Thanks all for your advice. Although I found much of what Maxi said to be confusing and had some trouble parsing the sarcasm from sincerity, I'll certainly try to get my head around what she is really trying to say here. I admit I feel a bit defensive about what she said because I feel like I've been accused of being abusive to women simply by going for a BNG at the first encounter. If that's abusive, then why would they offer that as a option? The last thing I would do is have someone do something they didn't want to do. I was tempted reveal her name (mainly because after re-reading her showcase I noticed that she has a statement about not cancelling at the last minute and how that is a waste of her time), but doing that at this point would just invite more vitriol from Ms Maxi. So I guess the terrorist wins. PLUS I really did not want to hurt her, I am just trying to understand the rules and etiquette of this hobby.
Originally Posted by Wanderingcargo
I apologize, hon. Have you ever felt as though you are beating your head against a wall when you are trying to explain something to large group who refuses to see anything other than what it appears to be on the surface? If not, please know it's uncomfortable.
When I address one gent at times, the message is not necessarily meant for just that one gent. I realize why you look at it as you do, but maybe some of you should look at the situation the way a lady does, and understand you are not necessarily the one causing her to misbehave, but maybe there are other factors that lead up to it. So, me and my goofy humor, at your expense because you put it out there, tries to tell you lost souls why you are experiencing things as you do.
I realize that I am just a whore, just ask some of the guys here and they will be happy to tell you how lowly we really are, because they are "in the know". Anyway, it offends their manly senses to get called out by one so low, as they are so much above my station in life.
So, rather than try to educate as I am doing now, because they hate reading educational material, I will sometimes hit you fellas up with my wit,( and I have stated a thousand times, I realize I mostly amuse myself). That doesn't always work either, but oh well. At least I try to tell you what you are doing. I hate to see folks so much better than I, flounder as they do, so I stick out my hand however I can. Me and my need to help those in need apparently often feels like an attack to those I try to help. Men love to grapple with the enemy, and so the game is on, after all, little ole lowly me is easy pickens, no? Gents gotta be victorious. I get that, and OK.
I am no better than anyone here, but no one here is better than I am either. I am very protective of the other ladies, and even sometimes when they could care less. Holy cow, why should they care, when they can clearly see how the gents who seek what they peddle actually feel about them as people.
Just think about what you share and how it might sound to women who are taking a regular beat down on this board by men who are not as concerned as you are. Seriously, it's not all that cool to indicate that a reputable provider might need to be tested, silly fella. It's not like you'll show up and puke your guts out if you schedule an hour with someone who is not Miss America. Miss America ain't got jack diddly on sexiness and the ability to please a man as some of us do, ijs.
Be willing to step out of your box and take a chance, just as we do every single time we make an appointment. You never know where the actual real prize is. Some of these women are just the most awesome individuals, and you will never know if you run around test tasting and telling the whole world you are picky. We are pretty picky too. At least some of us are.
Oh, and if ya wanna know how to do anything, ask a reputable lady, not a guy who has indicated we are all out to get ya. We are all in fact, different and most of us actually like most of you.
Again, I apologize for using your thread, but hope some guys now understand a little better what it is they might be aware of. If not, that's cool too. Make an appointment and I'll see if I can explain it better using a little body language....