Discussion: is all the Smalltalk/longtalk really necessary? or is it just me? provider input welcome

If there's no small talk at the end of a session, I'm inclined to think that it likely didn't go that well. One party is pissed at the other for whatever reason(s). The other kinda knows why the other is pissed and reciprocates the mood. Both gets dressed in silence, and maybe there's a stiff 'goodbye' at the end.

This tends to happen with the BP types who false advertise, give crap service, have a lousy incall, weren't fresh, and you just ignored 2-3 red flags before all this happened. For this, you, the guy, are partially pissed at yourself for blowing off those red flags.

I prefer mine to end with the small talk, maybe a little joking and laughing, a little bit of hugging and smooching, and almost the threat of wanting to go again. A good sign is if you or she may ask, 'How long are you in town?' to maybe set up another visit. You walk down that hall and to your car with a shit-eating grin on your face. You get to your car and be like, DAMN, that was good!!!

Totally amazed by this post. I can see a "we don't say a word from the time we meet and even after BCD" for a fantasy thing but as a regular thing of someone I don't know? Never. Look at most reviews where a girl gets dinged on IOP - usually because of no conversation.

To each their own but if there's zero getting to know each other (even 10 minutes at least) there's no way I'll get turned on.

I like a little chit chat at the beginning of a session. It breaks the ice and settled nerves, especially if it's our first time together. I like to chat a little after the first pop, just so we can relax and maybe share a laugh. Sex is always better with a little laughter mixed in. And at the end of the session, I like a little more chit chat. Usually it's random stuff. Rarely do I ask about an SO, but I may ask about kids or pets.

I've had sessions, were my friend likes to nap between pops. I gently stroke his arm or forehead and I'll be quiet while he rests for a few minutes. But that's different then not being friendly. If a guy isn't warm and friendly, I'm left thinking there wasn't a real good chemistry.

And then there are the bng sessions, where it's the guys fantasy to walk in, drop his pants and bust a nut without ever exchanging a word. Those are fun!!!

WALDT

Each woman is different. Just like what we like can vary from guy to guy. Try to find out what she likes in a session. If she likes some small talk and wine before the bcd activities, trying to cut that out usually doesn't end well. If she is comfortable, things go much better. It isn't all about you!!!! She isn't a sex machine. She is a human being with feelings. Treat her well and she will appreciate it. Treat her poorly and you probably won't get a pleasurable experience.

[QUOTE=tntangie;1057909690 I like getting to know my clients a little bit and them getting to know me No sweat off my back. I'm thinking I'm doing you a courtesy. Fucker. Don't feel obliged by me. Get the hell out of my incall if you are so inclined.
For real.
Don't waste my time and my effort.

I got your shit on lock mr. "earnthismoney". Not that I give a .02 if you see me or not.[/QUOTE]

Ummmm.. Im enjoying the ongoing input but why the namecalling?
Not needed on the boards ppl. from your response seems you would be the type to cop a attitude when met with a client who isnt really into the whole ongoing convo thing..

Pardon me... I just wanted to say.. this whole thread kinda turned me on Thats all. Originally Posted by melannie_star

Nice to know a thread inspired by curiosity started some great discussion nd in ur case a bit more.. love all the feedback ladies... and as I mentioned earlier all u guys nd gals input kinda makes me have a chang of heart on this topic..

This thread proves most ppl involved with hobby are for the most part good ppl..

Some of us genuinely enjoy having some sort of "relationship" with our clients. Because we like to be treated like humans and not just a piece of meat.

The money you pay for your time with a lady, should be spent on what you like...just as the gentleman who enjoys getting to know his lady friend.

We all are in this for something and luckily if we play our cards right, we will be able to get what we want. Originally Posted by Reese Foster

I loved what you had to say Ms. Foster, and I could not agree more. That was one of the big things that made my experience with Robyn Rylie Sin so special, she shared her honest heart with me, which made me feel I was allowed to do the same with her.

And Ms. Foster, I sense that I could make a wonderful connection with you too, you seem a real genuine respectable lady engage with on such levels, and I can't wait to meet you one day.

I'm sorry for being so mean. That's really not my style.

But your attitude did not sit well with me.

If you want to go zero to 60 when you arrive, then kinda let it be known upfront.

If you want a second round for sure, then say something like, "I just need a five minute breather and I'm good."

Some guys need quite a bit more than that. So the small talk helps get their head out of things for a minute, like a reset button.

So telling us about the breather is a good inclination of telling us what we should have an idea of what to do while we are touching on you or you are touching on us.

Hope that is a better answer.

I think I took your post the wrong way. I thought you were talking about a one and done and didn't want to have anything to say if you finished at 45 min and there was still some time left. If it takes a guy quite a bit of time to get the first round out, chances are he's not going to be a quick pop for the 15 minutes that are left. And there are quite a few of us who work with other girls and do have to be the baddy clock watchers because we are on a schedule.