I agree. I am VERY leery of gents who show any signs of boundary-crossing. I've heard way too many horror stories and witnessed one or two unfolding firsthand. Yes, I have gents who I adore and have an amazing time with, and honestly wouldn't mind spending OTC time with- BUT, in order to be comfortable I need to have those lines firmly drawn. Originally Posted by Bijou NekoExactly! Anyone that knows me knows I am always willing to catch up with hobbyists I like over a meal or accompany them to a event/movie OTC. I've even taken one to his softball game because I didn't want him to drive. But all of us know where the lines are.
I just did a post entitled " moment of clarity " where I talked about how I had a provider who give me a sob story and asked to borrow money and after the second time I realized she was playing me and was just getting money because she could. Originally Posted by GucciIf you're suggesting that she's leading me on and will eventually start milking me financially, that's not gonna happen. I would like to think she is more than that base on some of the personal background that I know of her. But if ever that becomes the case, a sob story is not something I'm gonna fall for.
So I'll say this... Only you know her (I hope) and only you know the connection yall have. Because a woman or man can be so cold hearted or have their feelings numb for so long... Eventually when that person is ready... The heart opens again. Originally Posted by Dr. VanityI'm quite familiar with this and guilty due to a bad breakup I had before. It has it's good and bad side. But yeah, you might be right and only time can tell.
Noooooooo way! I just got out of a relationship with a client. He wanted me to quit escorting and see only him. Originally Posted by MochaNautteBBWInteresting thread. I hear this from quite a few providers, that their boyfriends get jealous. I don't quite understand that -- given that most guys want to have sex with any hot lady that they see. Especially a client, I mean hello hypocrisy? I dated a provider for a while, and actually I liked the fact that she enjoyed sex with other guys and that we could talk about her sessions. It made our own sex hotter, frankly. It ended badly as she tried to start taking advantage of me, though. Hint - don't let her move in until you're married - lol.
Noooooooo way! I just got out of a relationship with a client. He wanted me to quit escorting and see only him. He didn't want me talking to other men outside of work and had the gall to say that I shouldn't use a male photographer because he didn't want another man taking suggestive photos of me. He didn't want to hear anything about the session and he got upset when I didn't send him photos "when he wanted me to" or if I didn't call him every day. He was heavy into phone sex, something that I'm not into and I told this to him several times. His response? "We live in different states, that's all we got so get used to it." He also would accuse me of cheating all the time, and was VERY insecure. I know this sounds crazy and farfetched...but it's unfortunately true. I tried to make it work...but realized that monogamy wasn't for me and when I told him this, he flew off the handle saying that I was a phony and a liar. He knew what he was getting into and tried to guilt trip me into coming back to him (I refused and blocked him). A provider/client romance sometimes works...but for me, I'd rather not play with fire a 3rd time and get burned again! Originally Posted by MochaNautteBBWYour situation is quite different, so not really comparing apples to apples here. Though I think yours is alot more complicated due to the fact that it's long distance. Everybody knows that doesn't work out in the long run. It's a good thing that you've broken up with him as things will just get worst for you.
I have be-friended providers who have told me they ended up having relationships with clients..so it happens.I think this should be a two way decision and not just about the guy giving an ultimatum. Both parties need to find a common ground. Something like "If you stop mongering then I'll stop providing. If you don't, then I won't". It's a question of how serious the relationship will go. Do we want to be mutually exclusive or not....
however there comes a point where the guy serves an ultimatum of get out of the business, and that is where the problem lies.
so I would strongly advise you to NOT get involved with a provider, it won't end well.
enjoy the fantasy where in your mind she is your ATF Originally Posted by joesmo888