providers : How do you feel ....

I have a 2 distinct rate packges...one for guys who only want to hide in a hotel room, and one for those who want to go out. It's obvious, but not blatant that I offer incentives for those seeking the companion experience rather than the most bang for the buck.

My heart goes out to both of you ladies for what happened, and this is why I get the money upfront. I really don't care who it offends, but if you're a newbie no way in hell I am wearing myself out just to find you ripped me off after the fact. If the envelope is not presented in the first 5 min. I simply say, "Nice to meet you but I am afraid this is not going to work out."

I am very long winded and detail oriented, so there is no reason to simply overlook how and when I accept the donation. I even send a link upon initial contact directing new guys to read the very page and paragraph where this is stated. I then follow up AGAIN and ask them if they understand lol.

I think what many guys fail to realize is that not all of us can afford to just take off for hours and days at a time for free. I think they assume that we don't have bills to pay that will suffer as a result of tossing time away in that context. I especially love the ones who ask for discounts during Christmas because they have spent too much on the wife and kids. Ummm NEWS FLASH, escorts tend to buy for their families as well! They also still have mortgage, rent, car insurance, cell phone and cable bills that don't just disappear during the holidays.

We are not all party girls here. Most of us are working moms, students, or have other jobs to be considered. So while a weekend getaway might be fun, I would much prefer go with someone I already know and like than a random stranger who expects me to do him the whole weekend for no compensation. If I want to go to Mexico, I can go by myself and not have to be at someone's beck and call the whole time. I can go with my friends who will more than likely also pay their way, and not expect me to foot the bill.

I am sure there are many ladies here who can just take off for a party weekend, but they are also ususally the very young ones who have no obligations to be home for. I think it's a risk to assume that just anyone will be a great companion for that length of time. You might find out she is a drunk or d addict and catch her trying to steal your car after you fall asleep. Within a business transaction you can expect honesty and discretion...without one you can't expect anything.

Yes, London, I need toughen up a little bit on getting the envelope up front in cases like that. Not like my website doesn't make it clear. I'm obviously pretty windy myself and beat details flat, but my tendency to be overly polite can be a hindrance. Blame my Irish granny for switching "proper" manners into my fanny like tread on tires.

I agree, also, that when traveling you should only go with someone you've already spent time getting to know and are reasonably sure you'll get along with. Being nice, and pretty, and adventurous, and READY (if you get my drift) 24/7 is exhausting, and I usually need a vacation from THAT for a few days when I get back.

And gentlemen, when taking a lady who expects compensation on a trip, you can expect smiles, lack of arguments on where to go and what to do, no complaining about pudding instead of creme brulee on the menu, no whining about a cab instead of a limo, and lots of sex. Think you'll get that "free" with the wifey or girlfriend?

Lol I can promise you if I don't get paid for a weekend trip, he is going to the Ballet, the Opera, laying in the sun for 8 hours, and shopping. Add to that he is waiting 3 hours for me to get ready for each outing. Why would I care what "he" wants to do when it's a "friendly" trip. If there is no compensation, that's all we are...friends, which means NO BCD! Seems a fee for being able to be in control would be a better idea for all.

I have a 2 distinct rate packges...one for guys who only want to hide in a hotel room, and one for those who want to go out. It's obvious, but not blatant that I offer incentives for those seeking the companion experience rather than the most bang for the buck.

My heart goes out to both of you ladies for what happened, and this is why I get the money upfront. I really don't care who it offends, but if you're a newbie no way in hell I am wearing myself out just to find you ripped me off after the fact. If the envelope is not presented in the first 5 min. I simply say, "Nice to meet you but I am afraid this is not going to work out."

I am very long winded and detail oriented, so there is no reason to simply overlook how and when I accept the donation. I even send a link upon initial contact directing new guys to read the very page and paragraph where this is stated. I then follow up AGAIN and ask them if they understand lol.

I think what many guys fail to realize is that not all of us can afford to just take off for hours and days at a time for free. I think they assume that we don't have bills to pay that will suffer as a result of tossing time away in that context. I especially love the ones who ask for discounts during Christmas because they have spent too much on the wife and kids. Ummm NEWS FLASH, escorts tend to buy for their families as well! They also still have mortgage, rent, car insurance, cell phone and cable bills that don't just disappear during the holidays.

We are not all party girls here. Most of us are working moms, students, or have other jobs to be considered. So while a weekend getaway might be fun, I would much prefer go with someone I already know and like than a random stranger who expects me to do him the whole weekend for no compensation. If I want to go to Mexico, I can go by myself and not have to be at someone's beck and call the whole time. I can go with my friends who will more than likely also pay their way, and not expect me to foot the bill.

I am sure there are many ladies here who can just take off for a party weekend, but they are also ususally the very young ones who have no obligations to be home for. I think it's a risk to assume that just anyone will be a great companion for that length of time. You might find out she is a drunk or d addict and catch her trying to steal your car after you fall asleep. Within a business transaction you can expect honesty and discretion...without one you can't expect anything. Originally Posted by London Rayne

London,

I agree with you most guys obviously cannot understand that we are regular people to. We have bills to pay, kids to take care of, school tutition, cars to keep in goo condition ect...

But what does give them this impression is the younger ones (well some because i am young but i am a student, a mom and also work a regular job six days a week) who just want to have a good time and spend their money shopping.

I had dinner date which was a first and it was great...The guy was a real gentlemen and gave me my favorite roses and prefume..was a nice change to be treated like a lady..

Most notably, I met a fellow before Christmas for lunch at a very exclusive restaurant, and I agreed in advance that it would be JUST a meal, but if we clicked we were going to continue the afternoon and visit a museum, then retire to his townhouse for a private eve. Well, after lunch, museum, wine and cheese tasting and conversation at his place (he was fascinated by the fact that I actually made a living doing this), a lovely foot message given my Irish tootsies by him, he announced that it was a great day getting to know me and he would contact me soon. Um......what? He thought that because there was no BCD play he didn't have to compensate me anything. We obviously mis-communicated, but since he had no prior experience with hobby etiquette, I was polite about it and left. It upset me as I'd turned down another gentleman that day who would have paid me, and like everybody else, I had Christmas to buy. He's never called again. Now, was that fair, expecting any specialist in any field to just give a day of work away?

This is one reason why I advocate a flat rate and no distinction between BCD and public time. Originally Posted by Fancyinheels

Sorry this happened - sounds like something that could have happened to me as well.

I have had some tough lessons that I learned the hard way from as well. I am sure there will be more as well

I generally don't like the terms b/c I think they can be too misleading, but the common terms I see are "public" and "private" time. Some ladies break down the time frame, others don't. They're almost always done as a "package." Like Dinner Date or Evening Date (movie/opera & private time). Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I like the idea of charging different for public time and private time - I am going to have to think about all this

Well ladies I sorry that some people stiffed you with no money...please ask for it up front wherever its for bcd or just escorting or all nighter or weekend