The elusive "E" in GFE

Before this thread get's shelved at the Smithsonian. . .

It is a provocative discussion prompt, even if it is based on an archived reflection.

So many folks get tied up in the alphabet soup and what is on and off the menu of a given provider, they forget the sort of Gestalt description of the true GFE.

Without knowing this gent's past, I thought it was a fabulous notion he brings here. I could never put the same thought--it is like we need a new word--into public consideration myself until I read his post.

The "E" for the hobbyist just may be the real "O" for all of us that play.

I have been doing this for over twenty years. You can get into a rut. Then you meet a true boredom-buster. A provider, for whatever reason, just pleasantly surprises you with subtle seduction, a wonderful time BCD, but more importantly, that buzz that still electrifies you on the drive home or lights out if it was an outcall. Then, even when it would normally pass, you still have that lingering tingle when your head lifts from the pillow the next day, and flashes of the encounter bring a smile to your face as you wake up.

That is the true GFE for me.

Funny, I think the title hit me, because I just had such an encounter. To give you an idea of how intense it was, wordsmith and review whore that I am, I am finding it difficult to write the review.

I will write, but it will be an epic, so the words have to percolate a bit. . .let's be honest, I can't type so well with a big, shit-eating grin and a surging erection that I haven't had since I was a teen--that happens, every time I start to write it.

Just thinking about the way her thighs whispered as they moved on the bed. . .


Damn, I need masturbate now. . .

I will write it. . .for now, I will give you the name: Becca Blossoms

Do a search if you don't feel like waiting for me to get the right words.



--Anon

Anonone,

Like you, I particularly found his reposting of our situation at the River Walk, enchanting, poetic, evocative and clever. SKF is a gifted writer and a sassy soul at that. He is also a great lover. A few providers seemed hesitant to revive an ASPD-expired literary invention, but I felt his words, his experiences to be truly dear to many in understanding the GFE mystique.

Thank you, SKF, for a lovely evening and a poem to document our enchanting evening.

Much Love,

Angelina

Before this thread get's shelved at the Smithsonian. . .

It is a provocative discussion prompt, even if it is based on an archived reflection.

So many folks get tied up in the alphabet soup and what is on and off the menu of a given provider, they forget the sort of Gestalt description of the true GFE.

Without knowing this gent's past, I thought it was a fabulous notion he brings here. I could never put the same thought--it is like we need a new word--into public consideration myself until I read his post.

The "E" for the hobbyist just may be the real "O" for all of us that play.

I have been doing this for over twenty years. You can get into a rut. Then you meet a true boredom-buster. A provider, for whatever reason, just pleasantly surprises you with subtle seduction, a wonderful time BCD, but more importantly, that buzz that still electrifies you on the drive home or lights out if it was an outcall. Then, even when it would normally pass, you still have that lingering tingle when your head lifts from the pillow the next day, and flashes of the encounter bring a smile to your face as you wake up.

That is the true GFE for me.

Funny, I think the title hit me, because I just had such an encounter. To give you an idea of how intense it was, wordsmith and review whore that I am, I am finding it difficult to write the review.

I will write, but it will be an epic, so the words have to percolate a bit. . .let's be honest, I can't type so well with a big, shit-eating grin and a surging erection that I haven't had since I was a teen--that happens, every time I start to write it.

Just thinking about the way her thighs whispered as they moved on the bed. . .


Damn, I need masturbate now. . .

I will write it. . .for now, I will give you the name: Becca Blossoms

Do a search if you don't feel like waiting for me to get the right words.



--Anon Originally Posted by ANONONE

I have been doing this for over twenty years. You can get into a rut. Then you meet a true boredom-buster. A provider, for whatever reason, just pleasantly surprises you with subtle seduction, a wonderful time BCD, but more importantly, that buzz that still electrifies you on the drive home or lights out if it was an outcall. Then, even when it would normally pass, you still have that lingering tingle when your head lifts from the pillow the next day, and flashes of the encounter bring a smile to your face as you wake up. Originally Posted by ANONONE

Ahhh..... so softly spoken and ooh.... so romantic!

I found the words:



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If I want a GFE I'll get a GF and listen to her complain about her life, take my $, nag me and wait for sex wondering why am I doing this again. What I want is a Oh my God I'm going to die if you don't do me right now experience!

For me the GFE is when she is truly believable. I don't have a ton of experiences, but I will state that most of them I could tell that this was a front or an act during the experience. Even if she O's for real, you know that you are out of site, out of mind, just another pile of money for the day. It might be for the whole time or just a mere passing second that will turn a GFE into just another paid lay. The GFE, of which I have only experienced a couple times, is where the experience of her truly enjoying and caring for you feels real.

Of an interesting note to me is that I have never had a GFE experience with one of those young ideal bodies. It has always been with a still breathtakingly beautiful, yet older woman.

Jake,

I had an amazing four hour outdate with a successful gentleman who too was looking for the GFE. He was amazed by our natural, warm encounter and left me a huge multi-benjamin tip as a result of his happiness with my rendition of the GFE.

As you put, a true girlfriend experience is when the girl is believable and is being her true self as she is when she is not in the hobby. In essence, the only thing that should be fake is her provider/stage name.

Just some thoughts,

Angelina

For me the GFE is when she is truly believable. I don't have a ton of experiences, but I will state that most of them I could tell that this was a front or an act during the experience. Even if she O's for real, you know that you are out of site, out of mind, just another pile of money for the day. It might be for the whole time or just a mere passing second that will turn a GFE into just another paid lay. The GFE, of which I have only experienced a couple times, is where the experience of her truly enjoying and caring for you feels real.

Of an interesting note to me is that I have never had a GFE experience with one of those young ideal bodies. It has always been with a still breathtakingly beautiful, yet older woman. Originally Posted by Jake2.1

Angelina,

In so many words, that is what I meant with one caveat. It is a real person without the "realness" of life. Just like a good movie is real, even though in reality it isn't. The GFE is the perfect GF experience.

I once had a FS massage provider with whom I felt we had a couple GFE experiences sit there one day and talk to me for over 45 minutes about how bad life was. I had to console her back to a somewhat happy state before our session could continue. Not that I found it sweet in consoling her and the experience would fit what you described as a real girl with just the illusion of the name, I wouldn't have described it at GFE.

Now to clarify a little more, I feel a PSE is more about the act or acts than the relationship. So a GFE could contain PSE elements but simply because the sex acts were amazing and felt great, that doesn't make it GFE.

When I have experienced GFE, I find myself replaying the encounter over and over for days and reliving a strong caring emotion with the underlying burning of desire. A PSE experience seems to be more erotic and getting me all blue balls when thinking of it. I may seek to experience another PSE, but I desire a GFE.

In a nutshell, I guess I would say that GFE is about lovemaking vs sex.

While in the neighborhood, the negative experience for me is when the girl "disconnects" her person from her body. I am now just f**ing a warm blooded sex toy. When that happens, I want to push her away because I feel like I have demeaned this woman. Maybe all women in this profession have to disconnect in some way but the ones that give the GFE have figured out how not to telegraph this. Maybe this is why the ones that I have had the GFE experience with are more mature because they are better at not telegraphing it. I also figure that maybe the younger ones are looking for those "pornstar" males that can f**k them six ways to sunday and last for hours on end. Maybe when the find out that I am older, dealing with issues that only let me perform for limited amounts of time (even medicated) that they are "turned off". IMO, if my state of physical being mattered that much, she needs to get that information from me up front. Be professional and not book me. The ironic thing (at least to me) is that due to, for a lack of better word, my disadvantages, I will work harder and longer to fulfill her and unlike those "pornstar" guys, to me the experience is more about her than me. Nothing makes me feel more like a man than to feel and hear her O, smile, kiss and ask for more.

As you put, a true girlfriend experience is when the girl is believable and is being her true self as she is when she is not in the hobby. In essence, the only thing that should be fake is her provider/stage name. Originally Posted by Angelina Adams

In a nutshell, I guess I would say that GFE is about lovemaking vs sex. Originally Posted by Jake2.1

+1

The first time I saw a provider, I just wanted to fuck a girl who was way out of my league and I intended it to be a one time thing. I didn't expect anything other than (hopefully) great sex, probably from a girl who was bitchy or cold and couldn't wait to get out of the room. Instead, I was pleasantly surprised by a feeling of genuine intimacy. The sex was great, and she was definitely way out of my league, but it was that feeling of intimacy and her personality that brought me back.

Of an interesting note to me is that I have never had a GFE experience with one of those young ideal bodies. Originally Posted by Jake2.1

I take it you haven't met Angelina?