Frustrated with this particular group help a sista out lol

Ok one all of my photos are real and definitely me. Two escort books site was down. Three I refuse to swap fluid with someone and risk having something I can't get rid of. THANKS BUT NO THANKS. I Can definitely do without being apart of this "community" if it means I have to lower the very standards that keep me clean. Someone said I sounded arrogant 🤷🏽♀️ I'm not I just dont depend on this site I just was open to giving it a try. I absolutely see AA MEN I JUST PREFER FOR THEM TO BE OF A CERTAIN AGE if that makes some guys uncomfortable well that's not my problem I love black men but let's be honest they have big equipment which I love but not all day the older men are more gentle. Seems to me like some women have to do certain things and some dont. I'll let you all have this one seems like it's meant for ppl willing to do more for less which isn't my cup of tea. Thanks for the responses be safe out there and good luck 👑

You be safe. Good luck to you as well ma’am. I
will say that you got some great advice from some individuals that meant well. However, you found a way to reduce them to being a part of the “more for less” crowd, which is not your cup of tea.

Again, good luck. Please don’t DM me again either.

I knew she was going respond the way she did, which is why I made the prediction I made at the end of my previous post. I damn near could have written her reply for her. Lol.

OP, maybe you should disable your account and head to LC, since you do so good there.

After all the replies so many give her including some very good ones from her fellow ladies - not in so many words to all of us who replied with advice, she said FUA - yet she was the one who ask for the help.

I'll make a rare appearance to answer this the way I would have liked the OP to answer, so that maybe some other new lady will benefit. Unfortunately, I think this is a lost cause. I do wish she would explain what seems to be a list of upcharges in the Rate section of her website.

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Thank you all for taking the time to answer my original post. WOW, you definitely gave me some things to think about!

So, to comment on some of the suggestions...first, my photos are definitely all me. I like the suggestion of posting a few cute new selfies...so here they are! (insert a selfie or two here).

Escortbook was down, but it works now. I understand the frustration and confusion, but that one was out of my hands. I just checked and it works now. I probably need to just get my own domain and a simple website though so I have a bit more control.

Regarding the CBJ, I totally get that people have their own preferences. This is mine and I understand that it is a deal breaker for many, but I'm going to stand firm on this one. I will just try to knock it out of the park in the other areas and hopefully some guys will still give me a chance.

I'm not trying to come across as arrogant at all and I'm sorry if I did. Rereading my comments, I now realize some of my comments might be insulting to other ladies who have different preferences. I did not mean it that way at all and I'm sorry if I offended anyone.

Regarding seeing AA gentleman under 40. Yes, that is my preference, but I agree, it is probably better to deal with that int he screening process rather than having a bunch of NO's in my ads or on my website. Thanks for the suggestion.

I agree my one review is pathetic, but the guy was just trying to help by signing up and writing it. If I would have faked it, I would have done better, LOL. I'll consider a review special.

I'll be taking your suggestions to heart and hope to participate more here. Thanks again and good luck to you all!

^^ stop this logical, professional nonsense. Lol

We like hearing screw you all tricks. I'm the queen 👸👑

I LOVE your response B Three! That's exactly how she should have replied.

She did start this thread after all and she DID ask for HELP. Many members took the time to click on her review, her bio page and website, and then offered advice. No one shoved it down her throat or said, "You HAVE to do it this way or you won't get any business!"

Nobody said that. And so; was she grateful for the help? No.
And like other people have said, if you do so great on other websites and don't need or want to be a member of Eccie; then don't be. I don't think anyone is begging the OP to stay.

If I need advice, I usually ask in a more private area, or PM someone whos' posts and reviews I admire, or even in person. And I like to think I can take constructive criticism. I've done it before many times. I have listened to the well reviewed and seasoned smart ladies and have changed the way I do things over the years. I always want to do my job better and smarter. Weather or not I've asked for advice, or if someone kindly PM's me with a suggestion, or says, "that's not really working for you". Or "pic #6 isn't good on your bio page. But #12 is hot! Maybe get more like that, that are more representative of you"
I wrote back with a grateful, "THANK YOU!"
The only thing I knew about screening, besides my gut feeling and intuition; was to ask the client in person, "are you a cop?" Seriously! I was a dumb newbie. Thanks goodness for the ladies here who posted about how to screen and what verification sites to use.
Thank you ladies, from the bottom of my heart.

Most of us don't enter this profession with an MBA from Harvard or Yale, or even have a book on how to advertise, market yourself or screen. Everything I used to know about advertising and marketing I got from Mad Men. And Backpage. Before a client told me about Eccie and P411 of course! I'm so much less judgmental and more tolerant of different kinds of men and women. I learned so much from the other members, I still do.

The political climate has changed a lot, and a lady who doesn't keep up and doesn't have a site where the ladies can talk to each other and place alerts...well, I wouldn't want to be like that. And CoEd is invaluable as well for getting the male POV. I like that I've learned things about guys that I never knew before, (of course each man is an individual, but some advice is universal). And I think this info helps me in my RW relationship. So thanks everyone for the pillow talk, and for posting real info, advice, and real problems in CoEd, not just always being snarky and making a joke. I like to read for the humor too, though!

It's not just about making appointments. It's also about how to play and work well with others. About being able to change. And when you're in any kind of business, you need to be able to treat people right, and be professional. And having a safe place to exchange ideas, and a place with advice on how to STAY safe.

I'll be logging off for good soon, and I feel nostalgic. Isn't that silly? Some of the best people I've ever met in the world, (and from ALL over the world), have been right here on Eccie and P411. Good, kind people who would fix things around my condo with no expectations. Several good people who would check on me frequently, just to see how I was, since I lived alone and didn't drive. A couple of times when I was hospitalized for this and that, they supported me through the times I couldn't work. Without me asking and with no expectations.
Sorry for getting so sentimental, but I am. Sigh.

Thanks B3, Hopefully, some other new lady here will read and appreciate the info that we took the time to post. She is young and beautiful but that will get you just so far in life.

^^ stop this logical, professional nonsense. Lol

We like hearing screw you all tricks. I'm the queen 👸👑 Originally Posted by Shep3.0

Well, she did say you dumb whores can keep doing what these tricks want for less than I charge. I know how to read through the BS and translated this for the ones that didn't understand.

Has there ever been a provider that explicitly states "No white dudes under 40" or "No Korean guys?" Feels like a lot of providers put up with an excessive amount of B.S. from other dudes but will cast out all brothas after one bad experience. If it was really about "preference" I'd expect to see some diversity in "preferences."

Rant over.

I've not seen that, but there have been a few providers that have stated that they do not see Asians... and a few who have stated that they will not see Indians.

So, sista, did this thread go the way you wanted it to?

I definitely responded once. like I stated I do not depend on eccie so I won't take to much time to spend on here I thanked every one for their response and left it at that. Have a good one