I know I'm new here, but...

Tomcats and queens...

I like the term hobbyist. It sounds pleasant and it's not a term that anyone outside of the community would likely recognize.

I frakking hate 'tard names. It's highly disrespectful. I refer to everyone I see, whether in the hobby or in my legitimate field, as a client. When I'm speaking of women, I refer to them as ladies; men are gentlemen. Multiple individuals engaged in this pursuit on either side are hobbyists.



I would rather be called a whore than a hooktard, frankly... It's at least a little more accurate.
'Tard suggests stupidity, whether in action or mentality - anyone who has ever spoken with me knows that nothing could be further from the truth. Whore, on the other hand, has a certain delicious taboo naughtiness. Hooker is just crass, and reminds me of streetwalkers. If I have to be called anything other than what I am, which is a woman, I suppose whore will do just fine. Originally Posted by theCFE

Everyone has tard moments....hobbyists, providers, moderators, admins, and even the owner. Some people have them much more often than others.

Client has the connotation of an exchange of money just as many of the other names do...except for hobbyist.

I know a lady in the biz that giggles when she is called a "provider" and says "Call me a whore." So I do. It is actually quite comical. I utter the word "whore" more times in a one hour session with her than I do the entire rest of the year.