Or, we could just wash our smelly asses before an appointment to avoid this problem altogether. Honestly, I am not usually comfortable showering at the provider's location for a number of reasons involving security, but if a provider requires it, I can make that decision beforehand. I am a long showerer by nature. I can't stand being smelly in any way in any area, so 10 or 15 minutes won't cut it for me. I need to make sure all cracks and crevices are clean. So, why not go home, shower, and set your appointment for an hour later, or choose a provider who includes a shower as part of the visit. I, for one, prefer a shower before.
It's not always easy or convenient to leave work, run home, get washed up, then head out for our time together. I mean, first of all, I don't know about everybody else, but it can take me an hour or more in traffic to get home. If I've got easy access to a shower that I can hop in and out of before an appt, great! That's what I'll do! If not, then yeah, I'd rather just use the provider's.
I don't think most guys that want a shower at a provider's incall are doing it to rob the provider of time or anything. And if somebody is egregious about making the provider wait, I totally get wanting to be compensated. You can't take a 15 minute shower, so yeah...you probably don't need to expect to be accommodated. I just need to freshen up from my morning shower.
But if my taking 5 minutes to rinse off is going to start the countdown, you're probably not a provider I wanted to see. I don't need a shot clock, we're not playing basketball. I don't expect free time, but I also don't get upset if we finish 5 minutes early. Nor do I expect to get $20 back if that's what's happened. I don't think that expecting the same courtesy to be provided to me is too much to ask, especially when it's just due to me wanting to be a little more clean!
It's any provider's prerogative to charge for whatever time and services that they want to. But I personally will avoid the ladies that have expressed this opinion. No biggy, we just don't see eye to eye.
My $0.02.