I was a Sugar Baby once. It definitely lead me to escorting. Being a Sugar Baby is soooo very draining. You have to sell more of yourself for less money. You have to be a friend and a lover to someone you are only with because of $$$$. Where with escorting we are on a time schedule, and once were done were done- no expectation of closeness..
To answer your question, the mans wife found out he was shacking up with me in his penthouse. So in respect to his wife, he had to end things with me.....
I continued my search for another Sugar Daddy. They all want to meet for dinner to interview you. Ok no problem. I interviewed alot of men. Going to dinner is fine with me. But......
Most SD seekers want to test the milk before they buy the cow. I never allowed this except once, because there are too many scammers out there who try to take advantage of a woman in need. Scum/filth! How low. So the one time I allowed the dude to test the milk I ended up a BIG SUCKER!! What did I get for my efforts?? A couple of drinks? He slept with me and I left to go home. He emailed me the next day to say he decided to go with another girl who he had more chemistry with. So do you see how I felt used??
After that happened, I decided this sugar baby thing is for the birds. I might as well dip both my feet in and charge PER HOUR. I wanted to avoid full blown escorting, but the entire SB/SD thing is a very difficult thing to work out. You see, what I found is that these men who took me to dinner for the interview, well they would say I will give you X amount of money to home home with me tonight for XXX Fun. So I figured, well OK, if were going to have this beneficial relationship then I'm going to eventually be intimate anyways. So I would go home with the man, do it, get paid, then leave.
The next day the man would say he liked me but he decided he's not looking for any type of relationship. When he gets horny again he will call me. So I had a few guys who called me when they were horny and I would meet them, get paid and go home. I WAS NOT being paid for the hour. He would pay me 200 and I would stay like 4 hours....
Eventually, I started to look up escorting ads. I saw the women were charging ATLEAST 200 per hour, if not more. Then I figured, what the hell am I doing?? I'm already getting paid for XXX. I might as well nix this SD/SB "relationship" and start charging by the hour.....and I did. Escorting in itself can also be draining. I do get burnt out. BUT it's waaaaay more lucrative than SB/SD and less of a headache. I feel, eventually all sugar babies will want to move on to more money. Most will turn into escorting. Unless they finish college and get a great job before then, or fall in love.
Scammers deliberately seek out SB seekers for free pussss um, I mean free milk. Sugar Babies are not escorts. They are usually less nieve and less street smart. Scammers are rampant in the beneficial relationship world.
Originally Posted by incognito isis
I agree 100% with what Hannah is saying. As stated above, all the men I met were either scammers, OR just looking for a lil fun on the side. I engaged in the ones seeking a lil fun, because they were in fact, willing to open their wallets. I don't think me seeking out a SD makes me a user. I was honest with my financial needs and expectations. The losers trolling the SB/SD boards are not. They are freebie fishers. Scammers. Losers trying to take advantage of a girl in need. I mean, to me that is the lowest of the low: taking advantage of a woman already in a bad place. Stealing or manipulating a woman seeking help.
And yes, I do feel scammed by the one man who I slept with and then he told me he decided to go with someone else. I was nieve and less street smart. I thought he only wanted to sleep with me because he was genuinely interested in a beneficial relationship. Wrong. He was a scammer from the get go. Trolling the SB/SD sites seeking out girls in need.
Those Sugar Daddy sites are fluff. You have scammer low lives trolling them. Even the men with money on there, they know what their doing. They know the girls are desperate so they use their status to get free milk from the cow.....any man who tries to manipulate or take from a woman seeking assistence is the lowest of the low.
PLUS all the sugar daddy wannabees are seeking BBFS. I think they want NSA sex but are too cheap to pay an escort, plus more bare back options. THERE SHOULD BE NO FREE AUDITIONS IN SUGAR DADDY WORLD. Equally so, there shouldn't be tons of money spent on a lady unless you know she is the "one" for you. But unless your a scammer, you should be offereing to pay for those auditions.
There is another poster here, I won't say who he is because I don't know if thats allowed. (I'm still new here). Anyway, he wrote this big essay about being a sugar daddy. He bragged about meeting all these women for lunch, and then they would "blow him in the car in the parking lot." He went on to say you can get tons of free sex off the sugar baby sites because the women are desperate. He was giving the hobbyists here ideas. I'm sure they are all going to follow his advice too.
It made me sick to read his big proud essay. But can you imagine how all those women feel? I mean the ones who blew him for free? Here they are meeting this dude thinking it might be their saving grace all the while he has a hard on and thats all he's thinking about. He's not thinking about their needs or problems or kids. Then they blow him for free, which is a testament to their desperation, right, and then they never hear from him. So they go home empty handed AND feeling like shit. As if they didn't feel like shit to begin with. They feel like shit, thats why they're on the sugar daddy site trying to get someone to HELP them.
