Hobby vs. relationship(s).

Most of this is right. Been there with wives. Done that with girls.

..<..<..<..snipped great memories from your life....

No one should allow themselves to be used; not the ladies, and not the men. Life is too short for that type of behavior. If you find a bad apple in a barrel, quickly pick it out and throw it away. We just don't believe in keeping a bad apple in my life.

I think most women can be a lot of fun; married to them, or not. Women have always brought me joy.

Have fun, and enjoy life.

JR Originally Posted by JRLawrence

most Most MOST excellent post, jr!!!
sounds like you have a great life and a great view on life.

most Most MOST excellent post, jr!!!
sounds like you have a great life and a great view on life. Originally Posted by pmdelites

Well we don't have sex and haven't had in a long time, No affection, kissing, holding hands, no dates not anything at all.
We have been together 11 years almost and you would think by then one should be married with that mucho time invested ,however i feel we are more like roommates than a couple, because the only thing we do together is pay bills .
I finally got tired of second guessing myself of what I was or wasn't doing right so I said the heck with it I'm gonna become an escort and now I have fun with my profession and I'm not sexually frustrated any more.
If you can't find it at home you will eventually look else where.
When I was doing my massages all that did was tease me so that's another reason why I enjoy being a fs provider because I get it all.
Xoxo,
Lindsay

OLindsay, i think i got it now.

you were in a sex-less committed relationship for 11+ yrs -and- employed in some profession.
now, you're still in that relationship but in a new profession getting what you want/need sensually and sexually.

good for you!!

Companionship, completeness and partnership can't be found in 4 one/two hour sessions a month with various providers. You will simply find a physical release and pleasure. An intimate relationship with someone can be great. The challenge today is most people are out for themselves and don't understand how to create/work on a fulfilling relationship. Physical intimacy increases as relational intimacy deepens in a proper lifelong relationship. Besides, I like to have sex much more than four times a month...

If you see the same provider four times a month, you may get a discount...lol. After a few months, you may even start to talk a little more. Then, you may find yourself listening to her tell you about her frustrations in life, etc. Then what? You drop her and move on?

Financially...women are expensive no matter what you do....at least in many western societies.

OLindsay, i think i got it now.

you were in a sex-less committed relationship for 11+ yrs -and- employed in some profession.
now, you're still in that relationship but in a new profession getting what you want/need sensually and sexually.

good for you!! Originally Posted by pmdelites

Yes that's right and now I have found this and love what I do.
Xoxo,
Lindsay

Married for 18.... No sex for the past 5/6 .....providers? Hell yeah...and a lot more bang for the bck

Married for 18.... No sex for the past 5/6 .....providers? Hell yeah...and a lot more bang for the bck Originally Posted by yogi692

No sex for the past 5/6, now I know why you are using Morse code!

ok, so I read this and for the first time I see a provider admitting she has a boy friend publicly. Leads me to ask is it ok or even possible for a provider to have a serious relationship with someone outside the hobby. We all know that some of the clients do, but I always thought it was a double standard type thing.

ok, so I read this and for the first time I see a provider admitting she has a boy friend publicly. Leads me to ask is it ok or even possible for a provider to have a serious relationship with someone outside the hobby. We all know that some of the clients do, but I always thought it was a double standard type thing. Originally Posted by sweet.countrygirl

Yes sweetie that's me and im sure that there is whole lot more providers out here that do the same. And yes it's like living a double life, but if I'm not getting what I want at home then of course I'm gonna take care of it else where. I just choose a different route then some others and it works for me this way.
Xoxo,
Lindsay

I guess when I was first given the run down and "rules" of this profession years ago I was told I wouldn't be able to have a real relationship and that if I did I would have to keep it both from my SO and also from the client.

Seemed a double standard since the client can tell me all about his gf or wife or even have me to his house with pics of them together, but thats what I was taught.

Well I'm pretty sure the guys don't care about you being in a relationship because their there for hobbying and 9 out 10 times the hobbiest is more than likely married. You just have to separate you business from home life IMO and it will work out ok.
I hope this helps you with what you were asking.
Xoxo,
Lindsay

Certainly it's okay/possible Tori. While I've been told by several ladys that it's diffcult to be in a relationship while doing this. More women than you'll think are in some type of relationship,or want one,but than don't we all really lol. Weather he knows or not is the tricky part. If your partner finds out you're living a double life, things are probably going to go south. Most guys can't handle the thought of their parter have sex with other men for money. And of those that say they can most can't either really. But unconventional relationships can and do happen in our little world Tori...............And most clients don't care if you're in a relationship or not.

Certainly it's okay/possible Tori. While I've been told by several ladys that it's diffcult to be in a relationship while doing this. More women than you'll think are in some type of relationship,or want one,but than don't we all really lol. Weather he knows or not is the tricky part. If your partner finds out you're living a double life, things are probably going to go south. Most guys can't handle the thought of their parter have sex with other men for money. And of those that say they can most can't either really. But unconventional relationships can and do happen in our little world Tori...............And most clients don't care if you're in a relationship or not. Originally Posted by growler

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