Looking for some advice from the season hobbist on getting emotional involved with a provider

I found the providers became very emotionally attached to my wallet. I am sure they would be fine it I dropped it off for an hour OF BCD and picked it up later

IS she still charging you?


If so, it ain't love. It's a job man.

So I have been seeing this provider since last month. She took my breath away the first time I see her and the service she provided to me was all that I wanted. Since our first session, I've seen her a total of 5 other times. We exchanged numbers and we texted each other a few times a week. During our 2nd session, I kinda letting her know that she's really resemblence a girl that I wanted to date and when she decided to be done with this job, hit me up and see if it works out for us. She laughed at it but I told her I'm serious. She smiled and gave me a kiss and then we moved to other topics. Since that day, every time I had a session with her the activities get much better. I can feel more passion in the activities (I understand that this is probably just me imagining it or she just giving me a big IOP as she knows that I'm now her regular). However, with all that said I just cannot stop feeling the emotion I have for her every time I see her. She also give me small gifts at the end of our session

She is on vacation now and we still text each other about twice a week. I guess my question is should I continue go see her when she is back from vacation? I love the activities as she kinda spoiled the experience for me. Other providers just cannot match. I just need to get my emotion in check so if you have any advice or were in the same situation, please share

Edit: I have only been in this hobby for around 6 months Originally Posted by TDiesel92

Don't. Period.

Everyone in the hobby is damaged goods. One near-psycho wreck committing to another one is adding gasoline to a fire.

In the 20 years or so on ASPD and ECCIE I can't begin to count the train wrecks but do not recall any "happily ever after" stories.

I'm probably wasting time and electrons warning you, but at least I tried. Originally Posted by mtabsw

I wouldn't use that term too loosely. By damaged goods do you mean each person has experienced trauma in the past? Or are you saying each person has an addiction / substance abuse problem or psychiatric disorder? In some cases you'd never be able to tell.



I would never use a term like that so broadly for every single person who has ever been on either side of sex in exchange for money. Unless you just think that applies to the whole human populace.

Don’t do it. I did it.

So I have been seeing this provider since last month. She took my breath away the first time I see her and the service she provided to me was all that I wanted. Since our first session, I've seen her a total of 5 other times. We exchanged numbers and we texted each other a few times a week. During our 2nd session, I kinda letting her know that she's really resemblence a girl that I wanted to date and when she decided to be done with this job, hit me up and see if it works out for us. She laughed at it but I told her I'm serious. She smiled and gave me a kiss and then we moved to other topics. Since that day, every time I had a session with her the activities get much better. I can feel more passion in the activities (I understand that this is probably just me imagining it or she just giving me a big IOP as she knows that I'm now her regular). However, with all that said I just cannot stop feeling the emotion I have for her every time I see her. She also give me small gifts at the end of our session

She is on vacation now and we still text each other about twice a week. I guess my question is should I continue go see her when she is back from vacation? I love the activities as she kinda spoiled the experience for me. Other providers just cannot match. I just need to get my emotion in check so if you have any advice or were in the same situation, please share

Edit: I have only been in this hobby for around 6 months Originally Posted by TDiesel92

I just read your encounters. It seems you have written about exclusively K-girls at studios. If that is the fact, you're starting to have emotions for someone who has sex with 5-10 different people a day. Just brew on that. I get it lines can be blurred and this was meant to be written as non-confrontationally as possible.

I have been around SWers, (strippers, escorts, etc) for 48 years. I have met thousands of women during that time. I have made friends with some. Good friends even. Some for years.

I have one good club friend dancer i have known for 7 years. We talk about everything and really enjoy each others company. In the club. But we have never met OTC except to fuck. Which we have been doing a couple of times a month for 7 years. We care about each other and like each other alot. But that's all it will ever be.

One took me for a lot of money because I was "in love"with her and kept throwing money at her to get her to date me. Never happened .

I have dated 4 women I met through the industry. 3 ended badly. I am still good friends with one after over 4 years though we only hook up maybe 3-4 times a year now.

Do the math. It's possible, but almost 0 chance of it ending up the way you want. Don't do it. It will cost you a lot of money you will regret later and could mess up your life. Walk away now. Block her number and delete it. Do everyone can to never see her again. It will hurt and I have sympathy for you. We are all human after all.

diesel, i dont heven have to read what the others have posted before i comment.

you wrote...
"So I have been seeing this provider since last month. She took my breath away the first time I see her and the service she provided to me was all that I wanted. Since our first session, I've seen her a total of 5 other times. We exchanged numbers and we texted each other a few times a week. During our 2nd session, I kinda letting her know that she's really resemblence a girl that I wanted to date and when she decided to be done with this job, hit me up and see if it works out for us ..."

only one month and you are emotionally involved w/ a provider?
and to top it off, she resembles someone you never dated?

DUDE, STOP NOW!
while the probability of you two getting more than emotionally involved is >zero, it's so low that there are dark clouds and more down the road.

over 20+ yrs watching this crazy sub-culture, i can count on ONE hand the number of client/provider relationships that have lasted more than a few months, much less year.


step back, look at your REAL life and decide whether jumping any deeper into this "relationship" is a good long-term decision.

When a whoker starts letting you go raw for free. Ask yourself what does she want/need?
whokers are incapable of having any real relationships. Thats why they do what they do.

OP, who is the provider? I’ll go see her and see if I fall in love too, We are beating a dead horse at this point but the likelihood that this ends well for you is almost zero. Enjoy this for what it is, a break from reality and nothing more.

So I have been seeing this provider since last month....I have only been in this hobby for around 6 months Originally Posted by TDiesel92

C'mon, Man give us an update...has true loved bloomed?

She is selling you IOR (Illusion of a Relationship) because she figured out quickly (and easily) that's what you want. It's a game, and it's fun to play. But remember it's still just a game.

Never cross the Real World and Hobby World streams. It will end badly. You are not the exception.

Report back.

OP, who is the provider? I’ll go see her and see if I fall in love too, We are beating a dead horse at this point but the likelihood that this ends well for you is almost zero. Enjoy this for what it is, a break from reality and nothing more. Originally Posted by Mr. Rogers

Yeah Diesel, if you want to know for sure, pay for a session for another hobbyist...and you'll find out if it's real or fake

Double post

Don’t get involved with a hooker.
99.99% of the time it is just a way to scam money out of you. Keep it fun and professional. And never share personal info

That said. There’s one hobbyist who married not one but two hookers. He’s been cuckolded by the second one for almost ten years and she’s still providing