Perspectives on Hobbying

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One thing that I have noticed truly getting lost by some is the ability to be discreet.

I remember just a few short years ago where a lady was banned, shunned etc if she didn't have the ability to be discreet and keep the secrets of what happens behind closed doors. I'm noticing more and more it's OKAY for a lady to mention details of a session and have it linked to a specific review.

This is quite alarming to me and MAJOR- RED FLAGS jet every where.

I'm not talking about the non-specific details of a visit and no mention of with who (or handle).

Learning to be discreet in posts, affairs in the hobby is VERY important. Not only for gentlemen but its EXTREMELY important to for ladies to keep things private and out of the public eye. If we must share something still don't link it to a specific handle if it's not mentioned in the review and go behind the scene to talk about it. There are places as well to talk about extra things and that is the locker room, but even there do not be so sure all is secure from prying eyes.

We never know when and where LEO is watching. We are hearing more and more of busts all over the place.

Some around on the board have been around a long while and know how to avoid serious mishaps.

Nice THT.

Good info THANK YOU!

Brand new on the forum and only one date under my belt. Thanks for giving the info so I can start on the right foot.

Bravo Clouddancer!

I love men like you Smart and down to the point in a sophisticated manner.... I wish they all could be like you...

I agree with what you are saying in the abstract. I think everyone values discretion; however, I think some hobbyists and providers bring things on themselves-- knowingly or unknowingly. There is a lot of light-hearted banter that goes on here. This leads in some degree to a familiarity between providers and clients. At some point, parties drop their guard a bit which leads to a loss of discretion. We are all social beings with an innate desire to share with others. It goes both ways. It also makes the board a fun place to come and "socialize". As long as everyone is cognizant of this, then I don't see problems. Yes, it is a subtle lack of discretion, but on some level it is almost necessary. Otherwise, the board becomes boring with a lack of personality.

One thing that I have noticed truly getting lost by some is the ability to be discreet.

I remember just a few short years ago where a lady was banned, shunned etc if she didn't have the ability to be discreet and keep the secrets of what happens behind closed doors. I'm noticing more and more it's OKAY for a lady to mention details of a session and have it linked to a specific review.

This is quite alarming to me and MAJOR- RED FLAGS jet every where.

I'm not talking about the non-specific details of a visit and no mention of with who (or handle).

Learning to be discreet in posts, affairs in the hobby is VERY important. Not only for gentlemen but its EXTREMELY important to for ladies to keep things private and out of the public eye. If we must share something still don't link it to a specific handle if it's not mentioned in the review and go behind the scene to talk about it. There are places as well to talk about extra things and that is the locker room, but even there do not be so sure all is secure from prying eyes.

We never know when and where LEO is watching. We are hearing more and more of busts all over the place.

Some around on the board have been around a long while and know how to avoid serious mishaps. Originally Posted by TheHorseTrainer

Thank you Lovely.
I am extremely flattered.

Awesome. This helped a lot. Thanks.

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Being a veteran of this industry, I believe and I'd like to still believe that discretion IS something that both parties value. However, it's inevitable that either by accident or without meaning to harm someone, gossip and 'indiscretions' leak out. When I first began working, it was for an agency and the internet was not a part yet of the hobbiest/provider industry as it is now...imagine that and how the internet revolutionalized this profession and all those involved. At the agency, it was very competitive, ( and worse in a brothel) and many girls would badmouth the other girls to clients, hoping to get more 'biz' for themselves. Unfortunately, there were a few uncscrupulous clients who seemed to enjoy creating even more drama between the girls by telling them 'so and so thinks you're ugly' and so forth. Bottom line is: if you have nothing nice to say about someone, DON'T SAY IT. If you don't want aspects of your private life being shared and gossipped about, keep it to yourself.


But inevitably, especially with regulars ( and we can assume they can be more trusted in some ways too, revealing things to us providers in great confidence, one of the paradoxes of this business: we are perfect strangers when we meet the first time, and many times, intimate secrets and details are shared. Our vulnerability is revealed on both sides) we often end up sharing parts of our lives. Now some providers never tell the truth and neither do clients, they may tell different things to different individuals. I respect that.

Occasionally a client by mistake might reveal a little too much about, for example, a lady's incall location or other things about her in a review or to another provider who might be used as a reference. I kindly reminded a client of mine not to tell other providers or put in my reviews that my incall was 'LOCATED ON SUCH AND SUCH A STREET AND RIGHT BY SUCH AND SUCH LAKE' and that I had beautiful things in my incall. He literally put it all out there. He was very old and may have not realized his mistake, but it could have been potentially harmful.


With personal details, well, I think everyone has their own personal boundaries about that. Clients know I work at the gym, and a few of them know which gym. One even LOL recognized me from the gym and I didn't have a problem with that, because if he went around talking about it, I don't think the other gym members would appreciate the fact that he was married, an outstanding member of the local community, and that he had children AND was looking at escort sites. We discreetly did set up an appointment, and to his joy, he finally got to see his favorite personal trainer in the buff


In this business I have met many wonderful men, a few of whom no longer hobby, but who have remained good friends over the years and whom I still go out to dinner with and communicate with. They are old friends, and we don't have a lot to hide from each other now. On the other extreme I've been married to one client and dated a few others, and they met my parents, and while my parents are aware of my work, we never bought it up naturally.


It's all up to the individuals as to how much discretion they want to use in their sessions and provider/hobbyist relationships.

What I DO know for sure is...if a client begins to gossip about another girl or a girl begins to badmouth a client ( unless he deserved it in some way, was dangerous or disrespectful) I immediately terminate that conversation with the old saying, " Don't say anything unless you have something nice to say, and I don't need to know where she/he lives or what he/she does for a living outside the biz or whether or not..." you get the picture.

Less is more in the hobby world!