Well, to be fair I don't think in terms of "false mental ownership" that's what I mean about being civie minded. I know the minute this isn't the same as civie when the gift is given nor do I expect otherwise. I am single and never married, If I had a GF/SO I wouldn't be doing this. I work alot and have very few opportunities to meet women or date. To me that is a real investment. To be fair, I don't think I am the same as a pimp because a pimp takes her money and makes her dependant on him and wants total ownership. When I get to see her it is not about me, it's about "us" until we have to leave eachother. I understand I may have a different way of thinking than most but in the end, what's wrong with it? I don't make demands on the women I get to see or really care much if she isn't at 100 percent because sometimes things happen.But I'm not a pushover by anymeans, (had enough of that with my ex, and won't go back to it.)I just want the woman I spend time with to enjoy our time together, and if nothing else walk away thinking to herself, "He was a nice guy." And if she didn't/couldn't find one thing about ME that she didn't like other than the dough, then I prefer we not see eachother because as hard as I may try, I can't shut my brain off from overthinking and rationalizing (due to that pretty much being my job,) but I am respectful, and if small talk comes up, it's usally about things that human beings talk about, I have been asked if I am married, and I have also been asked why I don't have a girlfriend. None of that is too personal to me and I answer, and then I ask questions of the same. But if she volunteers that she is single and doing this because she wants to and everything else then I believe that. I just don't see why lying about that is needed, BUT (this is where comfort level comes into play) that BF/SO could be a pimp with that title and then it would be an issue for you I suspect. But on the otherside of the coin if she starts out single and meets someone along the way somewhere who later becomes her B/F and is still seeing me then that's something different, and I could seriously see letting that slide if she was happy (interesting concept).
It is also like someone else said, If she does have a pimp then that is a potential threat because of so many scenarios I won't even get into...let's just say he doesnt actally have to be there to pose a threat. So I say deduct that part of the equation out all together and cast away all doubt. This may be "illusion" and "fantasy" but you are still dealing with real people so for some to put it out in the open that they have an open relationship would not be deal killer for most I would not think but if you say you are single and indy but have a pimp thats just red flag for me in my opinion....Im new and still learning. It's just my opinion though.