I'm posting this here because I would like opinions/suggestions from both sides of the fence. Not totally sure that I'm behaving in an honorable manner.
There is a provider that I've been seeing on a fairly regular basis over the last 2 months. I've never written a review on her because she is very much UTR. I met her through a retired provider that I still keep in touch with. I've seen her 6 times total and every one of them has been great.
Last week after recovering from our visit we were lying in bed talking and our mutual love of the deserts at a local restaurant came up. We ended up going there and spent 3 hours talking. She has texted or called me every day since. I didn't mind because I really enjoy her company. I called her yesterday to set up a visit because I still had a bad taste in my mouth over a lousy session I had with another provider the previous night. We agreed to meet up in the early evening. An hour before I called to find out where she had her incall. She asked me if I had dinner plans and I told her I didn't. She had me come over to her house for dinner before our activities.
At first I was a little reluctant to agree to it but then I figured why not, it was a nice gesture. I get there and she had the mood set-dim lights, candles, Coltrane and Miles playing on the stereo. We had a great time talking and laughing. Wonderful cook on top of it all. Between dinner, hanging out, and BCD I was there for 5 hours. When we had our session she did a couple of things that she hadn't done before. She is GFE with certain restrictions. Last night most of the restrictions were lifted. She let me do FUHA and we finished with CIM. Usually the backdoor is off limits and I either finish up with COB or HJ (In case anyone is wondering FS was still covered and she didn't offer otherwise). She also did MSOG; usually it's only one pop. At first I thought she was just giving me a special session to make up for the shitty one I had the night before. She then strongly hinted that I was free to stay the night if I wanted to. I had stuff to do this morning so I politely passed.
Today she has called or texted me a few times. I didn't mind but I was a little concerned. She then asked me to come over again tonight so she could cook for me. I passed because I had plans. She then said that I should go over later for "desert". I told her no that I was tapped out financially after 3 appointments in a weeks time (usually I only hobby once a week). She said something to the effect of, "We can figure out payment later." I declined and she sounded disappointed. Just got a text from her asking me to go over and take a bubble bath with her followed by a picture of her in the tub. I called back and asked what was on her mind. She didn't flat out say it but I got the impression that she likes me.
Now I don't know what to do. I like her and enjoy her company but the big reason I hobby is because of the crazy hours I tend to work. I don't have time for any romantic hassles. I also don't think I could date a provider. No judgement call on any of the ladies its just when I have had a SO in the past all my hobbying ceased. I like monogamy and can't imagine juggling 2-3 girlfriends at once. How do I let her know that I'm not interested in anything romantic and would like to keep the relationship friendly and professional without hurting her? I would hate to lose her as one of my regular girls because I do enjoy spending time with her. I guess I want my cake and be able to eat it too but I suspect it's not going to be possible.
Originally Posted by JHurt1968
This never ends well, but you will see. Very experienced hobbyists like myself have learned why you always keep the relationship strictly professional. But the only way that I learned was through a bad experience. It sounds like you may be getting ready to have one.