Dating an escort?

My recent ex-girlfriend of two years (who I have seen twice since the breakup) was an exotic dancer until a few years before I met her. While the "stripper mentality" and personality are still evident in some ways, her personality overall is a rich tapestry, of which that experience of her life is only part.

I did not know her past when I met her, and she waited a month or so to tell me. She was/is appreciative that I was/is not judgemental towards her. So I returned the favor by telling about my hobbying, lol! What was really interesting was learning the process by which she left the biz.

At the time, I had recently spent some time at exotic dance clubs just talking to girls without buying anything inching towards perhaps going out with some non p4p, and then my now-ex girlfriend showed up in a completely different area of my life. She is the only ex-provider that I have gone out with non-p4p (as far as I know, lol!).

So, I think if Frizzo really wants to meet an escort to be a girlfriend, he will attract that into his life.

Also, may I suggest to Frizzo that a girl who was formerly a escort but has since changed careers might be even better as a girlfriend.

as they say be careful what you wish for it may come true !

For one thing - HONESTY! If your woman can come home and tell her man all about the 12 guys she slept with that day, then you know you can trust her. What possible secrets could/would she keep? And to be honest, it does kind of turn me on. But I'm also very good at and enjoy the "boyfriend" type of things (cooking, flowers, cuddling, etc) and providers APPRECIATE them in a way that other women do not. There are many reasons why. It is just what I know will make me happy. Originally Posted by frizzo

Then why don't you log onto meet-an-inmate.com, there you can hand pick who you want to meet.....send her letter after letter. Inmates love mailtime! You can open up each letter by telling her how great she is and what a wonderful life she's gonna have when she gets out[pie in the sky stuff].......Inmate Juliette, will eventually open up and tell you all her little secrets....you can do the same. This relationship will be based on potential love, trust and honesty.....Everything your looking for.....You can tell her how much you love her....what your gonna do to her when she gets out.....Sex won't be a distraction since Inmate Juliet will be locked up.....and, you can be as faithful as you want.

I'd be willing to bet that my inmate scenario has a better chance of actually making it than yours....the attrition rate of a civilian and a hooker making it in a long term relationship is extremely high.

How do you spell frizzo?
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For one thing - HONESTY! If your woman can come home and tell her man all about the 12 guys she slept with that day, then you know you can trust her. What possible secrets could/would she keep? And to be honest, it does kind of turn me on. But I'm also very good at and enjoy the "boyfriend" type of things (cooking, flowers, cuddling, etc) and providers APPRECIATE them in a way that other women do not. There are many reasons why. It is just what I know will make me happy. Originally Posted by frizzo

Ooohhhh, you want storytime. Let me make a couple of suggestions.
1) Subscribe to Penthouse Letters
2) Start hobbying and develop a LTR HOBBY relationship with a lady. I've heard stories that curl my toes at times.


If you are looking for love, try match.com, e-harmony.com, xxxcupid.com if you want nasty love (and enough web-bots to drive you nutz). But, looking for love on an SHMB is NEVER recommended. Most guys that do end up with their heart shattered at their feet, or break the lady's heart when the first huge argument comes up by throwing the fact they made a living as an escort in their face.

Do the bright thing, hobby or don't hobby, but don't piss on my shoes and tell me it's raining, I'm not that stupid. Neither are the girls.



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I would never just date a guy because he wanted to be with an "escort." That pretty much suggests that he is not looking for an individual, but something superficial.

In fact, I believe in being faithful so I would never even date a man period while doing this, but that's just me. I am not into the open relationship thing, and could never be with any man who would allow me to do this. He would either pay for me to get through school, or find someone else. It would kill me to be with other men if I were in love with someone 100 percent. I would likely start crying in the middle of a bj lol, and who wants that?

I am a one heart is all I can hold kind of gal, which is why I am alone for the time being. When I fall in love, this business will be long over with.

In fact, I believe in being faithful so I would never even date a man period while doing this, but that's just me. I am not into the open relationship thing, and could never be with any man who would allow me to do this. He would either pay for me to get through school, or find someone else. It would kill me to be with other men if I were in love with someone 100 percent. I would likely start crying in the middle of a bj lol, and who wants that?
Originally Posted by London Rayne

London i think i just fell in love with you! You are a real truly good character! And i love your for being like that! I am open relationship person, but i think if i were monogamous, i were like you! I always wondered how you can be monogamous AND doing this job :-). Plus i truly think a guy who lets you do this job after entering a relationship - a monogamous that is - is a bit strange so to speak. The lovers i had always paid me for quitting that job, because they do not want someone like that as a GF. My 7 year SD relationship was like that. He said he does not want me to resort to that source of income and asked me how much money i make and then paid me more than that. And i am still really really good friends w ith that person. He taught me a lot.

I am in the minority in those beliefs for sure, but I don't care. I still believe in true love and I feel I deserve a man who will not want to share me with anyone...woman or man. I have never cheated on anyone in my life...I prefer to walk away or work it out.

I could never do this and have a SO (in love ) as well, just how i am. Im in no relationship mode while i do this. (except for playtoys

I would likely start crying in the middle of a bj lol, and who wants that? Originally Posted by London Rayne

Tears and snot make pretty good lube, or so I hear...


JK, I'm right there with you.
I could never love someone and share them, just not in my DNA.

WOW a guy from Texas said that....hmmm I am getting more impressed evey day.

Tears and snot make pretty good lube, or so I hear...


JK, I'm right there with you.
I could never love someone and share them, just not in my DNA. Originally Posted by riday

ah you are mean.-....:-)

I am in the minority in those beliefs for sure, but I don't care. I still believe in true love and I feel I deserve a man who will not want to share me with anyone...woman or man. I have never cheated on anyone in my life...I prefer to walk away or work it out. Originally Posted by London Rayne

neither did i - polyamory also includes honesty. i could never cheat or lie or use creative lies of omission.. (dont ask dont tell classify as that)..

For one thing - HONESTY! If your woman can come home and tell her man all about the 12 guys she slept with that day, then you know you can trust her. What possible secrets could/would she keep? Originally Posted by frizzo

Really? Honesty in one area doesn't always equate to honesty in other areas, particularly if you've told her that X doesn't bother you, but she suspects Y does. Might tell you all about fucking those 12 guys but try to hide, say, her spending habits.

But I'm also very good at and enjoy the "boyfriend" type of things (cooking, flowers, cuddling, etc) and providers APPRECIATE them in a way that other women do not. Originally Posted by frizzo

I suspect most ladies, whether they're escorts or not, appreciate that sort of thing quite a bit. Escorts appreciate them because their clients don't provide that? But a wive who is an accountant probably isn't getting that sort of thing from the people with whom she works either. Are escorts deficient in self-worth, or have other personality problems, such that as a class they are more likely to need that? Is this some sort of "rescue a wounded dove" thing?

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But this is the interesting part:

And to be honest, it does kind of turn me on. Originally Posted by frizzo

A lot of guys say they couldn't be in a serious relationship with a working escort because it would bother them to know that she was fucking other men. Call 'em Group A. A lot of guys say that they could, because they realize that it's just her job and doesn't threaten the integrity of the relationship. Call 'em Group B.

Some women are not comfortable with the A perspective, because they look at the question from a B perspective. (Particularly if the guy wants them to quit working but doesn't offer financial support.) They'll date or even marry someone while continuing to work. And some women are not comfortable with the B perspective, because they look at the question from an A perspective. They feel uncomfortable with being in a serious civilian relationship while they're working as an escort. I've seen many examples of both. Different strokes for different folks.

But I've seen very few guys suggest that they not only could accept but actually would prefer being in a serious relationship with a woman who was fucking other men for a living. That sounds like it goes beyond an open relationship into almost a cuckold relationship. The latter certainly is not unknown, and someone in that category would probably want her to tell him about the 12 (12?) guys she fucked that day.

I'm really curious what the ladies' reactions would be to some guy who wants to have a relationship with them for that specific reason.

Uhmmm. I'd advise against it. Unless your 100% detached from your emotions. In that case, why would she want you? Just sayin'....myeh.