I feel that each client has different expectations and needs for a session. There may be a client that wants to spend the entire hour with nothing but conversation and that's fine. An experienced provider can read the client and the situation and cater the session to his needs.
On the other hand, I've seen experienced providers decide to stop a BJ and make some irrelevant comment about something I don't care about and then go back to business which totally kills any IOP.
This can be a big benefit to having a regular repeat customer. You can get past all of the unknowns and you should know what each other's expectations are.
Originally Posted by L.A.
I agree.
That is why I fill out my p411 profile completely and let the provider know what I am looking for in a session I pay for. Some ladies do not like that and say they prefer just going with the flow of a session, but many like the fact that they do not have to read my mind. IMO, the client, the provider or both can dictate the flow, but since it is the client paying, as long as it does not step over the provider's boundaries and what is comfortable for her, his wishes should prevail.
The getting aquainted text/talk before the session along with the small talk either before/after the session or in between pops may be a good time for a provider to express to her client how to relax and make her comfortable.