Long-time client passes away

I had something similar except it was his son who called me. I messagage him every now and than on facebook to let him know i care about him no one else on his facebook sends him any messages but me...
he was such a great guy

Ava,

My condolences to you. You are a very classy lady.

Ava, I appreciate you sharing this with us. Sorry to hear of your loss. I'm sure he was a special man.

... but I will visit his grave and put some flowers there..., Originally Posted by alluringava

Classy thought by a classy lady. Sorry for the wife and your loss!

Ava, your post makes me realize that although we are hobbyists and providers, we are all humans. As a hobbyist, I seek professionals because after research, I know what I will receive what I seek. However, we meet ladies that we meet over and over again because we connect - they become our ATFs and become our friends. It goes to show that his wife also appreciated you - nice and classy gesture of her to contact you...and for you too to respect the family and their privacy.

Thank you for sharing this personal experience. Best wishes to you in the future. Be safe...remember, time heals.

Well sounds like you knew this person for a significant length of time. To post a thread on his passing, apparently he made an impact on you. Now, I would hope to think you change your mind and do attend his funeral. If your personal policy is that you simply don't do funerals, which is the case with many people, thats acceptable. But if you're reason for not attending is for fear of family conflicts or feelings that you would not be wellcome is not. If you were proud of your friendship in life, then you should also be upon his death. In fact the bond of our loved one can be felt more through death than ever could be in life. Even a stranger whom we've only known for moments can spark our soles to kinship for eternity. For the sole doesn't record time but merely growth.
Jim

Well sounds like you knew this person for a significant length of time. To post a thread on his passing, apparently he made an impact on you. Now, I would hope to think you change your mind and do attend his funeral. If your personal policy is that you simply don't do funerals, which is the case with many people, thats acceptable. But if you're reason for not attending is for fear of family conflicts or feelings that you would not be wellcome is not. If you were proud of your friendship in life, then you should also be upon his death. In fact the bond of our loved one can be felt more through death than ever could be in life. Even a stranger whom we've only known for moments can spark our soles to kinship for eternity. For the sole doesn't record time but merely growth.
Jim Originally Posted by Mr MojoRisin

i don't think his wife and children would appreciate that, and out of respect for them, that's why I said I wasn't going to go. His sons were not at all happy about him seeing me even as a pro. And I'm not about to disrespect HIS wish that it would be best if I mourned for him privately.

It just goes to show you that sometimes, this 'job' is not what it always appears to be. Sure, men pay for sex, we're there for the money, but there's also that other very real aspect of the business called humanity and compassion, especially for those regulars whom we get to know over the years. I don't know if any of you guys or gals would feel the same way if your ATF or a favorite client regular died, but there's a little empty feeling in me right now. I can't help feeling the way I do. Originally Posted by alluringava

There is no question for me, if a longtime ATF passed away, I would feel an emptiness in my heart. I don't see how one cannot.

No matter what line of work or play you are in, the day you stop caring about people is the day you stop living.

Ava sorry for your loss. Sounds like you and your client had a very good bond.

I have, and I hate to say client, a friend I guess. He is one of the few people that really gets my aspie nature and I know that would mourn deeply if anything happened to him. He has helped me through some difficult times, not financially but just as a friend, and his advice and faith and confidence in me feels almost like family.

I have never told him this. I wouldn't want to make him worry that I want more from him than is available. But I truly cherish him.

i don't think his wife and children would appreciate that, and out of respect for them, that's why I said I wasn't going to go. His sons were not at all happy about him seeing me even as a pro. And I'm not about to disrespect HIS wish that it would be best if I mourned for him privately. Originally Posted by alluringava

People love to argue about class......this right here is the definition.

Friends are hard to find.

Just to give a little update, I finally did manage to find his gravesite. Today I put some flowers there, and I even put a few little tablets of Viagra in the ground. Just in case there's any 'action' up there in heaven. Bless your soul, my friend___, you will be missed. Not just by your co workers and your family, but by me.