Boots, I nowhere said you were weird. I said some of these rules were weird to me. Might be a hair splitting difference, but it is there. I think you put up a fair warning post based on your perceptions. I thought I was respectful in asking about those rules. If I wasn't I apologize. Don't let people who may or may not have vested ulterior motives take you down.
I was joking, Darling. My sense of humor can be a bit dry.
I have never heard another provider say "Meet him in the parking lot." Your posts are the first time I have ever heard that referred to as common practice. I have had "We can meet publicly first if you want so you'll know I'm safe." <-unless it's an all public date this makes no sense to me, although I'm sure in many cases the sentiment was honest.
I have met in hotel lobby/bars. I figure if I wanted to do a car date, I probably wouldn't mess with getting the hotel room in the first place. Again, I'd really like to understand this, since it's the first time I have ever heard it; so do please explain the thinking behind it. It's completely different than what I suggest. If I'm wrong or if thsi is the safer way, I'd honestly like to know.
First, let me say that I do not do car dates, so that's not what I meant. However, I have had a number of providers meet me outside, or at my car. I can't really answer why this would be safer for a provider, but I have been asked several times
by the provider to make contact that way. From my standpoint, it gives me a chance to scope things out or take off quickly if something doesn't feel right, so I don't object.
Lastly, and I can't stress this enough, if you feel like you need to bring a weapon on a date - Don't make the date. I can't believe the weapon comment is still here in public. By the "Gods" not addressing it while posting on this thread, looks like ECCIE is condoning it? Interesting.
I can understand why this might be disconcerting for you, but let me address this, and hopefully allay your concerns a bit. First, as I said before, I sometimes carry a weapon because I travel alot, it really has nothing to do with the hobby. It just so happens that hobby when I travel because there is no hobby scene where I live. Second, the Mods left the comment alone because I have threatened no one. I implied no harm to any provider. Third, to the extent that I discuss a weapon, it is a matter of self-defense, specifically in the context of defending myself against a hostile pimp or other assailant, not a provider. Fourth, If I had a weapon on a date, you'd never know it. I don't discuss it, I don't brandish it. Just like a provider would never reveal her gun, knife, can of mace, taser, or whatever, unless she encountered a serious threat. Fifth, I guarantee that I am not the only hobbyist that carrys. I bet you have seen such a gent, and not even known. Sixth, the only reason that I even mentioned it here is because I will likely never hobby with any providers on this board because of geographical limitations on my part. Seventh, if I did happen to book with you, and if you did happen to learn I had a weapon, and knowing this disuades you from carrying out the date, I completely understand.
Trust me babee, as odd as all this seems to you, I am harmless. Well, mostly.