What is this feeling?

If a guy has a really nice experience with a provider but can't stop thinking about it or her and it kind of feels like a "crush;" is this a thing that happens sometimes, or only to week minded guys?

Dunno, maybe it would be better to start drinking again? Originally Posted by buzzworm86

This is normal & sounds like you had a "connection" & a good time, nothing wrong with that, just don't let it go to far to where it starts consuming you.
Remember its suppose to all about fun and that's it
If you feel its gone to far, jump ship fast!!
Good luck Buzz

Buzz, I hope you know I was not trying to be facetious when posting that link...it's just a song that confirms certain things. In talking with you privately, you should know better.

Buzz, I hope you know I was not trying to be facetious when posting that link...it's just a song that confirms certain things. In talking with you privately, you should know better. Originally Posted by London Rayne

I know, and thanks and sorry, for Im hypersensitive sometimes. The bigger the man the bigger the baby.

Run and run again, hard and fast. Nothing good will come your feeling...........

Run and run again, hard and fast. Nothing good will come your feeling........... Originally Posted by ltpwhl

exactly Itpwhl, nothing good will come from this


Run Forest RUN!!!

I believe that trying to take that feeling to far is a bad idea but I would never regret having fond or caring feelings about a sweetheart that spent her time making me feel special. If I don't get that feeling it is unlikely I would have a repeat visit with that provider.

I met a client on ASPD and he started out with I guess what you would call a crush..he faithfuly met me for a 2hr session every Friday evening for a yr then he wanted to be seen with me and had weekly dinnerdates then he wanted all nighters then he cried and asked me to quit the bizz and marry him I just didn't know what to say to the poor guy..I just wasn't in love like he was .. why did our circumstances have to change..I mean he was a sweet guy and gave me everything I could ever want but I made sure I never led him to belive I was in live with him I thoght I was just doing my job as a GFE...after 2yrs passed he became obbsessed and was always sitting down the street from my house waiting for me to come out so he could see me and he would get angry about me seeing other men or not answering every time he call (all day) I finally told him I couldn't see him anymore and he freaked and went into a depression so a month goes by and I havnt spoke to him but spotted him watching me several times...so he decided what he was going to do to get me back...he managed to get ahold of my mothers phone number called her introduced himself and poured out everything from aspd to now boy was she furious about knowing my secret life..and still to this day he and my mother talk and he snitches on me to her about every little thing I do and they discuss my life and give their opinions which I don't care to hear...I no longer speak to him after almost 4 yrs and I rarely speak to my mother

All this to say be careful with a crush in this bizz your bound to get hurt and exposes many secrets
I really would like to know if a hobbiest and provider have actually fell in love and stayed together I mean is that possible?

Alright, I'll confess but I'll be vague. I once dated a client. He said he doesn't hobby when he is in a relationship and that he would expect the same from me. So that lasted about 2 months cause I still wanted to be hooker. He gave me the ultimatum and I chose hooking. I actually respected him MORE for not wanting to be with me while I was in this hobby. So yes, I did "cross that line" once.

I use to have those feelings after a date/session. However of late, I tend to pre-live the date and have wildly high levels of anticipation. This leads to creating a high level of expectations for the upcoming date. In other words, my euphoria is now happening before the date. On my last encounter, I really set the bar high. When the date happened, things did not go as anticipated or expected. Hell, 1/2 way through the date, I was already having "buyer's remorse" and trying to think of a way to get out of their as quickly as possible. I chalk this up to my penchant for wanting to plan a perfect date/appt. Maybe there is something to be said for spontaneity and just picking a provider on the spur of the moment for some fun. I guess I'm getting a bit jaded. Originally Posted by Cpalmson

I know what you are saying. I had an experience with one girl that I have been trying to duplicate with her ever since, and I can't seem to get there. I had lunch today with a woman who can take me there, and that is not an easy task.

If I stuck with one provider I would have the risk of becoming too attached. I know myself enough to know that. That is why I will never see one provider exclusively. Seeing a small number of providers should allow me the ability to create the connection I want but without the ability to focus it on one person.

Now if I can find a way to get multiple hot young women to fall for an overweight old fart I will be in trouble. Until then I think I and the providers I see will be safe.

It means she made you FEEL like a man, beyond that of just sex. And you enjoyed that feeling she left you with.
If a woman doesn't leave you *thinking* about her. Then frankly you didn't truly enjoy *her*. In your case, it seems you did indeed, enjoy the *woman* and it's left you smiling inside and feeling pretty damn good.

So enjoy it! No need to drink that feeling away.

If a guy has a really nice experience with a provider but can't stop thinking about it or her and it kind of feels like a "crush;" is this a thing that happens sometimes, or only to week minded guys?

Dunno, maybe it would be better to start drinking again? Originally Posted by buzzworm86

If I stuck with one provider I would have the risk of becoming too attached. I know myself enough to know that. That is why I will never see one provider exclusively. Seeing a small number of providers should allow me the ability to create the connection I want but without the ability to focus it on one person.

Now if I can find a way to get multiple hot young women to fall for an overweight old fart I will be in trouble. Until then I think I and the providers I see will be safe. Originally Posted by Laz

It means she made you FEEL like a man, beyond that of just sex. And you enjoyed that feeling she left you with.
If a woman doesn't leave you *thinking* about her. Then frankly you didn't truly enjoy *her*. In your case, it seems you did indeed, enjoy the *woman* and it's left you smiling inside and feeling pretty damn good.

So enjoy it! No need to drink that feeling away. Originally Posted by Wicked Milf

put the two posts together and that works for me. I find 3 that I keep repeating works for me. The strange part, is after many years of the same three, each time I see one, she asks about how the other two are doing.

And I am a over weight old fart. In my mid 50's. The three are in there 40's. I have a hard time with any gal under 30.

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Originally Posted by buzzworm86
If a guy has a really nice experience with a provider but can't stop thinking about it or her and it kind of feels like a "crush;" is this a thing that happens sometimes, or only to week minded guys?

Dunno, maybe it would be better to start drinking again?



People look for different qualities in seeking a companion Buzz. What drew your attention to her in the first place? What was it you read in a post, past review, pictures, ect that made you want to meet her? What was your vision or your expectations of your time together?

If you are like me than you more than likely found exactly the type of woman you desired for the journey you had in mind with this encounter. Don’t really think of it as a crush, you were with a companion who created a memory for you that is yours to keep and it was perfect in your mind. Mission accomplished great decision on your part for finding a true companion.. Just realize that even if you see her again in the future it will be very hard to recreate that same experience and you really don’t want to lose or distort that memory you have created with her. If you see her again add things and try different things that will not take away from the first memory and let you be able to create a second one.

If you can control your thinking of it then don’t stop thinking about your experiance, remember the memory. I love my memories! (Not crushes) And I do share my thoughts with my new found companion and play friend. Be careful not to cross the line in explaining how much you enjoyed your time together. Nothing wrong with being flirty, respectful, kind and considerate. Don’t be pushy mention crush or the “L” word. Tell her what you enjoyed, what you can’t stop thinking about. Tell her you are grateful for having the opportunity and hope to have the opportunity again someday. Nothing wrong with treating her like a woman instead of a provider.

A couple days ago I also created a memory myself. It was with an Angel who was the perfect definition of a woman. I hope she knows that, I sure did my best to let her know that she was when I thanked her for the opportunity.
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Alright, I'll confess but I'll be vague. I once dated a client. He said he doesn't hobby when he is in a relationship and that he would expect the same from me. So that lasted about 2 months cause I still wanted to be hooker. He gave me the ultimatum and I chose hooking. I actually respected him MORE for not wanting to be with me while I was in this hobby. So yes, I did "cross that line" once. Originally Posted by Shayla

I can relate. Been there, done that, got the tshirt. Not interested in dating a hobbyist after these past few days. No further comment.

I met a client on ASPD and he started out with I guess what you would call a crush..he faithfuly met me for a 2hr session every Friday evening for a yr then he wanted to be seen with me and had weekly dinnerdates then he wanted all nighters then he cried and asked me to quit the bizz and marry him I just didn't know what to say to the poor guy..I just wasn't in love like he was .. why did our circumstances have to change..I mean he was a sweet guy and gave me everything I could ever want but I made sure I never led him to belive I was in live with him I thoght I was just doing my job as a GFE...after 2yrs passed he became obbsessed and was always sitting down the street from my house waiting for me to come out so he could see me and he would get angry about me seeing other men or not answering every time he call (all day) I finally told him I couldn't see him anymore and he freaked and went into a depression so a month goes by and I havnt spoke to him but spotted him watching me several times...so he decided what he was going to do to get me back...he managed to get ahold of my mothers phone number called her introduced himself and poured out everything from aspd to now boy was she furious about knowing my secret life..and still to this day he and my mother talk and he snitches on me to her about every little thing I do and they discuss my life and give their opinions which I don't care to hear...I no longer speak to him after almost 4 yrs and I rarely speak to my mother

All this to say be careful with a crush in this bizz your bound to get hurt and exposes many secrets
I really would like to know if a hobbiest and provider have actually fell in love and stayed together I mean is that possible? Originally Posted by Kandy Kelly

Although your story is certainly extreme, and probably stems from the fact your client had very few if any relationships with women in his formative years. I think a connection can be made between a client and an escort. When that does happen, if the feelings between the two are indeed sincere, some adjustments and sacrafices simply have to be made for the relationship to go to the next level. In your case it's quite wise to nip it in the bud when the feelings aren't mutual. What I regret hearing and sure you agree. Is the fact this maladjusted twit finds your mother's phone number, and tells her things about you, you never intended to tell her. If this persists or occurs again in the future. What the hell, find a Strong Arm and have your stalker tuned up if ya know what I mean. You don't need the aggrevation.