Why do you do it?

Man, Inspector Farquar, the way you write is so elegant. I wish I could answer you with the same eloquence and insight-fullness.



^This. This right there is what I want so bad, but I feel like I can never have. In a way, its funny. Most people get into 'hobbying' because they are tired of their married/tied down life. Then there's me, who wants the married/tied down life badly for every other reason but the sexual monotony. I find it interesting how some people on this thread say that they do "it" behind their SO's back (some even with their permission *Riverstud*). But a marriage without unswerving dedication....is that really marriage? If I'd known that I would have never started this thread. Originally Posted by MagicJohnson12

Sheesh….you're only 22. You should save your money and don't even look for women….work towards your goals/career, you may meet some interesting women down the road and along the way. Not girls….women! Some of them may even keep you on your toes for a long long while. You think too much!
PS: Be careful picking up random girls…if they're that easy, there's a good chance they have STD (since you mentioned you worry about STD).

@SAangel27 Your advice really hits home for me. Especially because, that thing you mentioned,
[QUOTE]you would probably would piss them off by requiring too much OTC time ...yeah....already been doing that for the past week, while I decide whether I actually want to go through with this or not.

Only problem is, I don't see another way. I feel like I'm dooming myself to something,and I don't know what exactly it is. But its inevitable and its the only way. What you said about treating civvies like dirt bags and just getting along on one night stands, I've tried that before. Doesn't work that well for me. sooner or later I'm back in the relationship game, and the only thing I know for sure is that's a game I don't want to play right now (at least for a while).

@lookn4boobies No, I don't have porn issues (what are porn issues anyway?), and no I'm not a latent homosexual because I think I would know by now.

Anyway, I really didn't intend to make this thread all about me. It seems like majority of the posts are either condemning me for my ignorance or giving me sound advice (which I appreciate). All I wanted was to read some cool stuff *about other people*.

Sheesh….you're only 22. You should save your money and don't even look for women….work towards your goals/career, you may meet some interesting women down the road and along the way. Not girls….women! Some of them may even keep you on your toes for a long long while. You think too much!
PS: Be careful picking up random girls…if they're that easy, there's a good chance they have STD (since you mentioned you worry about STD). Originally Posted by samantha thom

Didn't realize being 22 was that big of a deal in this....errr hobby(?) I know a lot of people(friends, people that I grew up with) who've been seeing escorts since forever. Granted, they only do it sparingly, and don't go on forums to discuss it. Doing it maybe once in a blue moon is what I intended to do as well. Just came on here because wanted to have my bases covered, probably because I am "just that type of guy". I freak out about doing anything that is not strictly legal.

Pyramider your display pic has scarred me for life lmao

MJ - Have you considered open relationships? Assuming you don't have jealousy issues this might be a good option for you while you are still figuring yourself out. The main thing you need to do is make sure you communicate with your partner. Let her know the problems you had with your past relationships. Even if you don't put out just be affectionate (cuddle, give hugs, kiss the top of her head, etc.)

Try FetLife....you can stay away from the scarier parts....and good luck.

Are you sure you are not a hooktard?

You boys just cracked me up! sponge Bob and Fartbox,
@Pyramider and @Chicagoboy

Don't knock it if you haven't tried it Foxychica. But posting taint photos is always welcome.

SAangel27 is very wise, there is a way to have it all and explore. There are plenty of girls in this day and age that want a cuddle buddy...friendship..sex...with out the ties of a true relationship.
There is the potential for more to grow without the pressures.

And MJ...do you....don't worry so much of what people think.

Everyone in this life makes the choices they do because of the road they have travelled...None of us have the right to judge that.

I have heard just about everything.
There are Widows that don't want to commit to another woman because they feel like they are "cheating".
There are gentlemen with wives that have medical issues and can't no matter how much they may want to please their husbands sexually.
There are men that have complete bitches for wives and divorce is too messy and expensive.
There are men that have wives that give them 90% of everything they need but sexual satisfaction.
There are men that want variety.
There are single men that don't want to commit.
There are hundreds of reasons....and people will justify what ever actions they choose to.

It's an individual choice.....but if you aren't ready for this and you are really looking to fulfill an emotional need...THIS IS NOT THE PLACE for you.
You WILL get hurt and quite possibly find yourself in financial ruin.

Some providers are very exploitative and manipulative...when your heart starts thinking, you are done...because I have never heard of a provider that is here looking for her soul mate.

Big truths in your post.

SAangel27 is very wise, there is a way to have it all and explore. There are plenty of girls in this day and age that want a cuddle buddy...friendship..sex...with out the ties of a true relationship.
There is the potential for more to grow without the pressures.

And MJ...do you....don't worry so much of what people think.

Everyone in this life makes the choices they do because of the road they have travelled...None of us have the right to judge that.

I have heard just about everything.
There are Widows that don't want to commit to another woman because they feel like they are "cheating".
There are gentlemen with wives that have medical issues and can't no matter how much they may want to please their husbands sexually.
There are men that have complete bitches for wives and divorce is too messy and expensive.
There are men that have wives that give them 90% of everything they need but sexual satisfaction.
There are men that want variety.
There are single men that don't want to commit.
There are hundreds of reasons....and people will justify what ever actions they choose to.

It's an individual choice.....but if you aren't ready for this and you are really looking to fulfill an emotional need...THIS IS NOT THE PLACE for you.
You WILL get hurt and quite possibly find yourself in financial ruin.

Some providers are very exploitative and manipulative...when your heart starts thinking, you are done...because I have never heard of a provider that is here looking for her taint mate. Originally Posted by kami405

Fixed it.

like farquar i suddenly found myself single and in no position or mood to date. the lovely ladies of the night provide a brief respite from the wars i wage on a daily basis, and for that, i'll be eternally grateful.

as for you, op....just have fun. learn life. stop looking so hard, because that's the best way to find the wrong thing.

Why do you do it?

Cause it ain't gonna lick it's self and I ain't near flexible enough...

I like young pussy

Thats about it

Didn't realize being 22 was that big of a deal in this....errr hobby(?) Originally Posted by MagicJohnson12

Unfortunately for some ladies it is a big deal, as plenty have a "No one under 30, 35, etc." rule. I'm 26 and have been hobbying since I was 19 though so there are ways around those rules (Like not acting like a complete horndog when contacting ladies). As for why I do it, I wasn't getting any in high school and wanted to check a lot of stuff off my bucket list (Older women, Porn Stars, etc.) so here I am. The hobby's probably fucked me up for life in terms of pursuing regular relationships but oh well.