Problem with feedback during the session is that it tends to break the illusion, possibly even ruin the mood. Originally Posted by Rand Al'ThorPositive feedback - e.g. "Oh God!" - won't.
Problem with feedback during the session is that it tends to break the illusion, possibly even ruin the mood.It depends how you give the feedback. Pointing out things that feel good means they'll do less of whatever you dislike, without you having to say you dislike the other.
Feedback at the end of the session won't change what already happened. Originally Posted by Rand Al'Thor
I have a civvie friend who works out like a maniac trying to get a bigger ass. She does all the booty-shaping exercises she can and her ass is still pretty small and flat. She will never look like J-lo no matter how many hours she spends at the gym. Originally Posted by Sensual SophiaShe is doing it all wrong! Tell her to hang out with me for 30 days and I will make sure she has a bigger JLo ass....... Homemade tortillas make the body good!
And Whispers, I hadn't thought of it that way. While hopefully the girl would appear to like him regardless, not clicking would most likely make things mechanical and her want to rush him out. Which makes the gray area even larger when it comes to reviews and trying to decide if that's common and worth mentioning or due to a lack of chemistry and something others would be unlikely to experience. Originally Posted by MaddietheCoedWell..... Having "known" you.... I can't imagine too many guys not being able to find good chemistry with you....... You managed to find a way to connect with this old round man and put a grin on my face a time or two or.......
Well..... Having "known" you.... I can't imagine too many guys not being able to find good chemistry with you....... You managed to find a way to connect with this old round man and put a grin on my face a time or two or....... Originally Posted by WhispersFrom my perspective, the only guys I haven't "clicked" with are the ones who aren't looking for gfe. The experience makes me uncomfortable and I have no doubt I become mechanical and rush them out. For those guys I think those characteristics are positive, so I think it probably works out fine for them. It ruins my day somewhat, but I'm the one charging.
Ladies - How often does a guy leave a session saying he is satisfied, maybe even continuing to call or email you with no indication of having had a bad time and later you see he posted a NO recommendation on a review? Originally Posted by WhispersIn 3 years of providing, I've only received one "NO" review. The harsh, negative tone of what little I could see was very hurtful. But what bothered me the most is that even after having such a terrible time with me, the reviewer hung out at my place beyond the allotted time, took advantage of my kindness in allowing him to photograph the city from my balcony, and even called me after he left and asked me to step out on the balcony so he could photograph me with a long lens from another vantage point in the city. In addition, he emailed the next day about a new Mac product we had discussed. None of his communications gave the indication that I stole an hour of his life that he could never get back. So, of course, his review was a surprise to me. Perhaps he was angry that I didn't answer the phone to chat with him. Perhaps he felt slighted that I didn't respond to his follow up email right away. Or perhaps his time with me was really that disappointing. In any case, I was never made aware of exactly what went wrong in his mind, even after I emailed and apologized that he found his experience so unpleasant.
In 3 years of providing, I've only received one "NO" review. The harsh, negative tone of what little I could see was very hurtful.Thanks for spending time with me. I think you're very nice, but I won't be repeating my visit with you because the TCB and BCD aspects of our visits have gotten steadily worse; examples including incall location change, forgotten condoms, bbbjs abruptly quit mid-orgasm, et cetera. You're a charming woman and I enjoy your company, albeit not in the sack. Best wishes.
It's problematic, sure. If a guy tries to communicate that A) you're pleasant relaxing company and an interesting conversationalist and B) incompetent at, say, fellatio, it doesn't come across as friendly criticism, even if it is. It's why I never reviewed you; I like you and don't like your skillsets; didn't want to hurt your feelings.
But what bothered me the most is that even after having such a terrible time with me, the reviewer hung out at my place beyond the allotted time, took advantage of my kindness in allowing him to photograph the city from my balcony, and even called me after he left and asked me to step out on the balcony so he could photograph me with a long lens from another vantage point in the city. In addition, he emailed the next day about a new Mac product we had discussed. None of his communications gave the indication that I stole an hour of his life that he could never get back. So, of course, his review was a surprise to me.
There's no contradiction, though; the same relaxed charm that makes you such wonderful company could be not to his taste in the clutch, as it were.
Perhaps he was angry that I didn't answer the phone to chat with him. Perhaps he felt slighted that I didn't respond to his follow up email right away. Or perhaps his time with me was really that disappointing. In any case, I was never made aware of exactly what went wrong in his mind, even after I emailed and apologized that he found his experience so unpleasant.
Reviews exist for a reason: to share information with other hobbyists. I would never discount someone's opinion or attempt to restrict the flow of information. But in my opinion, if I really had a bad time with someone, I would be in such a hurry to leave that I wouldn't want to spend extra time socializing with them, nor would I call or email them afterward with friendly conversation. Bad reviews are one thing, but when the reviewer's stated opinion on the board and his behavior off the board are contradictory, it's quite confusing for the lady on the receiving end.
As a provider, I do want to know what areas I can improve in. I take constructive criticism very well - keyword being constructive. Personal confrontation may be uncomfortable, but as we all know from our board experience, it's a lot easier to speak your mind when you're sitting behind a computer screen. A short, diplomatic note saying, "Thanks for spending time with me today. I think you're very nice, but I won't be repeating my visit with you because _________" would be a nonconfrontational way to make the provider aware that an experience wasn't up to par, and give her an opportunity to correct the problem in the future. As it stands, reviews are good for exchanging information between the men, but they do nothing to help the lady improve her service. Originally Posted by Natalie Reign
Thanks for spending time with me. I think you're very nice, but I won't be repeating my visit with you because the TCB and BCD aspects of our visits have gotten steadily worse; examples including incall location change, forgotten condoms, bbbjs abruptly quit mid-orgasm, et cetera. You're a charming woman and I enjoy your company, albeit not in the sack. Best wishes. Originally Posted by 78704
Sophia, I hope you don't change a thing on your body. You look great just the way you are.
Well I guess there is plastic surgery, but other than that, this is something that can't be targeted. Believe me, if all women could simply choose to gain and lose weight where we wanted, we'd all be skinny with bubble butts and D-cups. Originally Posted by Sensual Sophia