Like Hotlips, I definitely have always dated the WRONG men! It gets old being the initiater all of the time & half of the time it's over in less than 5mins.
Originally Posted by ItalianaPrincess
5 minutes, either you're so hot they can't last any longer, and/or they're too young or selfish, lol.
The coolest thing an SO ever did was let me talk her into trying out swinging. She was a very good girl, kind of shy, and cute as a button, and I had to beg and plead for a long time until she finally agreed. One day when I'd just about given-up on it ever happening she called me at work and said "I have a present for you when you get home". Well I couldn't wait to get home and find out what it was. I walked in and she said "Have a seat so we can talk". I thought I was about to get some bad news, but she said "You know that swinging thing you've been wanting me to do". I said "Yeah". She said "I really don't want to do it, it goes against everything I was raised to believe that's good and decent, but if that's what you truly want, I love you enough that I will...that's my present to you".
I think the second she told me that I was so happy I got an instant woody, lol.
I ended-up enjoying watching her be with other girls and guys so much I quickly stopped being any sort of active participant during those encounters, and would just watch her. I can't even explain how much it would turn me on. Something about it intensified my desire for her, and I couldn't wait to get her alone and tear it up after watching her pleasure someone. Getting to see that is one of the only things I've found that was able to make me have multiple pops per day. I miss that. The thing that surprised me the most, us doing that never created any problems between us, it actually made things better, and is the only time I can recall being 100% faithful in a relationship.