7 years on and off I still got nervous when meeting with someone for the first time. I think it's because I actually care about both of us having fun and it's not just a biz for me. If I didn't care and didn't fear possible "bad surprises" then I don't think I would get nervous. This is why I love that most of the guys I have seen have been repeats and regulars, we both know each other's bodies and turn ons/styles and so I can just get comfortable and indulge! I agree, that solo play right before they get there helps!