Gents. How forgiving are you?

Very simple. The demarcation line is when I drive to the incall location (or general area) and the provider fails to answer my call. If I did not even attempt the commute (may be cause I never got the directions), then no harm/no foul. I wasted neither time nor gas driving towards the edge of the metroplex.

I have only had to bad experiences with tis so I really cant say much. My reaction was unforgiving because neither provider made an attempt to apologize for their actions, which cost me a half day vacation ...ect ect.

Agree with a lot of the advice and what Kayla said makes alot of sense. Make an effort, if you can not reach each individual, do it publicly, but make an effort. Most of us understand stuff happens.

I would chime into this to say that, well, I agree with most everyone here! (yes - I am Captian Obvious). Sure, stuff happens, once or twice. Call/Text/Email/PM and apologize and there's even no need to explain in detail I think. Everyone has a personal life and should be entitled to it. But more than a couple times then I think that either way, if a provider failed to show/contact or if a client failed to show or contact the provider, then each side should be able to write the other one off with no hard feelings.

IMHO

In the Big Picture: Not a question of forgiveness.

In many cases we decide on a playtime. We then chose a Provider. We call, text , PM , email or whatever some time before the planned playtime.

If there is no response we chose another provider and try to contact her.
This cuts into the time we have allowed for response.

And so on until we are in a short notice situation.

And soooo... the next time it is an natural inclination not to call , text , email , PM that person who has not even responded from two weeks ago.

Why waste your time?

I put a lot of thought into who I want to see next as I am a low-volume type of guy, so I'll follow-up with another email or phone call, but after that her name comes of the list. Unfortunately there are some Providers who consistently run late, never show up, claim the email got lost, etc, etc, etc. It's that group that I try to avoid.

Ok, for the record, I've never set an appointment and then just not answered my phone when he arrived. That's just rude (unless, of course, there is a very good reason.)

I was referring more to the initial emails, calls, PMs. Especially if they don't have P411 and I have to do a ton of research on their references. It takes a while, the process usually gets interrupted, and sometimes I completely forget about it after that until I finally go through my inbox or whatever and see the email again. That always leaves me feeling bad that I left someone hanging.

Once we've actually scheduled, I'm not likely to forget about you. I have had to cancel on occasion, but not forgotten.

By the way, thank you for the compliments on my new pictures. I like them.

And Saturn, you're a gem.

Anything can happen, and has. My litmus is that if I detect even the slightest hint of drama or dishonesty, I'm outta there...and I ain't coming back. Too many great ladies on this board.

My question is: When a provider drops the ball (forgets to email you back, call you back, etc.) how forgiving are you? Do you try to contact her again or write her off? If she realizes her mistake a week later and sends you an apology and an invitation to try again, will you accept? Originally Posted by tracibrooks

Answers, in order:

I'm pretty forgiving. It's a hobby for me, a business for you. I'm not the one losing money over it.

No, I assume you aren't interested for whatever reason. Trying to contact a girl again who didn't display an interest the first time seems vaguely stalker-ish to me. (If it's a missed appointment we're talking about, I will check up and make sure you're ok. If I don't get an answer I'll let the matter drop).

Yes, in fact that kind of reaching out is unusual and deserves consideration. Of course, if you miss an appointment as opposed to just not responding to an introductory email, you better sweeten the pot if I'm going to take that kind of chance again.

I was referring more to the initial emails, calls, PMs. Originally Posted by tracibrooks

Yes, I understood your question. Because that is so far away from the line I described, there is nothing to forgive. I may send a subsequent P411 email. I would assume lack of response means lack of willingness to see me, so I would not try again or wait several months before another attempt.

Depends on when I'm looking to play, same day appointment I just move to the next on my list. If its a few days in the future I will call a 2nd and maybe a 3rd time.

NCNS I will probably not attempt to meet with you again period, and if I do it will be months down the line unless you contact me giving a significant incentive to give you another chance.

I typically schedule 3 days out then give a courtesy call or email reminder to confirm the night before. If she cancels then I might call them again. Confirm an appt then pull a NCNS will get someone put on the ignore list real quick.

If it's someone I would really like to see I will try a couple of times because I understand that shit happens. If after a couple of times I still do not get a response I assume she is not interested and move on.