My ATF left me. What do I do now!?

Lucas McCain's Avatar
Sorry, I misread. I thought you said she has been gone for 6 months, not that you knew her for 6 months and that she has been gone for only a month.
pyramider's Avatar
Some need to stick with downloading porn.
Just get back to doing it with some of these great Providers here. Believe me, if you sit around thinking about it, it'll swamp you.

Stay busy to get your mind off it. You have a high chance of finding another great girl.

No girl will replace the one you lost, it's impossible. You don't want that anyway.
While I appreciate the losing the ATF sentiment, these gals are real people, real lives, real problems, feelings and dreams far beyond the session they share. Hopefully, her family and others dear to her can heal from the grief of losing her. Hang in there.
OldGrump's Avatar
Gnostalgia, I obviously misinterpreted your opening comments. It is clear you cared deeply for her as a person and that her loss is painful to you. I'm sorry.

It isn't that the OP came here for advice but apparently for empathy. Where else can he discuss his feelings and get understanding for the loss of this type of relationship? We form unique feelings for these ladies and they are real.
I understand how you feel. Just remember the great times you had with her. You think out of all the people on this planet, everyday while out and about, they have little or any impact on your life, but the ones you do make a connection with even briefly that have made a great impression, cherish and remember it.
This goes for the gals that have retired. All you can do is hope they are doing extremely well in whatever life they have since moving on.

Sad to hear what happen. While an ATF can never truly be replaced but there are other wonderful gals out there waiting to become your next ATF. Just a little searching is all it takes.
Gnostalgia's Avatar
I understand how you feel. Just remember the great times you had with her. You think out of all the people on this planet, everyday while out and about, they have little or any impact on your life, but the ones you do make a connection with even briefly that have made a great impression, cherish and remember it.
This goes for the gals that have retired. All you can do is hope they are doing extremely well in whatever life they have since moving on.

Sad to hear what happen. While an ATF can never truly be replaced but there are other wonderful gals out there waiting to become your next ATF. Just a little searching is all it takes. Originally Posted by fine dimes21
thanks for your insights. Yes, memories are fabulous.
Brot's Avatar
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  • 02-09-2014, 02:18 PM
Sorry for your loss Mr. G. What helps me is remembering what was special about them and sharing it. Guessing maybe that there are not to many places for you to share your grief.

Best wishes.
lda523287's Avatar
I'm very sorry for your loss, I think you should follow your intuition and allow time to heal your hurt. Cherish the memories you two shared, they'll last forever.
Sorry about your loss.
This happened to me, too. The anniversary of her passing is coming up soon. I suggest you give it time, then contact someone like CompanionSofia to help you enjoy being alive. I understand your loss and can only tell you it takes time to get over it. Best of luck.
Bob the Nailer's Avatar
Dude, I feel your pain. An ATF is such for a reason and its usually not because she can make you nut in 5 minutes. Rather for the bond you share. I've lost some ladies I was very fond of not to death, but retirement, real life, true love, who knows.

In this hobby, we share quite intimate parts of ourself and sometimes become attached even though we know better. Time really does help, but I also suggest sha-sha @ pink one. She will help too.

I'm being honest and not mocking your pain. I lost one last year, so I know your pain
BigDBone's Avatar
The first few post, they are morons. You feel what you feel, don't know how close you was to this provider. Many providers in the hobby, its a business, but you may find another ATF you can share whatever you are looking for
pyramider's Avatar
The first couple of posts were well thought out and gave sound advice. How can one judge others in the hobby when he is inquiring about something as simple as a phone?
MaximusBlake's Avatar
I really sympathize with you, and I know how deep feelings for our ATFs can be. I looked at your review list and see so many wonderful; sexy ladies. It seems that as well as having an ATF you also like variety which is a great thing. You also had the privilege of seeing my own ATF( who I can no longer get in touch with) http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=594308; and while she has not died I miss her terribly. Got back in the country from Afghanistan and she's disappeared. But the night before I was deployed will always be in my memory!. Hang on to your wonderful memories and have fun going out and making some more. And my condolences on your painful loss. But consider yourself better off for having had her in your life for the time that you did and be grateful. I know I am. And just curious; and you certainly don't have to answer; but who was the lovely lady?