It would indeed be interesting if the ladies would tell us! One can understand they won't. Perhaps to an author or journalist, on condition of anonymity!
Perhaps especially fascinating is when what seems to be perfectly "normal," well-adjusted women, suburbean wives (or ex-wives), make the plunge, and prove to be good swimmers, too, without prior training!
But then, it is foolish to assume "normal" looking people can't be something else, behind the closed doors of normal looking residences: hot hot hot, kinky kinky kinky, dirty dirty dirty!
Economic crisis is probably a primary cause, though (?)
What is the proportion of ladies for whom it is basically a kind of avocation: like, they are taylor-made for the activity, like others are just made to be lawyers, doctors, soldiers, whatever?
For us guys, the answer is unlikely to be all that interesting.
First time for me, mid eighties (the decade), mid twenties (me), a street walker, somewhere in Europe: not at all particularly nice, my nervousness and shyness irritated her. The cause was circumstance. I walk out of a subway on my way to an appointment, and lo and behold, I am in the middle of a red light district. First impression: not positive at all, even turned off by odd looking creatures with too much make up, too much weight, and too many years trying to pull me in by the arm. But I went back to lurk, fascinated, and then made the plunge, with an attractive bitch.
First good experience: a high class call girl service in New York City, later subjected to a highly publicized police bust. Also mid-eighties. Second good experience, a few days later, another high class call girl, in San Francisco this time (same trip): what really made the difference was the psychology of these girls, the way they could figure you out (being mentally penetrated like that was itself a pleasure), and also know desires you had you don't even know you had!
Experiences like that are probably possible only when you are still young enough & with more experienced women.
Since then I have found you do not at all need HDH's to have top rate encounters. Indeed, good luck can occur at the most down-trodden massage studios, at prices that make you feel you are cheating the girl: in my case, the best have been: either dirty looking girls who were so utterly nasty and vicious I actually enjoyed it; or girls who are so genuinely nice and lovely, as well as serviceable: angels at the brothel.
Hello Victoria. How's Kelly? Did she drop out?
Originally Posted by Raphael
No seriously - You almost have to be psychic and be really good at reading body language to really know what people really want (hobbyist). Sometimes it can be addressed in emails if the guest is shy and probably has some fantasy he won't really tell the provider. It's like The Eurythmics (don't know if i spelled that correctly) Annie Lennox said "some of them want to use you, some of them want to be used by you". That song is about hobbyist.
Some men do the WK knight thing because they are totally smitten and secretly believe you are their one and only girlfriend, hence the GFE experience. Some want to get right down to business and focus totally on being pleased as they did pay for it. Then there are the ones that totally want you to feel like a queen and please you in every way. One gent likes to bathe the ladies and dry them off. One likes to be bathed by 2 women and then play as if he were king.
At the end of the day people generally like to be liked by others . They like to be around people who make them feel good. The secret is what "good" is to that particular person. A person in a position of power may like to be gently dominated and feel like he is not in control, that may be "good" to him. If your good at what you do and you truly hone your skills by watching and listening you will be a good provider and not need a WK but the person whom you made to feel like a king will certainly not let anyone step on his "queen". She may not be happy and may not do it again. Not the way he "liked" it........It truly is no easy task.
You think you just want to walk in and get laid, but how and why is what you may not know yourself. It seems so simple and to some providers it may be. I believe finding what a person truly wants to make it "good" is the challenge.
I do agree that kindness goes a long way in this industry. How hard is it to find something beautiful about someone and tell them. everyone has something about them unique. Even if it's something as simple as "I like your tie" or the gentlemen says, "you have beautiful eyes". the tone has changed and the mood is different. A simple kind smile can do wonders if it is genuine because you, inside your head have already found that one thing you like about that person and have not mentioned it yet but will be sure to do so!
The Line - you can't be so good at what you do that you become the object of someones obsession. That goes beyond a WK I think. You like what she does and put up a good review , great. You like it so much you keep at it, when it's not true LADIES BE CAREFUL. This person may help your business but is also now crossing the line and may have expectations of you....
This is a fine dance we all do.......If it is done well it is a ballet or a good Tango, something goes wrong and your playing spoons on a washboard by yourself in the middle of the dance floor.