whole session not just the pop. It really is a riddle.. but relax and find the gals you have chemistry with and don't book too often. If I try for more than 3 or 4 sessions in a week I see a decline in success..

Gosh. I read this and I have to admit, I'm SO glad that I do not have a penis, although I'll often wonder how it feels to have one.

You have to worry about it getting TOO hard now? Or there is worry is it's too soft. Then, you need to worry that your penis will STAY hard for a determined amount of time. Or the cock gets hard but it's not hard enough to penetrate.

Or it's hard and then, get soft because of a movement. Perhaps a whisper of a movement in the wrong direction.

Jesus. I'd never be able to perform if I had that type of pressure.

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Yeah, if it's too stiff, there's a possibility of sensitivity loss. I personally like it when i'm about 90-95% wood. This is a very firm 'setting' (lol...like I can control it), with nice sensitivity, a self sustaining level, and with the right blood placement, I seem to be at my largest at this setting for some reason (maybe it's an illusion). The only problem here is, I can't control when it happens.

Sensitivity is based on rigidness to some degree. Like, if Superman was a real person, with his invulnerable skin, he wouldn't be able to feel pleasure. Sure, you can hit him with a slab of concrete and he would barely feel it, but the flip side of that is, a soft, wet, sexy kiss from a beautiful woman would be lost on him, too. It'd be a bittersweet privilege to be Superman if you really thought about it.

As far as the OP goes, I'm inclined to think it's sensitivity issues. If you're rubbing it out too many times in between visits, scaling back will re-sensititize your wood. The more times you DON'T rub out, the better.

The best way to deal with THAT is to not have pussy on your mind so much.

Gosh. I read this and I have to admit, I'm SO glad that I do not have a penis, although I'll often wonder how it feels to have one.

You have to worry about it getting TOO hard now? Or there is worry is it's too soft. Then, you need to worry that your penis will STAY hard for a determined amount of time. Or the cock gets hard but it's not hard enough to penetrate.

Or it's hard and then, get soft because of a movement. Perhaps a whisper of a movement in the wrong direction.

Jesus. I'd never be able to perform if I had that type of pressure.

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Not too hot, hot too cold... It needs to be JUST right..

I had been told "to not cum my mouth" for so many years from girlfriends i needed to hear her say/ ask for me to cum in mouth, I got to the point where i just ask the girl before she started to say a few times. That's all I needed.

This is a great topic and a testament to the benefits of this forum. I appreciate all of the comments and advice from the male and female contributors. It's good to know that I'm not the only one who has experienced this. In my case, I tend to start with a case of nerves and then worry that I'm taking too long. That usually doesn't bode well for a successful ending.

This is a great topic and a testament to the benefits of this forum. I appreciate all of the comments and advice from the male and female contributors. It's good to know that I'm not the only one who has experienced this. In my case, I tend to start with a case of nerves and then worry that I'm taking too long. That usually doesn't bode well for a successful ending. Originally Posted by doublebogey49

That is another thing. Taking too long and the concern that the lady is getting tired. If I wanted her to sweat, I'd give her a gym membership.

Sometimes, the element of surprise can bring it on. Just tonight, I visited one of my regular massage / L1 ladies. Out of curiosity, I asked her if she would get on the table with me and cuddle. Most will not do that and I was half joking. She did, and while we were cuddling, she took me in her hand and pulled me to her legs and simulated L3. I was done in 5 minutes.

The finishes are lurking out there. You never know when they will pounce.

Keep trying and set your expectations to a nice conversation / touching session and let the rest happen.

Try uncharted territory? Try being with a hot girl who is wearing a strap-on or a smoking hot babe who is smacking you with a horse crop every time she sees your peepee goes to sleep. If she really knows what she's doing, I'll bet the adrenaline will wake it up!!

Kudos to all contributions! Some of y'all are silly, sexy, and just the right amount of weird.
Whether its from too much self gratification, to just needing to finding the right pair of lips, or simply needing to step out of my mindfuck to let go; everything...and nothing... makes sense. And i love y'all for it. Thanks for chiming in, people.......I feel good now. Wish me luck.

i have ahd more than one provider tell me to masterbate using a condom. i been trying it not sure if it will work when i step up to the plate with a provider.

Keep us updated!

it's all nerves

My suggestion is it's a Mental thing..... just look back if you have issues....married, work stress, alcohol and other as it affects.

Quit watching porn!